jealousy???

Philippines
June 21, 2007 10:14pm CST
months ago,in a big mall here in my city,i bumped into someone that would later turn out to be very special to me...before,i could only afford to greet her,which she responds with a smile or a greeting...but on that one night when we unexpectedly meet in one of the mall stores,i had the chance to talk to her...for a while,we had a chat and then we exchanged numbers...days later,we were regularly keeping in touch with one another...we became close,even closer than what i expected...and then i started to fall for her...when she asked me if i was falling for her,i did not admit that i was...but everyday and every night,i really wanted to see her and be with her...but our situation was very complicated... unfortunately,something happened...and she suddenly grew cold of me...my heart was torn apart...though,i never felt hate towards her...for weeks,i regularly sent her messages, but one could only count her replies with one's fingers... everyday i hoped that we would be back together again...then one night,my phone vibrated and to my surprise,it was a message from her.i thought it was a new beginning...we went out together for a few times...but i still feel the coldness in her... now,i believe she likes someone else...and i think she is very happy with him...the guy is a friend of mine...i thought that i already got over her...that i would not be affected anymore...she need not worry because i will never interfere with her newly found happiness...yes,i really want her to be happy,but i cant deny the fact that the thought of her being with someone else still hurts me and keeps me awake during the night...i dont know if im jealous...if is it jealousy that i feel whenever that thought crosses my mind...but im confused...am i in the position to be jealous???am i selfish if i feel this way???
1 response
@zhannel (21)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
I might think you are selfish..I might also say that you are not in the position to get jealous..To think about your story,,she is almost yours..when the time she ask you, if you are falling for her..why not say Yes!?...and we cannot tell also, that she might feel the same way as you do...But because of your cowardness...you deny it..Girls wants to be answered all the time they ask. You cant blame her,because you were the once hurting your emotions.. Please tell your feelings to her,maybe shes waiting for your answer,if u were falling for her..thers nothing wrong in telling the truth..and if she has a special treament to your friend,ask her...for clarification...Its up to a girl to decide..deal?please do tell her...if she will not response..at least you were able to express what you feel for her.Gudluck!
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
thanks for the response...i understand why u thought of that... actually,there are so many reasons why i didnt tell her how i really felt for her...as i have mentioned,we are in a complicated situation...what i did may seem cowardly,but someone told me that it was one of the most difficult thing to do...to look at your loved one right in the eyes and tell her u dont love her...it was the right thing...for her and her family...i really cared for her. i did tell her lately,to explain that i did that because i dont want to open a can of worms in the long run...i just hope that she understood and would still consider me as one of her friends...now,im certain...i should not be jealous because that would not only make me selfish,but also it would be a hindrance to the happiness that she is looking for...thanks again
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
Oh..ok..im trying to put myself into your situation, if its really complicated for you to say to her how you felt..then i will say to that you made your decision right..but you might be continue hurting yourself to please her..you were saying that you are happy to see her happy..but I would like you to ask question to yourself..Are you really happy?..if not you must move on..dont be stack over your experience..one day you'll realize that your experience made you strong..and who knows theres someone out there waiting for you..it might her again..or anybody else
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
thanks very much for the comforting words...actually,i already have moved on...i guess it was only in the start that i was hurt..but now,i feel free..i can say that im really happy for her..i just hope she truly is happy also..anyway,thanks again and take care...