How do you tell someone?

United States
June 21, 2007 3:51pm CST
I have this friend who it is supose to be no more than friends. His ex is trying everything she can to work things out but I see it differently. I see it as trying to make him wait around for her so she has someone to fall back on when she has no one in her life. Him and I hang out almost everyday and have a great time. But this week has been the toughest with him, i have had, having the kids all week, his ex coming over and me not being able to be there. It just hurts not being able to see him or talk to him. So what I was wondering how do you tell someone who you are supose to be just friend with that you might be in love them and how do you tell them to leave the relationship with thier ex cause they are know good for them?
1 response
pallidyne
@pallidyne (858)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Just a personal opinion, but those are two seperate conversations that should not really coincide too much or it will appear that you are being jealous of the ex. As far as telling him that you may be falling for him, the best way is the blunt way. Just remember, once you do there isn't any going back. If he does not reciprocate, it'll be a lil awkward. Be prepared for both possibilities, and accept whatever he can give.
dodgersangel
@dodgersangel (46)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Thanks for the advice. I have already told him I am not jealous of his ex and it is true. I just want him to see what she is doing to him. As far as the telling him I'm falling for him, I cant just be blunt. I think he already knows it and I know his mom and sister know. I have had this talk with them and they tell me to just wait it out. As they see it, he will soon enough come around and see it too.
pallidyne
@pallidyne (858)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Waiting it out and hoping he notices is a subtle game that is played that essentially means one of the following: 1) It'll never happen, so you don't have to worry about any regrets telling him. 2) It'll be his fault he didn't notice, so you have an out. Here in the US, among other places, we've socially trained those of the female gender to believe we are not clueless, and are completely telepathic. If you ever want him to know, you're going to have to tell him.