Started new job, get nothing but bad comments everyday. What would you do?
By sodapop
@sodapop (977)
United States
June 20, 2007 11:11pm CST
I started a new job that I went to college to get a degree for. My GPA was 3.95, so I know I'm no dummy, but my boss sure makes me feel that way. I have had this job for 6 days and every day he tells me every little thing I have done wrong at the end of every day. I'm beginning to wonder if this job is for me. I know I have done some really good things, and I did hear a "perfect" out of my boss, but that was it. Should I say anything, just learn to take it, or look for a different job?
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17 responses
@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
I think it's normal for a newcomer or newly hired like you to have mistakes during the first week (or probably month)in the company. I know that you know how to do it because just what you have said this is what you have studied in college. Maybe you are just trying to connect and adapt the system installed in your new company. Regarding your boss attitude towards your mistakes, I think it will be better if you'll take this as a challenge to improve furthermore your work. Who knows, maybe he had seen your potential and capability and he just wanted to trained and enhanced your talent. Just stay a little longer and observe carefully what will happen.
@sodapop (977)
• United States
21 Jun 07
You could be right...I know there are alot of new hires, but he seems to spend more time with me. I thought maybe he really didn't like me, but now I think maybe he sees how much better I am than the other workers, and he wants to train me to work in his company for a long time. Thanks for making me see the other side of things!
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Some bosses are just that way. Believe me, I know....the woman that I was assistant manager to at a convenience store would do nothing but harp on the employees and give them negative comments all day every day. Very rarely did even I hear a thank you come out of her mouth. If you are this uncomfortable and unhappy already, you may do well to go and look for another job. But I'm one of those that would rather work where I'm happy making less pay instead of working where I'm miserable and at the top of the pay scale. Try talking to your boss first and see how that goes. If the negativity continues, it'll probably be better to run the other way screaming.
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Hey, I'm good at that....running the other way screaming...LOL. I still have negative comments from him everyday, but now I started asking him why on his comments and half the time he doesn't have an answer. I'm like you, I want to be happy in a job for less money, than be rich and miserable......marco....
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
21 Jun 07
So sorry you are having problems, I think I would wait another week or so. I know it is discouraging, but maybe after you have been there a couple of weeks he will quit. Could be he really wants to make sure that you see what you are doing wrong so that you won't do it in the future. Bosses sometimes think they have to show their stuff to the new ones. I might even start looking for another job, that way you are on the way to getting another one in case you decide this one isn't for you. Good luck.
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Thank you for the luck, I can use all I can get. I was thinking that if he is sstill critizing me after another week, does it mean I'm not doing a good job? If he would just start off like....your doing better, or your trying hard, or your good but....it would help me alot. Thanks for your comment.
@friendship (2084)
• Canada
21 Jun 07
I'm sorry that you don't get along with your boss. I do understand your feeling, though. A good boss is a jewel thing and many people would like to have good and understanding bosses. But in reality, we don't always get good bosses.
Sometimes, some bosses don't know how to communicate well with their subordinates OR how to talk or discuss things that may not hurt feelings. As you know, some people are impatient and others may be straight forward people. But they don't mean to be bad bosses. Please don't be discouraged because perhaps, your boss just want you to be familiar with your job. So, you need to follow your boss's directions because you are a new person at the office. You just have had your job for 6 days.
Once you will have become familiar with your jobs, but your boss is still complaint about your work performance, you then need to talk to your boss and to find out what he/she wants exactly. Listen carefully what he/she will say in order to know whether or not his/her review is fair. In this case, you should have an open mind and heart. If you think his/her review is not fair and you have done what your boss is asking you, you can then assume that it is not about your work performance or it is not related to job things. It must have something else that make your boss not like you. Then, you can start looking for a different job.
@friendship (2084)
• Canada
23 Jun 07
Geezz... I guess you should start looking for a new job. By the way, how did he treat you during a job interview? How was your job interview going on? Did he yell at you during your job interview?
@sodapop (977)
• United States
23 Jun 07
It's really hard to listen to a boss that does nothing but yell all the time. He even yells at the customers, yells at me in front of the customers, in fact, yesterday he said he would take care of this customer because I'm so stupid it woud take him 2 years to teach me. I'm looking for a different job now.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Well, it's only been 6 days. In my opinion that isn't long enough to know whether or not this job is meant for you. But there must be a reason besides your GPA that YOU were hired. Try not to let what your boss says get to you (easier said than done) and just do the best you can! :)
(There is only one way to find out why your boss criticizes you...and that is to ask him why.)
