Would you forgive?

@vonn1378 (706)
Philippines
June 19, 2007 3:51am CST
If someone hurt you so bad would you able to forgive him/her? Would you accept his/her apology after causing you so much pain? Would you?
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• Philippines
19 Jun 07
It's easy for me to forgive especially when i know that the person is sincere...But the hardest part for me is to forget the things that he did to me...I can forgive him but he can never ever regain my trust anymore...
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@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Same with me I can easily forgive but most of the time i hardly forget but the pain as time goes it fades. I can still trust her/him as long as I can see that he/she is sincere..
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• United States
19 Jun 07
I would accept the apology. There's no point in not accepting it. Forgiving them would depend on the situation. If it were obvious they were out to hurt you when the even occured then no...I would not forgive them.
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@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
In accepting the apology do forget the caused of it? Me, I easily forgive but I can hardly forget. (,")
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@rdougl (469)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I think you should forgive and remember. That way you can possibly prevent the same thing from happening. If this person is unable to refrain from hurting you, it may require some work on your part. Like ducking when he swings or even exiting the relationship.
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@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
I see your point. Yah its case to case basis.. Happy sharing (,")
@2babita (1072)
• India
23 Jun 07
No I wont forgive him/her,not even accept apology.Because he/she never understand the feeling.
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@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
Even if she/he is sincere in asking for apology? Would you not still forgive somebody who is accepting her/his fault? (,")
@liyan97 (2127)
• Northern Mariana Islands
20 Jun 07
Yes I can forgive anyone who hurts me:) Granted it doesn't come easy but it does happen. It is only when I forgive that I can truly let go of all the pain:)
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@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
yah because in forgiving we feel relieve and pains just go off easily... (,")
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@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
yes, if he/she is sincere about it then i'll forgive him/her. i believe that time heal the pain .
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@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
It certainly does, time heals. thanks (,")
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@rdougl (469)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Normally I would say that it depends. But I would hate to be on the end where there is no forgiveness. To be forgiven you have to forgive. If you consider yourself to be a lover and not a hater, you must forgive. This is a command that was spoken, and very well could have been a #1 commandment. It could possibly be a sin, meaning it could keep you from entering the Gates of Heaven. Plus, how do you complete the work of the Lord with a Unforgiving heart?
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@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
And time heals the pains even the wounds and forgiving makes you feel better than keeping the pain inside your heart which might haunt you each time you remember it so better let it go and be happy but making sure that she/he would not repeat it again .Besides love can forgive so why can't we. (,")
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• Canada
24 Jun 07
I don't know if I'd "forgive" in the traditional sense, and I certainly would not FORGET, but I would move on. I would never be able to trust that person again, but I don't think I would hate them. It would all depend on what they did to me, and how it affected me. It would also depend on their reasons for doing it, and my interpretations, and/or what they really meant by their actions.
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@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
Better to forgive but I agree not to forget it helps us to refrain from doing same mistakes that might hurt those people we loved.(,")
• United States
24 Jun 07
It depends on the person and the situation. Some people I can forgive after awhile. Other people have done me wrong on so many occassions and have done so many horrible things, I just don't want to hear an apology because it means nothing like all the ones before it. They're just wasting their breath, and I'm wasting my time by listening to them.
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@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
Yeah it really depends on the situation and the person whose asking for apology. (,")
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
yes, i already had an experience that there is a person gives me a big pain in my life..that is the father of my daughter..he leave me when i'm still 3mos pregnant, and he do nothing just to text me that he didn't love me anymore..i think that's the most hard part of my life because i don't know how can i move on..but i already forgive him after almost 3yrs..i wanted peace of mind and be happy with my new life with my daughter..though i haven't got the chance to talk to him again, but i already forgiven him and if the time will come that we will meet again i will accept his apology..
@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I won't say sorry for your experience because I know children gives much more happiness than having a partner (,"). It feels good to forgive than keeping extra baggage, nice to know you forgive and I appreciate you for sharing that story. Have a nice day, Cherriemae!
@a_ce_e (1422)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Yes I would, no matter how painful it is as long as i feel his sincerity i will forgive him/her. It doesn't matter how he brought that pain in me, but i want to see from her/his heart his willingness to have a change.
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@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Meaning forgiving depends on how sincere the person is. Right? (,")
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@mivarg (277)
• India
27 Jun 07
If someone apologises to me, I have no choice but to reconcile. The hurt will remain, of course, but I will try my best to forget and forgive.
@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
That's a positive attitude. I always try to forgive but I don't forget because it helps to refrain from doing same thing...(,")
@dbhattji (2506)
• India
26 Jun 07
Usually I am a very forgiving person but there is one thing I can't forgive - if a person betrays my trust. If a person betrays you once he/she is likely to do that again and again, so I find it difficult to forgive them.
@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Been betrayed by somebody? Sometimes it is hard but if its a sincere one would not still forgive?? (,")
@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Oh I see... Well it's our choice and I think it depends on the situation.. (,")
@dbhattji (2506)
• India
27 Jun 07
Not really, i have not been betrayed but I can't forgive people who don't keep promises.