How do You Teach/Train Your Children...Or...Make their Personality?

I certainly don't "mold" my child's personality to make things easier for me. We teach morals and values and allow her to make her own mistakes, we teach her from these mistakes.

As parents peopel will be able to be examples tp their childrena nd serve as good role models, meaning you are consistent what you are saying and what you are acting. Coz if you say this and you act the opposite then children will be confused and that will somehow affect their personality as well.

Expose your child to a broad spectrum of experiences....they may activate latent talents. Don't assume that he isn't gifted in an area because he hasn't shown an interest. Help your child open up to he wonders of the world by asking intriguing questions: Why is the sky blue? Find the answers together. Provide a sensory-rich environment....have materials around the home that will stimulate the senses: finger paints, percussion instruments, and puppets. Play games together as a family. Give your child choices...it builds willpower and fuels initiative. Give your child permission to make mistakes...if he has to do things perfectly, he'll never take the risks necessary to discover and develop a gift....

First and foremost i taught my boys that what i said was the way it would be. There were a few exceptions but very few. When i told them "You either clean up your room or you can't go to the party on Saturday" If they did not clean their room (even if it was a monday when i told them) They did not go to the party. I always followed through on the things I said i would do. Secondly I gave them lots of love and hugs and such. I told them to respect others and put themselves in other peoples shoes. I taught them that education is very important. They were all three A students. I am very proud of my sons. They are grown now and i can see what i taught them stuck.

I certainly don't "mold" my child's personality to make things easier for me. We teach morals, values, and allow her to make her own mistakes and teach her from these mistakes.

I don't have much experience in this sector. But I think they need to guided by the parents without imposing to much on the children themselves.

I think it is up to a parent to be a parent...and sometimes that means doing what is best for thier children in the long run. I think that choices are fine...as long as it is not overwhelming. I think that we need to help our children make the right decisions sometimes because with school and peer pressure...it can be very hard.

I give my kids a choice of things. I will explaing which is easier for me and why and I will explain why the other is harderfor me and I will let them decide. Then if they choose the hard way I havethem help me with it so that they learn why it was harder and normally they change there mind. To me that is my way of theaching them logical thinking. By having them assist me they learn what to do and what not to do. I let them make the mistake of picking the wrong one and letting htem see why it was the wrong one. Making mistakes is what life is all about and I will make shure my kids make mistakes so that they can learn from them.

I didnt nor would I ever "train" my kids or try to "make their personality"...that wouldnt be them and IMO its denying them the freedom to be who they are in their souls.....I have no desire to do that to my kids or any kids really....I guide them and have all their lives, I set rules and bounderies for them in order to keep them safe etc but I have ALWAYS encouraged them to be true to their core being and I wouldnt have it any other way.....They are my children, not my pets or puppets ya know..its a total shame and a disgrace IMO when parents FORCE their kids to be how they (the parent) wants them to be...I think that is a horrible way to be and a horrible way to raise a child too really...I've always followed THEIR LEAD rather than have them follow mine....

As a parent i would to like to show some examples to them and make them aware of their future and in terms of carrer i want them to decide of their own and in terms of personality iam going to train them by giving them good examples.

I have never really given this any thought . I want my children to be their own individuals and be the best they can be and tell them this all the time . I try to stay involved and talk to them about anything that is on their mind good or bad and would like to maintain a friendship with my children while still being able to parent them at the same time ( this of course doesn't always work especially when you tell them no for something they really want to do ) . I watch what my children watch on t.v and only allow my younger children to watch educational shows that I feel will benefit them and try to teach them simple things on my own for example : I thought my second youngest how to learn her colors by using a box of smarties , everytime she got the color right she was allowed to have that smartie , it is amazing how fast they will pick up on things when you make it fun and educational . I am not sure if this is what you mean by making up their personality or not but feel that they will turn into who they are meant to be and all I can do is hope that I am doing a good enough job as a parent to raise children that I can be proud of when they are out on their own . I believe that there personality will take shape by what they see and learn from all those around them and that I have to trust that I am making the right decisions when I allow them to make decisions on their own .

You can train behaviors and beliefs and values. But each of us is born with our own personality. Some people are introverted by nature. While they can learn extroverted behavior, they won't feel comfortable with that. They will need to have "alone time" to restore their energy. While extroverted people naturally gravitate to groups of people and gain energy from being around more people. Often a child is born into a family that is very different from the child. For instance, an introverted child can be overwhelmed by a family of extroverts and become very withdrawn. So to help your child thrive within his or her own personality can be a challenge if you don't understand their differences, if you try to make them into someone just like you. But you can shape their values, their beliefs, and their behaviors by modeling them. Children are much more likely to do what you do than to do what you say. If you live by the values, beliefs, and behaviors you want your child to have, they will pick them up. By the time they are eight or nine they will have developed their core values. It is important to try to see the world through their eyes. That doesn't mean you have to agree with what they think they want and need, but it means you will better understand what they really want and need and you will be better able to help them make healthy choices for themselves.

do not give children options, unless you live in a hippie commune and reject all forms of " imposed structure" too many options make children overwhelmed and confused. read "TODDLER TAMING" by Dr Christopher Green ISBN = 0-86824-434-1 it will answer all your concerns, and then some. cheers

Hi, we have to train our children in any field. thanks.

well, I give them options, and even in a warning for bad behavior I do. For instance I will say in my warning these are your choices, you do what I asked of you, or you go sit in time out. I usually let him choose what he wears, and choices that are suitable for a three year old. He know his manner and I let him be creative, and I feed his imagination by playing with him and going with things he creates. Sometimes, especially with food I will tailor his options, because as I want him to be able to choose, I also want him to be healthy. =)

I believe the most convincing way is to live by example. The children are better learners than adults,and the same time they are easily influenced by the circumstances around them. We should try to make them truthful, honest and hard worker, this will make them successful in any field they choose.

Hi! I have a 4 yrs. old daughter and my husband and I often discuss or debate about the discipline that we should employ. Its a never ending discussion but one method that we do agree on is discussion with our daughter. Letting her understand the consequences of her action (this is not easy,especially if your 4 year old is stubborn). Role playing plays a big part because my daughter gets the big picture when we do this. This also gives her a chance to understand between right and wrong.

Bringing up children is not an easy task and it completely rest on the parent shoulder how they mould and become a good personality. Its in the very initial stage you train them with lot of good qualities and habits which can be adapted by them rather than changing and teaching things in the midstream. As a parent we are the best guide, its upto how we make our own kids the best personality. First and foremost observe the kids basic interest, every kid has its own style, just add on and develop paths to put in more talents. They will shape up. Dont limit their choice and ofcourse too many is also not a correct way. We need to strike a balance. But the best thing is just give positive thoughts and keep encouraging, never let them down and discourage.