Chivalry, do women truly like it?
By RicotheWolf
@RicotheWolf (156)
United States
June 22, 2007 8:44am CST
I was born and raised in a home where I was taught to give women the utmost respect and love to them. I was shocked to find out one day that most women tend to go for the guy who is a jerk and doesn't give two seconds thought about her.
Is it bad for a man to want to appreciate the woman he has and show her just how much he appreciates her? I thought it was just courtesy to open the door, present her seat, giver her a gift, and speak nice to her. I didn't know that a woman would see this as stupid and go for the guy that would not listen or care what the woman thinks.
Please give your comments and ladies, do tell me how you feel about such a think. I want to hope that there are some women out there who go for men with class, not who act like a jerk.
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4 responses
@mightycrumbgirl (380)
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22 Jun 07
I'm all in favour of chivalry, and I think that it's a shame it's a dying tradition. It is very nice to have a man who respects women and treats them well. However, in this modern age, women are seeking independence, and I think a break from chivalry is reflecting this - women don't feel the need to accept gifts from men, to allow them to open a door, or present their chair - since we are all seen as equals these days.
I think a lot of women are attracted to 'jerks' since it seems fun and exciting at first... but I'd personally find it much more exciting to find a man who'd bring me gifts now and again and treat me like a lady.
@RicotheWolf (156)
• United States
22 Jun 07
Thank you for your response and yes, chivalry does seem to be a dying tradition and its rather sad too.
I am glad to know at least one woman is willing to say that she does like chivalry like many others may not wish to.
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@mightycrumbgirl (380)
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22 Jun 07
I think you have a point there, many women do not want to admit to liking chivalry - maybe it's sometimes about pride, and independence again. I'm not saying that women should go back to being totally dependent on men, but a little 'old-fashioned' gentleman-like attitude can go a long way - it's romantic!
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
22 Jun 07
Rico, I have seen this same thing in the girls my sons have dated. Both of my older boys had their hearts broken many times by girls who threw them to the curb for the "bad boy". One of the reason I think women are attracted to this type of guy is that they are exciting at first. Its a thrill to live on the edge. But the reality sets in when the relationship moves on to either marriage or one of partnership. These bad boys often start to exhibit their true natures.
Women do still appreciate the more traditional gentlemanly ways. We are just not use to it, as It is not the norm anymore, it probably startles ladies and then they might begin to question motivations. On the other hand it is refreshing to see young men that have manners, and romance. You hang in there. Its a wonderful quality to possess.
@RicotheWolf (156)
• United States
22 Jun 07
Thank you for your response AngelWhispers. I never could understand how a girl could even like such a thing. But, it is also a well founded idea to think a guy has different motives if he is being nice. I guess its just cause of how I grew up. There's some girl out there who'll deserve it and I shall keep looking.
@di1indilin (802)
• India
22 Jun 07
True even i hope that way, but so far i have'nt got any promisin sights . Most of the gurls i see are also like you said, so maybe things are changing huh..
@RicotheWolf (156)
• United States
22 Jun 07
Thank you for your response also.
I never understood the attraction for callous people and I don't think I ever shall. It makes no sense to be with or be attracted by someone that will knowingly hurt you and not even care for you correctly.
