Should you adopt or have your own children?
By uncalona
@uncalona (10)
United States
June 22, 2007 6:59pm CST
I've always said that I wanted to adopt children instead of having my own. I just always felt that there were plenty of children in the world who were already without parents, that I didn't need to bring any more into the world.
I started dating my husband about 2 and a half years ago, and he wanted to have his own children. So about 7 months ago, I gave birth to a beautiful little boy. I'm definitely not sorry about it. I love him to pieces! But I'm not really sure if I want to have any more.
Everyone keeps asking us when we will have more children. I mostly just look at them and smile, or say that mine is still a baby and I don't need another one just yet.
I still want to adopt. I know that I will make a wonderful mother to any child and there are still plenty who need parents.
So what do you think? Have you ever thought about adopting? Or do you want your own kids?
Have you already adopted? Is there anyone who had their own child and then adopted too??
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5 responses
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
23 Jun 07
I fathered two sons and I am about to marry a lady that has three children of her own. One she gave birth to and two that she adopted. I can tell you that each child is treated the same. I am just as over protective of my soon to be step children as I am of the sons I adopted. I am just as close to my fiancees children as my own.
If you and your husband agree about adopting then I think you should do it. For my family it has been a wonderful experience.
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@nativepukeko (49)
• New Zealand
29 Dec 07
I have 7 children. 4 of my own and 3 adopted/fosterd. To all the kids Im MUM! Just being a parent is a challenge on top of dealing with personality dynamics of my own kids and my adopted ones. Either way its a challenge to parent.
@taurean83 (505)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Taking care of those kids who are orphan is a very good and kind deed.But I feel Your idea of adopting children is not bad if you want to do this for social welfare,I think the feelings for your own baby is much more than for the one you have adopted.Because the pain and the feeling of having your own baby for whole 9 months is different.I want to adopt a kid too in fact I have newborn baby boy as well,but I always get afraid because,what if I couldn't treat or give proper invironment to the adopted one,what if I will not be a good mother for him/her.I do not want that kid will suffer because of me.It is easy to say that you wanted to adopt a kid and want to have your own too,but when it comes to reality it changes.Very few peoples take good care of those adopted children.I wanted to adopt too but afraid cause I do not want anyone will suffer in his or her life cause of me.
@RicotheWolf (156)
• United States
23 Jun 07
I think I would want my own child only cause I know I'll have a close connection with something that I helped create. But I see no reason why i cannot adopt a child seeing as how so many already need homes.
Congratulations about having your own baby and I hope you do adopt some lucky child and shower them with your affection.
