URGENT! Distressed relationship help needed! What if your sister in law
By saralee1
@saralee1 (1983)
United States
June 19, 2007 3:23am CST
told you that she was having an affair outside of the marriage to your brother, and treating him like garbage in front of their kids?
And, what if this other man, and your brother were friends?
2 responses
@mike2003 (287)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
If I was your brother, I'd really be very angry with you if i find that you knew all the time and never told me..What I'd do is first talk to my sister-in-law and if she still does it eventually tell my brother myself..The kids are the ones caught up in these and should be protected. The soonest the problem is solved, the better it will be for both parties.
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
19 Jun 07
So, what you are saying, is that I should get into the middle of the marriage and tick people off?
there are some things even I don't understand.
I love my brother dearly. I love his kids. I am friends with his wife. (to a point)
I have already learned how devastating it is first hand when it comes to telling someone in a marriage party that their spouse maybe cheating. I got the boot, and lost the friendships.
I have also been on the receiving end of a cheater, and have booted people away from me for telling the truth. Honestly, this is not an easy solution here. It always seems much easier in theory.
@us2owls (1681)
• United States
19 Jun 07
I think she wants your brother to know what she is doing and is using you to try and tell him. The poor kids are caught in the middle of her indescretions. If it was me I would talk to her and tell her she has a certain period of time - say one week - to tell your brother what is going on or you are going to tell him. I would however tell him right in front of her. Sounds to me like this woman is not a very nice person.
@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
19 Jun 07
He actually knows, to a point. She has told me that she had talked to him about an open relationship, and of course I think it is a bad idea. She is bouncing from one extreme to the other though. What is even worse, is that she told me that this Casanova is going to be visiting her for the next two weeks while I have her son. she didn't tell me that though, until I had already had her son, and her husband, my brother was already out of town for an assignment.
What she is doing is very bad though. She knows it. she is an adult. I have talked to her, to tell her how lucky she is, that my brother loves her so much, because he does. I don't think she cares at times though, when she is with "him". (the Casanova)
