Too many ways of unpersonal communication!

I never said I have a hard time communicating here or anywhere else. It was just a topic and an observation. Like I said on one of my other responses, I am guilty of all the same things that I have described.

Well, you say that if we are communicating over the internet that we can change the content if we feel it is inappropriate, but that's the problem. When you are changing something you want to say to something you think someone wants to hear, you are still not getting to know one another, only pretending to be the person that the other person thinks you are. So you are in all actuality, not making better friends if you are not or they are not being your true selves. And how do you know?

How often have we wondered "Why did I ever have to say that? Why didn't I say it more politely?". It's not that we are acting like people that we are not. The fact is that many of us react to situations in the heat of the moment. It's only when we take time to think on it that we come to know where we have gone wrong. And this talking without thinking is not going to help us. On the other hand, we will only be making ourselves misunderstood. Surely that is not what we intend to do. All of us want people to understand us and we are worried if others might mistake us. It is not that we are saying what the other person wants to hear. Many a time, we can frame sentences that disagree with the other person's opinion much more politely. That is what discussion is all about. And once we read what we write, we may find that some of the content is very harsh, and by changing it, we only keep our relationships strong and healthy. I guess there is nothing wrong with that.

You totally got what I was saying.

Well, I guess what I am really trying to say is that I don't think it makes people make an effort to care about people. I think that if you don't want to talk or deal with someone then you can just send a text instead of talking.

That's what I thought you were getting at. I was answering the first question... I do use other means. The second question of why would I or anyone use other means is because they don't make the effort. I actually had a friend who used a myspace bulletin (don't know if you're into the myspace craze) to tell "her friends" that she was moving to another state. Needless to say I didn't find out because I don't read myspace bulletins because I think telling a close friend that you hang out with on a weekly basis that you're moving to another state 8 hours away is something you should tell someone in person! I was so mad. I barely speak to her still. So I wouldn't use other means just because I'm lazy unless it's to say "hey how are you" but for important information you need to talk in person or on the phone.