What's your secret to a great marriage?

I don't don't know that we have a secret way of making the marriage work. This is my second marriage too. We will be celebrating 13 years of marriage this July! I call him my Mr. Wonderful! I would have to say the biggest things in our marriage is that we have not ever tried to change each other. We truly accept each other for who we are and encourage each other to pursue our own dreams I guess you could say. We aren't real big on pursueing much LOL but we what ever our interests are we encourage each other to follow through. Someone whom I met once told me that what they liked about us and was evident in our marriage was their was no sense of anyone trying to have control. So I dont know I guess I would say be individuals who are tied together by marrage! I probably am not saying that right so I hope you get my drift.

Ithink for to have an perfect marriage you should have a great home .means to make a discuss as a main idea withe your husband also with your children.you should non ask them for any think he do ,also you should have a great concerpt for him. take care

Humour is a great way to have a good marriage. My husband and I have been married for 13 years now and we both have a sense of humour. The other thing to make a good marriage is communication. You need to be able to communicate with each other really well and have not secrets. It sounds like you have had a rough time. My husband and I lost a daughter nearly six years ago, I am so glad that I had him to support me through this. I feel if you can get through the tough times and not seperate from each other, then you must have a strong marriage. Congratulations on being married for 3 years!

Well we don't have the paper yet but we've lived together almost 9 yrs... we're married as far as I'm concerned! LOL Learning to fight fairly is incredibly important. People who live together are going to disagree and argue about things but to argue without name calling or insulting each other or throwing all the blame on one is not easy for most. Admit your faults. Listening to your partner has to become an art form. Not just acknowledging that they are speaking but actually listening to them, even if it's something trivial. Making each other laugh, so incredibly important. We go out of our way to make each other laugh as often as possible. We never go a day without saying I Love You! at least once. Every time one of us leaves the house we always say it. If something terrible were to happen to one of us, I want that to be the last thing we say to each another. We always try to do something special for the other at least once a week. It doesn't have to be much, just a back rub or a handmade card or a favorite meal. Do something unexpected from time to time, it keeps things from getting boring and routine. Doing something out of the ordinary keeps them guessing and interested. Compromise, compromise, compromise Those are my favorite tips for a happy life together. The biggest compliment we get as a couple is when somebody asks us how long we've been together and we tell them 9 yrs and they say "REALLY?? You still act like newlyweds!"

The main secret is to try to listen to each other and understand. Usually we act like egoists and think only about ourselves, like: why he doesn't love me the way he should? why he do this and that? but we never think about why we are not doing what we should in the first place. My secret is to support my husband in everything he does and working hard to make our relationships work.

Actually the secret to a great marriage are in two words "yes, dear!" - it's a no contest in our marriage. I give the order and he says "yes, dear." LOL. Just kidding! I guess communication, laughter, prayers and lots of love makes a great marriage. My husband and I have been married for almost three years. We do have our ups and downs and we will expect for more. That's life. :)

My husband and I will be celebrating 7yrs this August. For us he key is communication and most of all love. When we get into an arguement or dont see eye to eye we take a break from eachother and get our thoughts straitened out then come back and talk about it and make up. My husband as accepted my 2 older kids as his own and we have 2 kids together and they are typical siblings and we deal with there issues together as a family.

Happy belated anniversary Caila! I wouldn't say there is a secret to marriage. It's just that when two people are married for a long time usually know how to deal with each other! LOL That and they know how to compromise with one another. My husband and I have been married for over 12 years (1st marriage for both of us) and we have gone through a lot of ups and downs in our marriage. But it's still going well, even if there are some bad days. No marriage is perfect, after all. :P

I think the consideration is very important. As people are different. You can not ask for your spouse to like the same thing as well as you. How to solve all the difference? It needs someone to give in and being considerate. When there is a problem, try to figure out how to solve it than escape it. I learn a new rule from a discussion in Mylot. That is if there is a quarrel, and one part needs to win it. Then please let your partner to win it. I will keep it in my mind:)

Honest communication. That's it. No big secret. If you can't communicate then there is no point in anything else. Its the basis and foundation of any successful relationship- not just marriage.

I too am on my second marriage, and i thank god every day for him. I met him in '95.I had 2 kids(4&7) and he had 2 kids(15& 9), we all moved in together jan '96. in Aug 2001 we tied the knot. guess for us it is being each others best friend, communication, humour, lots of love and knowing that you won't feel lovey dovey all the time, there will be days when one or the other is going to irritate the other, but that is ok. love is taking the good days with the not so good days, because at the end of the day, when you lean over give a kiss goodnight and say I love you; it makes the world a great place.

While I'm not married yet, I think it's so great that you're able to appreciate your husband and relationship this way. I get sad when I hear about people who have been married for years and think of it as a chore, or joke about how awful being married is. Hey, I'll joke as much as the next guy, but a marriage is such a valuable thing in my heart. I can't imagine getting myself into something that I really considered a job. Sure, you have to work on things, just like any other functioning thing in life. I think too many people look at the negative side of things though, and it's really great that you're able to appreciate what you have. Congratulations on your anniversary by the way! And for not being pregnant - I know it's usually the other way around, but I'm sure it's nice to be able to celebrate your anniversary "properly" ha ha!

i think in a good marriage you have to be able to argue. It may not seem your typical answer but think about it... if you can't express how you really feel you can't be happy and that makes your life boring. A good argument clears the air and allows a couple to feel better...

I have been married 4 years this thursday, and charish everyday. I think that is what my husband and I share most in common, Life over all is most important. We do what we must,to make a stable life for our familly. We have two young daughters together, and that also helps to bring us closer everyday. The battles that we have conquered as a team, reminds us, that we are strong together, where we were weak apart. There are always arguements, I think life would be boring if there was never any disagreements. You just learn to pick your battles, and fight them for the cause, and not for the point of fighting. When a couple gets to agressive in there arguements, as to pull things in from the past, or to bring up unrelated topics, then it is time to stop and think about why this is happening. If you can do that most likely you'll relize the problem is something you have to deal with in yourself in order to keep your life positive.

My hubby and i have been married nearly a year, and in the time we've been living together i'm sure we've gone through everything we can think of, but the thing is we respect eachother, understand eachother, talk about anything and everything, and don't stop until we know damn well things are figured out and worked out. Sometimes you just have to throw yourself in there to make sure it works out all the way. i'm like you, i love my husband so much i just can't picture a day of my life without the man, we don't yell, we walk away until things are calm, and then talk through them, we laugh usually after a small argument, and just make sure that we're both happy and healthy.

My husband and I have been married for 7 years in July, but we've known each other for 17 years and been together as a couple for 13 years. Our secret is that we've always been friends and have always had a very strong foundation in our relationship. Many times, things happened that should have caused us to split up, but instead they brought us closre and made us stronger. I believe our solid friendship, our basic love of each other is what has held us together. We always love each other - there are times we may not like each other when we are angry with each other, but we always love each other.

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