What do you do with a male friend who is stringing his girlfriend along?
By SereneDragon
@SereneDragon (188)
United States
June 21, 2007 1:35pm CST
I have a very good guy friend (Mr. C) who has been dating his "girlfriend" for over a year now. He is against marriage and having kids and has been upfront about this with all the women he has dated. However, his current girlfriend is convinced that she can change his mind. He is aware of this fact, but is still seeing her--(one reason being that he is living with his parents and she has her own apartment). I have had numerous conversations about this with him and have suggested that if they want different things out of the relationship, maybe it's time to break up (that way she can find someone who DOES want to get married and have kids--she is in her mid-30's). What do you think about this situation, have you or someone you know been in a relationship like this?
2 responses
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Yes I have someone I work with that has a marriage like this. She was persistant. When they dated he said he would never get married. Then they got married. Then he said they would never have kids...well they are trying right now. Maybe love can conquer all!
@SereneDragon (188)
• United States
22 Jun 07
It would be nice if they could work something out. Although I almost wish they would break up because she is a really nice girl and I think she deserves better.
@SereneDragon (188)
• United States
22 Jun 07
I try not to meddle too much, because I can remember times when my friends would give me their input about whatever relationship I happened to be in at the time--and I always got defnsive because I didn't want to admit to myself that they might be right.
@austere (2812)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
well, i believe the girl just have enough faith in her. but not to worry, guess she will just realize sooner what she really wants. no matter how much she loves the guy, i know she will leave him as soon as he finds out that there is really no way for both of them to have the "happily ever after" that she desired, but let's just pray that it wont be too late before she realize that because as what you have mentioned she is already in her mid thirties.:) she should have her kids of her own at that age!:) but who knows, miracles do happen. even id your friend insisted that he doesn't want to get married. trust me, he will soon realize how different and what a great fulfillment it is to have a family of his own! and again, i hope he wont be too old to realize over this. marriage is a gift! kids are blessings! and when you try to think of it, you wont be as fulfilled when you will have children of your own!
