is having a baby an an early aged a sin to anyone?

Philippines
June 20, 2007 9:56am CST
For me it's not.but here in the philippines the people are so rude to think that having a baby being a mother at a very yong age is considered a sin. they treat you like a criminal they always misjudge things though you dont even know them personally.
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@el_jeffo (750)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Not a sin, but a discomfort perhaps, especially if you're still too young to work and be out of school. It is looked down upon by society because parenthood is a serious responsibility which takes a mature mind to completely fathom, as well as the financial, emotional, and physical capability to raise the child. Most young people will not harbor all of these characteristics. So it isn't really advisable to have a child at a very young age.
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28 Jun 07
Its not a sin to me either. I think as long as someone is able to look after and care for a baby/child no matter how old they are, it is fine for them to be a parent and its not a sin at all. There are parents of all ages that look after and care for babies/children well and some that don't care for their children just because they don't want to. Teenagers and young people can good parents as much as older people. ~joeys wife
@raj0019 (2623)
• Argentina
27 Jun 07
For community around you its a big crime (Sin), but in my personal view, its a mistake for a lifetime if you are too young and have not finished your studies yet. Only 2 things are priorities for a young person, first Education, and second Career. After that you are free to choose anything you want. Thats good for you and your baby. Most part of the culture in Phils and India is very similar, i'm not telling this on my own, my gf is a filipina herself.
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Being pregnant, and having a baby is not considered a sin by the faith I adhere to. The sin is in the fornication and adultry, if that is the case. Those who rash judge are actually more in the sin for that rash judgement than one is in sin for giving birth. Be careful not to rash judge the thoughts of those around you as well. If they are thinking sorry thoughts, let them have their thoughts - try only to think the best of everyone and you will be much happier.
• Canada
21 Jun 07
I was a teenage mom about 30 years ago. It was a very hard time but I held my head up high. Girls all around me were having abortions even some very late term. Women would walk by me and say you should be ashamed of yourself. They were total strangers. Some of my religious relatives were ashamed to be seen with me. I said look God is a loving God, if he loves me then he loves my baby who are you or anyone else to make me feel ashamed because of something that happened to me. I could go on with the stories of things that were done and said. It didn't matter then and it doesn't matter now. The only thing that matters is that you know that God the creator of this universe loves you and your baby and understands all things concerning it!
• Kottayam, India
27 Jun 07
Custom/culture of certain places/countries will not be changed very easily so try to cope with the circumstances and live your life as seems better to you.
@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Here in America,it is discouraged to have children before 18, but it happens frequently. I wouldn't treat a mother as a criminal though, because she had a child at a young age, maybe the father though. should have known better.
@ydnac22 (802)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
hi cherry! Having a baby at a very young age is sad especially if you're parents are expecting a better future for you.It's not that bad and I dont think they treat teen age mom as a criminal.Yes there are people here who are judgemental and its common in every society not just here in phil.The right term i quess is people here are just conservative and not rude! It will be a sin if you got pregnant and after giving birth to your baby you will not perform your duty as a good mother.But if you are matured enough at your young age and you knew very well how to have have your own family life then its not a problem.Just make sure that your baby will have a responsible father too cause if not the baby will be the one to suffer.See,Im not trying to be rude here....I'm just a little bit concern to those teen age mom and to their baby. According to me? why make it fast? Its nice to be single after all. :)
@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
21 Jun 07
No its not a sin, but if you are not able to give your child the proper care an if you cannot provide then your chhild will suffer and that will have long term and even life long effects.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
A sin is only something that comes under the 10 commandments - i'm not religious but those commandments are what people go by as to what is a sin. Since being a mother at a young age is not on there, then it's not a sin, maybe some people in the philippines just think of it as being immoral, or maybe just that they don't think younger women are capable. Everyone has their own opinion though & you're better off just listening to what you think & not what other people think of you!
• United States
21 Jun 07
if you are legally married then it is not a sin no matter what age you are. but if you have a baby before you get married, even if you were engaged, that it is...hope this helps
@maybel13 (205)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
of course not! being pregnant means that God is trusting you so much that your gonna take good care of that angel. thinking that having a baby in a young age is a sin is very unfair for the baby.. for me its a blessing, an angel.. thats gonna love you as his mother. may i know your age? your pregnant?
@eadward (140)
• Brazil
20 Jun 07
Well, it's not a sin, but it's certainly not the smartest thing someone could do. Most young mothers here in Brazil, let their mothers raise the grandchildren, and keep living a teenager's regular life, which show the lack of maturity of these girls.
@tuscon (48)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Being a mother at a young age is not a sin. Sometimes a girl gets pregnant by force, not love. In that case the young mother should be regarded very highly and respected by all. It is very hard for a young mother to adapt to motherhood. This will put a lot of restrictions on her friendships and her partying but if she is mature enough then this will cause no problems for her or the child. YOU be your own judge always. Do not let other peoples actions change you. It is best to be yourself and not let them even know that their actions towards you do bother you. This will put them in their own place when they realise that you don not care what they think.
@paidreader (5143)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I think it would depend alot on the age of the mother. I was a mother at 19, which is young in some peoples minds, but I have known mothers who were much younger. People are always willing to judge others without knowing much about the situation. :(