Do you even try to check or look at your partners wallets or cellphone?

I did it more than once. It was a time when he was always 2 hours late coming home from work. I was getting paranoid and thinking all the worst things imaginable. I asked him of course, why he was late. And he always had a valid excuse. But still didn't convince me. We had an argument before that "checking" thing. And he said some things that planted a seed of doubt in my head. What if it was true or what if he's making a fool out of me? So, I did the checking for many consecutive days. When his phone received a text message, and he was unaware of it, I would immediately look who it was from. I usually checked his phone, not his wallet. If he really planned of doing something fishy, I know he would make sure that he wouldn't be caught easily. But then, it was all paranoia. It was a mixture of having a low self-esteem and a little jealousy that he can go out of the house on a regular basis and get to meet different people. While I'm a homemaker. We try our best to be honest with each other. He even told me once that there was a nurse openly flirting with him. He wanted to see how I would react. I often tell him this. He can easily wreck our marriage and our family, if he ever decides to cheat on me. But he will surely regret it for the rest of his breathing life. It will be his loss, not mine.

No.I have never done so, I think that the two people are together, the most important thing is to believe that the other side, if trust do, and to what point is there?

Yup i just check the cellphone, thats it..

you shouldnt check your paetners or boyfriends wallet or cell phone.have faith on them.dont lose hope once you dont trust them then there are several problems in family.they try to identify your bad things.even the good thing you do they will find it bad.

I'm guilty. I've looked thru my boyfriend's cell phone, email and myspace account. Of course he did give me his passwords at one point for his email and myspace account so that I would help him out with something. But I also looked at his messages and so forth. I'm sure he knows I did. lol. So i guess the only thing I've done that he doesn't know about is look thru his phone. But I know for a fact that he's looked thru mine too so I don't care. It's not that I don't trust him it's just that I like being sneaky :) hehe. And it's not like I do it often.

I check the my boyfriend's cellphone whenever we are together but i still have trust on him. He never commit any mistakes and i was really proud of him. I'm sure he is really a good boy. I never check his wallet because he never brings it with him everytime his going out. He just don't like bringing wallet.

I do not feel any need to do so, but i know that if I wanted to I could and so can he if he wants to. We are not hiding stuff from eachother, Honesty is number 1 in this relation =)

Well my husband and I look through each other's stuff. Not because we suspect anything, but because we can. We really have no secrets from each other. I think just looking at how the other person is treating you or how they have changed in they way they are acting, is a tip. That is how I knew from my past relationships if they were cheating, I was never wrong either. Hear is how I look at it, I don't need proof, proof is for judges. I just need to see the signs.

It is matter of mutual trust. If trust is not there...then no relationship can be strong enough. If my partner does it to me..I will directly ask her..instead of spying thro' her cellphone or wallet.

Hello,lynbooysy,I do not have a partner right now and i can onul talk avout my past relationship.I respected his privacy and i did not check his personal stuff like email,cellphone or wallets,i thought everyone should have their privacies.Just think in this way,i think i will not be happy if someone check my wallets or cellphones,that is why i had not do done to my partners.

I currently don't have a boyfriend but the last time I had I didn't do such things.. Simply because he was an honest person and was so loyal to me. So i don't need to do those things but he checks my cell phone sometimes.

No ,I dont look his wallets or cellphone because if a person wants to do something he will do it nobody can stop him.

No!!! but at the same time I don't hide mine either. to be honest I work that much that I would not have time to do anything naughty. I am a man by the way......