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Your right...easier said than done. Also, asking him why he is criticizing me so much just doesn't sound right. Or asking him why me more than the others when I am better than the others doesn't sound right either. It's a very tricky subject. Today is my first day off after working 6 days in a row. Now I have time to think about it a little bit.
@angela2006 (1845)
• China
21 Jun 07
I think you should change your job.as a freshman,we do not have much work experience,you can do things that well is good and your boss should encourage you instead of cutting you down.so if possible,you can change a new job.
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@cabergren (1181)
• United States
22 Jun 07
It sounds like your boss is the one with the problem. Either you have to sit down and talk with him. If you can't work this out you definitely have to find another job. No one needs to hear negative comments day after day. Since you have to be at your job all day long you should have a job that you actually like.
@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Please don't take this the wrong way as my intent is not to offend or demean you in anyway.
It is fairly normal for a person at a new job to make lots of mistakes. No matter what the job is you can't expect to be there six days and have everything down.
It is also normal for your boss to tell you, "This is wrong, this is the right way, don't do it again." His style may be more abrupt than what you are used to, or you may be overly sensitive. I really can't say from a small one sided paragraph. (This is not a dig at you, just a fact)
He may also being laying down the law with you now, early in your career. Maybe to prove a point that your degree and 3.95 GPA (nice GPA btw) doesn't mean you have all the answers. Perhaps he thinks you're too cocky.
No offense again, but I think this situation is probably being blown out of perportion. He did give you a compliment when it was deserved.
Look at it this way: The real world isn't like college. You can't miss a question here nor there and get an "A." If you are making mistakes (we all do, we are human and especially in your case learning a new job) you will never know unless he points them out to you.
Just do your best not to make the *same* mistakes. That is never good.
Give him, the job and yourself a chance. Keep and open mind and stick it out for a month or two and see how things progress. He'll likely warm up to you if you give him reason to. Cream usually rises as they say.
@sodapop (977)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Please read my response above your comment, if following me into the lady's restroom while I was off the clock to yell at me, yes he is a male, this is not a normal boss. I'm not a spring chicken...I'm in my 40's, and I have had many jobs, but never a boss like this. He even said company rules don't apply in his kingdom. That's what he calls it, his kingdom. I'm not a spring chicken, with 3 children and married 25 years, and this is not my first job, but this boss is not normal.
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@khaezi (1001)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
Maybe he is just challenging you, it's up to you if you would take it positively or not..but if it brings you down instead of bringing the best out of you then i guess you should start packing your things up and look for a new job..remember there's still a lot of opportunities waiting for you outside..
@ninja_billy (35)
• Trinidad And Tobago
22 Jun 07
i would set that mother on fire and do drinking after, just kidding wat your boss is doing could be a way of testing you to see if you are right for the company or he could just be an a$$hole.
@dawnjane (16)
• China
22 Jun 07
I graduated last year and had the same problem when first job.It really frustrated very much. At that moment I told myself I could make whatsoever the other could even including they couldn't. But when got used to it the superior got the bad impression , and not willing to offer promotion for me, I quitted in no time and took the other job!
@poetshannon (113)
• United States
22 Jun 07
you only been there 6 days you have to learn how your boss runs his business. you may have the book smarts now you have the learn the world of business smart,with a gpa as high as yours i know you are not a quitter
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
21 Jun 07
First of all, the boss should compliment you on what you are doing right. At least that would give you support and a feeling like you were making progress. I would stick with for a while longer and hopefully your boss will change his tune as you progress.
Secondly, you don't have to feel like a dummy because your boss is pointing out your mistakes. That is all they are...mistakes. That is part of any learning process. Making a mistake or error does not mean you are dumb, stupid or any other negative connotation. Separate his ranting from your true self. Whatever he says to you that is negative, do not accept it as being part of you. On the other hand, thank him for any compliments he might give you. As hard as that might be.
@morgandrake (2136)
• United States
21 Jun 07
As someone who used to train people at my last job, I will admit that it is easy to get caught up in the "wrong" mode. A lot of bosses have no clue about the other side of the equation. If I was on the recieving end of this, I would ask him if I was improving or not, but that is just me.