How Do You Define Yourself?

United States
June 22, 2007 6:09pm CST
Outside of being a wife, mother, sister, daughter and/or friend, how do you really see yourself? I ask, because we seem to get so wrapped up in our roles in life that we forget, or neglect to find out who we truly are...myself included. My husband had a friend stop by for a visit last weekend, and he brought his new girlfriend. The new girlfriend was very nice, but I know I must have bored her! She does not have any children, and I caught myself going on and on about my kids. It hit me, is this all I am...a mom? Can't I find something else to talk about? Has it been so long that I have been out of the loop that I have forgotten how to be interesting? Don't get me wrong. I LOVE being a wife and mother. With a tween, a toddler and a newborn, my life does indeed revolve around my children. I had not noticed this about myself before, because usually I encounter Moms, and of course we are thrilled to discuss our kids. Just curious, how do you define yourself outside of the various roles you play out in life? Me? I am a passionate and tenderhearted woman, and I want to make a difference in this world (we all do, don't we?). I am a writer at heart, and yes it is a passion that burns deep and strong. What about you?
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Leca
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
23 Jun 07
I think the biggest role I see myself in other than my relationships to other people is as a survivor. Between a horribly abuse childhood and ongoing health problems, I feel as if I have learned and grown from the challenges I have faced. Other than that, I am a person who loves to help others, chooses to be tolerant, and tries to avoid defining people based on gender roles, stereotypes, or any other manner except their own worth.
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soccermom
@soccermom (3198)
• United States
23 Jun 07
I totally identify with you moms. I have an 11, a 4 and a 19 month old, and it seems like my life revolves around my kids and my job. It's hard to remember that their was anything else before family. But deep down I'm still a wild and crazy girl, I just have to control myself in front of the kids! LOL I've been making it a point to ship the kids off to grandmas once a month though and get in touch with the "real" me, and it also helps my marriage.