What is stopping YOU from achieving your dream
By shelagh77
@shelagh77 (3643)
June 22, 2007 4:48pm CST
I have been reading a whole shelf full of books and the one conclusion I have gained from them is that although one must always react in a way which will safeguard our health and the roof over our head, most of us do not carry out the necessary actions to achieve our dreams, making all sorts of very wonderful excuses as to why we do not grasp the dream.
I looked after my parents for most of my life, but now I have lost them I am no further to my dream than I was before, there is always someone needing help,someone to listen to them etc, and whilst I have no problems with that to an extent it doesn't help me to get on.
I have moved my work area into the bedroom, where guests obviously do not wander, and I have made great leaps and bounds since I excluded myself from all distractions. I still turn the machine off for a few hours every day to prepare and eat meals with whomsoever is in the flat, but other than that I can really motor on and my new site should be up and running next week.
So, just to repeat what I said earlier, as you may very well have forgotten after all this, WHAT is stopping YOU from achieving your dream?
PS Please do not say money!
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7 responses
@rainbow (6761)
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23 Jun 07
I'm so pleased you're getting on sooo well! You sound very positive and determined, WELL DONE!
I know what's stopping me achieving my dreams, only one thing - me. I have so many excuses for not thinking about me, my sons special needs, Shrek needing help with the business, other people making demands on me, running round in circles instead of planning properly. I need to be more motivated but I get very tired, I need to get selfish and look after myself and my needs, I'm starting in little ways to take the control back but like a change in diet it's a slow process.
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@shelagh77 (3643)
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24 Jun 07
Oh, you just have to have a prize worth winning for the race, that's all. Nooty is well trained and I am terribly envious, maybe there is another string to your bow there!
Well, it is viewed as selfish to take time to oneself but if that time is productive and the end result is extra happiness for everyone it is actually selfish NOT to take the time.
oooooh doesn't it make you even MORE mad when they ruffle your hair when you are already angry. Oh that really makes me seeeeeeeethe!
Yes, you are 100% correct, if you nourish yourself this will help in all directions.
Maybe you are underestimating the value of that time spent working out what you actually want to do and how you are going to do it. A lot of people see this as a waste of time but actually it can save years of time in the event.
You are doing fine and I am very proud of you :-)
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@rainbow (6761)
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25 Jun 07
A little sparrow with an empty nest, it's gonna be bad enough when Roo gets to school, lol!
I'm no longer screaming woman, yep misery ight love coompany but happiness doesn't care and I'm going to be happier every day as I've set my mind on it.
Ah, stange crazy kind of bond we have, nail on the head there She! Guess we're both a bit odd and that's a good thing, we can be odd together, hee-hee!
My little targets are good too, if I think of a big job it's too much but if I think "I'll just do..." I get far more done. A big list of chores puts me off before I start.
I love my project work and my coursework so it's not like working towards something it's just fun to do. I'm far happier than I was 6 months ago, I'm starting to take control of my life and have good friends online that are there for the bad bits with calming words and love so I'm really very lucky.
@shelagh77 (3643)
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25 Jun 07
The boys will grow only too quickly and you will soon be posting about empty nest syndrome, so treasure the days :-).
Misery loves company too, and some days it is really hard to remember you DO have a choice. You can't change everyone else but you can change how you react to them. Is hard though. Natural urge to throttle partner etc, very hard!
Although the hair tousling is very aggravating to you it does seem to help deepen the bond you both have in a strange, crazy sort of way - maybe the cliche that you look gorgeous when you are angry holds good here?
You are well on the way to setting yourself smaller targets that feel so good when you hit them :-)
I am really happy that I have helped you to feel good about your project but the most important person here is YOU! You are happy with that project because it IS a brilliant project and you are doing it so well. I am proud of you, but that is not at all important. You are.
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@yuanchang (474)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
my parents are kind of a hindrance for my dreams. but i know that they only care for my future because my dreams are so impractical to pursue considering life in my country. my dream is to pursue fine arts and also become a sucessful phtographer. i ended becoming an IT graduate. fair enough i know computers well.
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@shelagh77 (3643)
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24 Jun 07
Yes, parents do tend to do that, don't they? I wanted to study music but they made me do a secretarial course. I learned on a typewriter but gradually the typewriters went electric, then electronic, then into word processors and now the computers and internet and because I had to do the secretarial course I am now a freelance writer, still study music and build websites, so they actually helped to gain my dreams by an indirect route.
You will find that you can earn a nice living with your IT qualifications, and your knowledge of the web will help you to learn all about fine arts and start your own collection. I wish you well with that, you are already well on the way to that dream, aren't you?
@shelagh77 (3643)
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25 Jun 07
Things do sometimes fall into place but usually you have to sort of help them along.
You know what you will be studying and what free time you have so you will be able to build up your fine arts knowledge at the same time. Also graduates are good sounding boards for business ideas, I think you will do really well once you decide you are going to, you ae nearly there!
@yuanchang (474)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
well i am just starting :D hope i will be happy when everything starts to fall in to place.
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@shelagh77 (3643)
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23 Jun 07
Persistence is a quality you can strengthen in yourself. You are right, there is never enough time to do everything we want to do, but if you actually decide WHAT it is you want to you you will find you become very clever at finding time to do what you want to do. Tried and tested by me!
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Family obligations, lack of perserverance and/or determination and yes, money is a bit of a factor.
I know...you said don't say money. lol If you hadn't mentioned it, I wouldn't have thought about it, but it true to some degree.
The business I wanted to go into requires markting, which, if I had more money, I could have done more marketing. But, I can't blame it all on that. There are ways around lack of money. That I know.
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@shelagh77 (3643)
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3 Jul 07
Money is always a big factor but it is never an insurmountable one. There are a lot of free marketing courses on line and of course I can not find one when I want to recommend one, grrrrr
however, this site has some reasonably priced courses and if you went mad on mylot you could raise the cash that way for the course, and be more prepared when you are ready.
I did a course on web design and it was supposed to take three months on line but it took seven because I had a dangerous relapse halfway through and was very ill, but because it was an on line course and could be done at my own pace in the end I walked it!
I hope that give you some encouragement to get a course under your belt, even if it takes you a year, you will be that bit closer.
http://www1.learndirect-business.com/?target=xpc.asp?course_id=5600%26wbt_type=course&CMP=KNC-ecokw07
@Superfluous (284)
• Philippines
23 Jun 07
As of now, my only problem is myself.. I don't have this "being serious with your career" stuffs. I tend to be so lazy.. and doesn't have any self-confidence so I barely trust myself to do anything. ,,,
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@shelagh77 (3643)
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23 Jun 07
Well, the time to have fun is while you are young, but if you try a little harder you can actually make steps which will enable you to have fun for the rest of your life!
Lazy is just a state of mind. What is your dream?
@fleur_petal (883)
• India
25 Jun 07
well the list is veryy mch huge. i thnk less of motivation. constant hurdles, and i hv to consider money! also i guess sadness and depression does make my producivity low!
@shelagh77 (3643)
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3 Jul 07
In other words, there is NOTHING stopping you! all you need to do is to make up your mind what you want to do and go for it. That is a sure cure for depression :-)
Remember to post back when you have decided upon your goal.
@yuanchang (474)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
my parents are kind of a hindrance for my dreams. but i know that they only care for my future because my dreams are so impractical to pursue considering life in my country. my dream is to pursue fine arts and also become a successful photographer. i ended becoming an IT graduate. fair enough i know computers well.
