Want me to approve you as a friend?

I usually look in a persons profile before deciding wether or not to accept them, I look at their discussions, and try deciding from there. If I think a person has interesting discussions, then I put a friend request.

I definitely feel ya.I dont want nobody to be obligated to respond but i do i see certain ones posting but never do they come by to check my discussions.I made a similar discussion but not exactly here it is http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1142451.aspx

I have to say I agree with you on this one! I've received numerous requests from people to add me as a friend who've not responded to any discussion I've started nor have I repsonded to anything they started so how do they know they we have anything in common. I've received friends requests from people here who I responded to one of their discussions and requested me to be a friend so I've thought "why not?" and accepted them. Then I've gone along to their discussions and had a look through and answered a few and noticed that they didn't come back and respond to a single one of mine which leads me to believe that they only added me so I could respond to their existing discussions or that I would get alerts whenever they started new discussions (not falling for that one as I have very few people on alerts). I can't be bothered to go round deleting these people who I know very well who they are but I think if they can't be bothered to even respond to a discussion of mine here and there, why would I go out of my way to answer any of theirs. On the other, I'm such an opinionated whatnot that I will respond generally to any discussion that I find interesting LOL so if might be a friend on here who's not replied to any of mine but I still want to respond to some or lots of theirs... I noticed a discussion (or was it more than one) telling people to go around adding anyone and everyone whose username they saw in discussions in the hope that at least a few people would accept them as a friend and automatically start responding to their discussions, that one made me laugh! Then I've seen comments from people that they would not reject ANY request to add them as a friend as they felt it was mean. I don't think it's mean. I would rather just add people who have similar interests to me and I can respond regularly to their discussions as they interest me and who might sometimes respond to mine, is that too much to ask? I hope not, I hope it's in spirit with this site...

Yes I get them all the time. These people request to be your friends, never respond to any of your discussions and if you approve them, than all you get is spam from them. So I agree with you. If they really want to be your friend, then why can't they respond to your discussions.

I can see where you are coming from Tom but I wonder. Do you respond to your friends discussions? There are times I wonder why someone has requested to be on my friends list but I figure that they must have their own reasons so I respect that. It doesn't hurt to have a big friends list does it?

honestly? i don't look forward on adding a friend but have to respond first with the discussion, but yours is different though, when i read this? i'm curious, even if your not a friend to me as long as i like your respond to a certain discussion, i'll add you immediately,if i like your discussion i'll definitely respond to it.I'm here for friendship and i don't go intpo detail..everybody's welcome to add me or response to my discussion.. hope you'll think of it in different way, they add you coz they like your response :)

Yes. Maybe they have the same interest. I don't write alot.

How are you ? Welcome to myLot.

Wow, seems almost like an order to reply to one of posts. It would be a conditional friendship then I guess!