'Bridge Courting'...
By add_im
@add_im (2712)
Philippines
June 18, 2007 11:38pm CST
Do you bridge courting someone for the sake of a friend to please him/her or you don't want to get involved, not at all and just letting your friend do the work his/her own effort to win the person's heart?
Do you ever encounter such a matter ever since for your friend's sake? What lessons you've ever learned from such or what other possible consequences you may have to face in the long run, do you think you can handle it better well?
Please do share your opinions and thoughts. Thanks!
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9 responses
@zhannel (21)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Yes, Ive done that before, when I was at the age of 15..It was fun to do that..to make your friend happy, seeing her/his crushes reading letter..I was a letter messenger coming from my friend..i sent it to her crush...until such time Ive known that the crush of my closest friend got crush on me and not her..I was shook..But then our friendship end up there when she knows it..She never talk to me..at all!! IVe got no crush on her crush..but she still accuses me..And then time comes that we talk about it..I said to them that I didnt mean to let this things happen..And I never say yes to my friends crush just to make things better..
@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
That's really the hard thing there, when your friendship towards your friend will get affected it's because of such situation, like what you just experience from the past. Now, you know what it's like and I believe you know now better what to do best the next time you encounter the same situation, so better not for your friendship sake. :-)
@zhannel (21)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Yah!I know a lot of things to work out!..And I will never be in that case again..Im now thankful to God that I have met somone to lean on..a stable one..and im not worry also for our future coz, both of us has its stable job..a lot of things Ive learn from being a bridge..
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@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I am not sure what a bridge courter does.
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@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I have not done that recently. However, I did do that in high school.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
A bridge courter means to say that, someone has to tell a certain person about the feelings of one's friend towards the certain person which your friend cannot directly go the person she/he admired personally and speak the words with their ownselves, but needed your help instead to let the person know their feelings for them. :-)
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
23 Jun 07
i did it too, when i was in high school i have this friend who is inlove with my cousin and he asked me to help him. so i did many things for him to make my cousin notice him. and finally after 1 year my hard work has been paid off..the sad thing is i like the guy :(
its okay anyway.
@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
20 Jun 07
I have been a bridge and it was a successful one. All I did was to cheer for the guy to really pursue the girl and then he really did his best and got the yes from the girl. It also made me happy for i made two hearts happy and I just hope it would be a happy ever after story.
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@derek_a (10873)
•
19 Jun 07
I do not court these days LOL.. But I have gone out on several of what we call "blind dates". That was a friend of my friend's girlfriend that I had never met, for his sake. The dates never really led to much more so it was just like a get-together for a chat. My friends then either continued going out with their girlfriends without need me along to "chaperone" them :-)
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Good thing you're now married, because if not there may be lots of ladies their lined-up to win your heart LOL :-), and blind dates would probably cause it 100% because first met ever they may find you a nice guy and wanted to get to know you much well...and in the long run, you end up 'Mr. Perfect Guy' for them, in their own sights. :-)
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@casita (237)
• United States
19 Jun 07
I had no idea what you meant by bridge courting until I ready your previous responses! I have never, ever heard it described using those terms.
I was never introduced to anyone by that method. Nor have I ever introduced folks to each other.
Bridge Courting. . .hmm,. . .I guess we learn new words and phrases every day!
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
I have done it many times over the past and I found out that I am quite good at it. A lot of relationship just starts with someone as a bridge of 2 people. Whenever they get into trouble, I also get into trouble. I found that I quite enjoy doing it because I am nosy by nature and what more to utilize my nosiness than helping 2 people find each other's heart..hayyy!
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Wow! congratulations friend because of your nosiness and an expert one when it comes to this situation, you seem to bring two hearts together in one bond and together will be one in hearts. That's indeed a very strong character you have developed there in order to make oneself completely happy just doing such thing for the sake of your true friendship towards your friends. :-)
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
That was before when I was a teenager. Sometimes you are the bearer of the letters, the message and reach the point that you are the owner.
Instead of sending them the regards, the greeting then the guy will just say, I am beginning to like you and maybe it would be nice if you'll be my girl not her anymore...hehehe...a childish way...
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
That is so true, it happens most of the time to majority of the people around somewhere, everywhere so to speak. The feelings of someone will end up turning to the bridge courter, the more time he/she spent telling the feelings for the sake of a friend...sooner or later, the feelings will changed but instead in the long run you'll two end up being together, not longer your friend you're helping with, and that's part of life's reality and fact. :-)
