Dreaded holidays and the people you just wish wouldn't come.

Some mothers just dont know when to cut the apron strings and I understand where you are coming from cause I have one of those. She drives me nuts always e mailing my hubby asking him if he is ok? as if i wouldnt tell her if he wasnt? We lived in an apartment above her for awhile after we got married and when I had my fill of her we moved out of state, of course it was all my doing lol. She is forever trying to tell us how we should do things and when we should do them, I try my best to ignore her and just carry on, sometimes it bothers my hubby more than it dose me.

I have only ever had 1 "run in" with my inlaws. Our oldest son was having his first b-day and they were trying to take over. I had plans made and a menu planned and everything. Well, first they started changing things - little things and I had no problem with that as I'm pretty flexible - but it seemed the more I let get changed the more got changed till it was no longer the party I had planned. So I walked away and just left them to it - then I heard complaints that it was my son's party and I wasn't doing a thing. I let my hubby (who was not yet my hubby) know that I would never try to interfere and make him choose between me and his family, but he needed to intervene. I told him all that was happening. He got more involved in everything and watched what was going on. He saw I was telling the truth and so he took matters into his own hands. He fixed the issues at hand and let his family know that he and I and our kids were a family and he saw what they were trying to do and he was not having it. He pretty much blasted them and I have never had a problem with them since. So my advice to the daughters in law and even the sons in law ... let your spouse know what is going on the first time anything happens. Sons and daughters, watch and if you see your parents trying to "do a number" on your spouse, get in there and let them know you will NOT allow it and if they expect to keep a relationship with you and any grandkids, they better straighten up Quick! No spouse should have to put up with ill-mannered inlaws. Just my opinions!

Do you ever watch the show "Everybody Loves Raymond?" Sure sounds just like Marie Barone!! My fiance is a bit older (OK A LOT OLDER!) than I am. While his mother is still alive, she's old enough that she probably won't drive us nuts. I've not yet met her, but I'd like to.

Some mother in laws have to be the focus of attention at all times! And, of course, they are never wrong. I too used to hate all the days of importance, and every weekend as well, come to think of, because I knew we would have to see the inlaws. All that changed about 12 months ago when my wife decided to sever all ties with them. You don't know how great special occaisons are now, they are actually days I look forward to!

Will ,take your time, each person every minute of every day have to face different problems an have a good attictude is very important, bless you.