Does you child still sleep in your room?
By ntotsch
@ntotsch (19)
United States
June 19, 2007 10:52am CST
My daughter is six months old and we're starting to move her into her own room now. I really thought she'd fight the whole process--but last night was the first night and she only got up once. Me however, i was up several times, just checking the monitor, and then i had to go all the way downstairs at 2 am to make sure she was still there and breathing. Why is it so much harder for me than it is her? lol Is anyone else going through this or is your child still in your room?
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@maehan (1439)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Hee hee, my eldest boy when he is 2 while his brother 1. We did try to get him to sleep in on his own when he is 1 but unfortunately, he crawl back into our room. In order to let him sleep soundly throughout the night, we let him sleep in our room till he is ready. We train him gradually by sleeping with him in his room till he is asleep. Finally, at 2 he made it. His brother is faster as he had companion!
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@ntotsch (19)
• United States
19 Jun 07
I guess thats what i'm afraid of--i don't want her to be one or two before we finally move her to her own room--i mean for some couples thats fine, but for us it just wouldn't work. She was already waking up every time dh and i would talk. So i guess it was time for her. It's just me who has to do the adjusting.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
19 Jun 07
I moved both my girls out of our room when they started sleeping through the night, which was about 2 months for one and 3 for the other. I did the same thing though...I was always listening really hard to see if they were breathing..and I would think i heard them make a small cry so I would jump out of bed to check on them. lol. Its a mom thing. It does get better though :)
@jiffys_frog_woman (4050)
• United States
19 Jun 07
my daughter is 4 yrs old and she just now starting to sleep by herself. there are sometime she come in my room in the middle of night . just that daddy got her used to sleeping in the bed with us when she was younger and told him not to do that
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@djbizmonkey34 (633)
• United States
20 Jun 07
My two month old daughter still sleeps with me in my room. Sometimes we even sleep in the same bed. I know.. I'm just shooting myself in the foot with it lol.
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@klgudelski (27)
• United States
19 Jun 07
My daughter is 7 months old, and technically we sleep in HER room :) Our bed is in her bright yellow Pooh & Tigger room, and our room is empty. I tried convincing my husband to move into the other room since shes sleeping through the night already and has been since she was 3 months. But he said he doesn't feel comfortable being away from her, and he wants to wait until shes about a year old. The only good thing is that she sleeps in her crib and not in our bed, and she has no problem going to sleep if we're not in there with her, so I don't think it will be too hard on her when we finally move the whole 10 feet down the hallway.
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@Married2aMarine (1273)
• United States
19 Jun 07
My little one transitioned into his own room when he was 4 months old. It was definitely harder for me than it was for him!!! He really liked his new big crib vs. the tiny bassinet. And he's so happy being in there. He would still wake up a few times in the night to eat. But by about 7 months, he was sleeping through the night. Now, he's 2 and he's so good about going to sleep on his own.
@kittyloki (140)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I have a 6 month old and we are trying to get her to sleep in her own room and she won't do it. I'll put her in her bed while she is asleep but after a short time she wakes up and starts yelling.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I've always practiced co-sleeping with my children. It's worked very well for my family. Children naturally start to want privacy & their own space sometime between the ages of 3 and 6 (give or take). I find that my children slept more soundly & felt more secure, as did my partner & I with them in our room.
I can remember as a kid being petrefied of sleeping alone; I don't have any siblings & my room seemed so far away from my mother's. At least 3 nights a week I'd end up waking up my mom in the middle of the night, after having nightmares or just waking up and being afraid of being alone.
Humans are primates & we have a natural/primative fear of being alone when we are vulnerable, like when we are sleeping.
@syndibee (799)
• United States
21 Jun 07
my son is 15 months old and still in our room. we did put him in his own room for a little while but due to family composition we decided to move him back into our room. my oldest son who is 18 is moving in soon and will need his own room where the baby does not need his own space yet.
@ediths (115)
• Thailand
19 Jun 07
I have a 3 year old daughter and 1 year old son and both of them are still sleeping in my room. I want them to stay with me at night because daytime I'm working and dont have much time for them, so I want to see them before they sleep and when they wake up I want them to see us also
@liyan97 (2127)
• Northern Mariana Islands
20 Jun 07
lol...you think you are having a hard time with your daughter sleeping in a different room. Well I have three kids ages 9,5 & 2 and they all sleep in the same room as me:) I am a single mom and have been that way since the begining...Honestly, I know that it is bad to have my kids sleep with me every night but I don't think I could sleep if they weren't by my side..lol..
