When you get incurable disease,tell your families or keep it yourself?

Hi tracy, in this present modern world the technology is so improved that there is cure for all the deceases. However the people who has sexually transmitted decease will hide it from their family, as it is a matter of reputation.

I think I would have to tell my family the truth because I would want to spend more time with them and do lots of new things. So I think they would know that something was wrong anyway. I can understand why people wouldn't tell anyone but I just don't think I could handle that all by myself.

I think I'd have to tell them the truth. If one of my sisters had a terminal illness I'd want to know so that we could make the most of her time left. But I can understand some people don't want to worry their families and so keep it to themselves until the last possible moment.

I will probably tell my family so I can get the support from them.

I think i will keep it meself,like your say,if i tell my families,my parents will very worry about my diesease,and the all family members will very sadness.I don't like to see this view,so i choose keep it myself,and live a nice life with they,i wish keep the nice memory,and they will not very sadness.I have been think about this question,every time i all decide the same result.I will keep it myself.what do you think of?

Hi Tracy as you have said above, "I always see this scene in the films or TV, someone find that he has gotten incurable disease", yes, on TV. but realistically, i think people should share the info with their family, even if it is bad news, its not selfish and its not so you can give them some of your pain, but just imagine one day, no warning, no preparation, some very close family of urs die... i would be even sadder than if they had told me in the first place!! yes you might think its oh so thoughtful to take on all your pain by yourself..but during hard times, it is the families which really help you out. and what do you know, your relationship with your family might actually improve!!

I wont tell my about my disease to my family. I will create a situation such that they themselves hate me. So that they dont find much difficulty in living without me.

i will tell my family that i am sick. although i wont show them the pain... i dont want them to worry to much.

i think the moment i get to know such things about me then immediately i'll call my folks.

It's a really hard... I think I will try to keep it myself as longer time as I can. I don't want them to feel sad at the beginning. Then finally I have to tell it to my family.

if the disease is only declared in front of me and there was nobody else and that is a life treatning disease the I would prefer not totell anybody specially to the people love me very much. I can suffer it aone and dont want to ruin their everyday thinking about losing me sometime...yes I am grown upthat much I can give relief other and an carry out more tuff responsibiliies so why not this ....if theat is not curable then saying other that wont be cured only giving them some horrible times ahead...

I would inform my family so that they could prepare. I don't think they will worry that much. They might worry more if they see your condition and yet you don't tell them what's wrong with you. There is nothing you can do when you have an incurable disease so it's best to accept it and inform your family about it.

I think its overrated. One should tell what's going on, its only fair coz the people who are close to you would really want to know. By being honest your actually showing care. Try to think of it if it was someone dear to you who had the incurable disease. You wouldn't want that person to suffer alone, right? You would want to share the pain, you would want to be there for him/her especially in his/her last days, to give support and care and to say the things you've been meaning to tell him/her. Coz when its too late and the time comes, the love ones tend to blame themselves for the loss, thinking they didn't know coz they weren't there for him/her and would lose self-worth. And it would be more painful to bear if it was sudden than if they knew earlier they could gradually accept it and establish a good understanding of the "letting go" process. Cause its really hard to let go..

When I was six years old,I was bitten by a small dog.I thought I got rabies and was dying.I decided not to tell my mother but I was really afraid.Luckily I forgot it when I got up the next morning.

hi tracy, firstly , a very nice discusion. now, coming to the point, i would be extremely selective in disclosing the matter to others. i think, i would confide in to my partner and very close friends, if it would be a normal incurable disease. in case of STDs i would not confide in except my partner. i feel its very important to tell the dear ones, since the quality of time spent cannot be compared to the quantity, isn't it??

Hmm I will think about it but wont tell my love ones because i don't want to make them worried one has to die so there is nothing they can do then why should i make them worried so chill baby :D i am ok

I'd tell my family. It would be important that I made the most of the time left with them and had them around me. I wouldn't want them to worry because I'd rather just enjoy the time. :) ~Joey

This is a really hard situation. But for me,i have to tell this terrible news to my families because i know they are the ones who will help me with this problem though i know that they will be getting hurt. But i guess,this is the best way to ease my loads and to help me pray.

This is human nature.When somebody get to know that he got an incurable disease he always try to hide it from others.we can not blame them totally.the main culprit i think is our society.society force them to do such behaviour. Honestly if i face that sitution i want to fight against all odds.

In my childhood,I seem to have an disease,I did not tell others including my mothers,and I come to hospital myself.but the fact i did not have any disease....i think we should tell others,the prefure is too heavy...