Would you wanna stay friends after a breakup?

To this day I have never remained friends with any of my exes. Some I loathe, and some ended okay, on good terms but I chose not to talk to them anymore. If me and my hubby ever split up, we would remain friends. I know no matter what that I couldn't stay angry with him, even if we werent together and I feel a good relationship would be nice for the kids :)

Yes you're right pal. It's quite hard to become friends again after a very painful break-up. Break-ups are always painful isn't it?. It's better to be friends somehow but I if the decision is not mutual ( I mean with the break-up) That'll be tough. ;(

i agree with you with that... some people dont have a good relationship as couples but can be good friends, but we have different traits and characters. it may ok for us but the person we wanted to be friend has a different thinking. but for me it is always nice to remain as friends and i mean real good friends

It's too difficult to become friends after the breakup. As it'll be so sad to me. I prefer to get away with him alone for a long time. After I recover and then it's possible to remain as friends.

I tend to not hold grudges as it is rather unhealthy. It would depend on the break up and then see what happens from there. That's how I feel about it and sometimes I don't hear from people again so there you go not because of hatred but because of just moving on in life. If it's mutual then yeah I could stay friends with someone. If it's ugly then I would say no and that'd be the end of it.

I don't hold grudges whether I was once hurt by the person. For me to forgive is to forget. Its hard for anyone to do this especially if they are deeply hurt by the one they love. They think most of the time how they had suffered in pain. Of course you need time to heal your agony. Once you get through with it, you need to move on. If the person is not right for you and you believed that its not meant to be. Go ahead face the world with a smile on your face. Its not the end of the world when you close you door to someone. God has better plans for you and perhaps that past relationship is just one of the trials that you must need to surpass so you will learn something from it. He prepares us without us knowing it so we can handle better with another person in the future.

if i broke up with my bf i dont think i could talk to him aferwards, it would be to hard i think

I really envy you are able to remain friends after a breakup. In my opinion, it all depends on why the breakup happen in the first place. If everything is fine, why part? If it was parted amiably where both agree to part because of incompatibility, there is higher possibility of remaining as friends. However, often, it is difficult to remain as friends as most couple breakup because of some unhappiness and especially when one find it hard to forgive and forget.

i wouldn't mind being friends after a breakup. it would probably be hard at first but in time i think it would be ok. although things might not be the same as they used to be but if we can't be lovers then perhaps we're much better off as friends.

I think it would be hard to remain as friends when you have grudges. When you breakup mutually, staying as friends could be possible. But if your ex has someone new. I guess it would hurt. I really don't know, I haven't been in that situation before.

I think that it depends on a lot of things, the relationship and how it ended for example. I still love my ex, and would take him back if he wanted to get back together (even tho he cheated on me). We have a son together (that's not why I would take him back), so I will always have a relationship with him. I think that it would be better for it to be a friendly relationship than a hostile one. Besides, he's my "Ducky" (think John Cryer in Pretty in Pink) and he always will be.

I don't mind being friends with an ex.. i really don't. But it depends on the other person to. If my ex doesn't mind to be friends, then by all means. But if for whatever reason he doesn't want to, then I guess it's better off that way then and don't push it. So basically, it all depends on the ex. Because I don't care too much about the past.. even if it was a bad breakup. Like my ex and i, we just stick to the basic "hi, how are you?", "good" then la la la la la... and move away. hahaha.. :D

i am friends with just 1 out of all my ex. i am not sure if it's because we have a child together has anything to do with it but,he consider me as his bestfriend and i do the same we talk abut everything together even though he is married an i am engaged we still talk everyday and are concern about each other.

I have remained friends with my ex and we are happier. My brother remains friends with his own exes and hes happy, too. So I see no reason why you shouldn't be their friends, I mean, if you still wanna be friends, that's your choice, but if the break up is beyond repair... That's your decision. It's your choice no matter what. You can be friends or enemies. Take your pick

I feel if the breakup is mutual and both parties are happy with the decision as the best one under given circumstances, then maybe they can reamin friends esp. if it was long relationship. But if the breakup was hard as one was caught cheating or dumped one for another then breakup leads to mistrust and hurt. And i don't think one can remains friends then.

It depends on the person and the situation around the break up. With some people, it's just easier to get along with them, even if things have turned out bad. Having a mutual break up with out a lot of fuss certainly helps the situation a lot I think. When you have one of those rather nasty break ups, where someone ends up cheating and they haven't been the best partner period, you just don't want anything to do with them, so that's pretty much it for the relationship. Friendship or otherwise. Sometimes I'd rather leave the past behind, that includes relationship partners. Some of those people I'd rather not have around. Otherwise, if we're still able to remain friends after the break up, then so be it. I don't have any problems with that as long as they understand the relationship is over.

Hmm, I guess all this really depends on how the couple really broke up. If it was an amiable one with mutual consent, I guess that makes it easier for them to continue to remain friends. However, if it was a really nasty breakup for example due to some disagreement both parties fought bitterly over, then it would probably not be so easy for them to continue to be friends after that.

I think this is an ideal state to keep friends with ex-es. But I would say it really depends on how the stories ended. Some of the stories are really ugly and I wouldn't want to be reminded of, like the person started invading your privacy and accusing you of something you didn't do, I would delete the person in my system. But if it's a friendly break up, then I would love to have that person as a friend because somehow at some point we did fall in love and I treasure that as a memory. So it really depends on the person.

Wow I never wanted to be friends with an ex. But then my ex was violent. I moved me & my kids from TX to WI just to get away from him.

I think it depends on the circumstances and if you guys want to keep it going. Sometimes the hurt from the breakup is too much to handle, that seeing the other person and remaining friends, makes it very hard to keep being friends. Personally i would love to stay friends, but i haven't been so lucky with my intentions, and i've missed some very important people in my life.