@nudshanie (359)
• Malaysia
20 Jun 07
Same with me. I don't think I could sleep if they are not by my side. Even if I wake up in the middle of the night, I have to make sure that they are with me.
@hollystyles (23)
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20 Jun 07
We put our daughters in their own room within a few months. It is difficult because you worry about them being ok. But with modern baby monitors it is a lot easier. Some would prefer to wait until 1 year old especially if you have cats in the house. Cats love warm places to curl up and babies are lovely warm places. At 1 year your baby is physically able to fend for itself in the unlikely event you forget to pull the door to and a pet gets in. This is extremely unlikely though, we have two cats and they never went near the babies. I did feel that the longer you have your baby in the same room as you the harder it will be when the time comes to move to a room of it's own. But I think this is not always the case for everybody. However it's certainly something to consider. Basically there's no wrong or right answer to exactly when it's time to move your baby to it's own room. As long as your baby has regular feeding and bedtime routine; gets lots of love; it should have little trouble sleeping well in any room.
@sdamian (62)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I was just wondering I was a nanny for a really long time and the child that I took care of was a 7 (almost 8 yr old boy) he still slept in his parents bed and I thought that was odd. Granted I am not a parent so I don't really know if that is the norm now but it also seemed weird to me that the dad was forced to sleep on the really uncomfortable couch and the mom slept with the son. I mean is it just me or is this strange?
@recidivist20 (348)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
our 3 year old son still sleeps with us. . .
there's this adage, when the kids are young they so much want to be beside us, but we get bothered by it sometimes. but when they get older, and we get more wrinkled, it'll be the other way around. . . so, might as well cherish these times when we can still hug them and play with them like dolls while they still enjoy it. . soon, we'll be the one chasing after them..
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
20 Jun 07
My children don't sleep in our room anymore except on the night one of them climbs in bed with us . I found it really difficult and more so then my daughter did though when I gave her , her own room as well . Not having her right beside me and being able to hear her breathe or just get up and check her right beside me was hard and I was worried that something would happen and I wouldn't be able to hear her at night . It took me a long time to get over this and even now ( she is two ) I will still get up in the middle of the night and run over to her room and check to make sure she is covered up or that she isn't too warm and to make sure she is still breathing or that she didn't fall out of bed . All the crazy thoughts you think when your child is not right beside you . She is always fine and it is just me being paranoid because the truth is when she needs me and cries out , I do hear her but did find it hard when she wasn't in the same room as us and still check to make sure she is alright when I get up as I can't fall back asleep without checking first . I believe this is just part of being a mother though and the fact that no matter what we always worry about our children no matter where they are or what they are doing . I always joke to my older children that no matter how old they get I will still worry about them and that I will always be there for them as that is what makes a mother a mother :)
@shayncy (16)
• United States
19 Jun 07
My son is 8 months old, and he still sleeps with me! We even kicked his dad out of our bed. I tried to put him in his own bed, but neither of us could sleep for three weeks straight when we tried it. I got up all night when he as sleeping, and when i was sleeping he got up it was horrible. Now we sleep together again and everyone sleeps through the night!
@egortizv (225)
• United States
20 Jun 07
dont stress over it, i may not have children but i can tell you this, i remember getting my own room as a child and i didnt mind. many times i wouldn't even sleep there. i would still sleep with my parents occasionally. even older and as a teenager, every once and a while i would still sleep in the same bed with my mom..or dad. i even remember going up, me and my sister would fight over who would get to sleep with my mom. and dont think this is unusual activity. it isnt. my parents, including me, have a total of 4 children and we all turned out fine and none of us are "fraks" and we were never made fun of at school. so if you ever feel teh need to have you daughter back in your room, even just for one night to calm your nerves, go right ahead. its no big deal.
@jenni23 (26)
• United States
20 Jun 07
my daughter is 8 months old and she slept in her room evrsince we got home from hospital..so far shes doin good..i just woke up couples of time to feed her before but now she would still wake up once to eat..