update on my situation

Why did his parents lie to you that you weren't allowed to visit? Also, excuse my ignorance...what does sectioned mean? I feel bad that things are turning out this way for you...has his personality changed so radically? Is it because of his panic disorder or from medications..sometimes meds can completely alter a person's personality--I'll be praying for you that things will have a positive outcome --somehow

OMG Galena! I'm so sorry you are goin through this!! Why would his family/parents lie to you like that though??...I realize this must be pure hell for you and no doubt you are probably playing mindgames with yourself which is totally understandable and he, due to his mental state at the moment is probably feeding the mental fire for you BUT please keep in mind that he ISNT in the best frame of mind at the moment and really neither are you if you think about it...I wouldnt stress myself over things like "he wont want me anymore" and the like...easier said than done of course but please cut yourself some slack...you are FAR FROM pathetic IMO and this is a really hard place for anyone to be...Take things day by day, DON'T FORGET ABOUT TAKIN CARE OF YOU! even if its little things to somewhat destress and keep in touch with the beautiful being that you are, every little bit will help....Caving every so often isnt a bad thing either..if you need to break down and cry uncontrolably then do it but make sure you pick yourself back up again ya knwo.... my heart really goes out to you Galena...I cant even imagine what you are goin through....but from what you've shown here you ARE a strong woman and you can pull through this...even though it feels like you cant..(THAT feeling i'm all too familiar with)

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation, Galena. What a scary time this must be for you. I really have to commend you for hanging in there and making the cake anyway, and I hope he did take it and enjoy it. Having a partner with mental illness isn't an easy thing, as I'm sure my husband would say. I do hope that once he is feeling better you will be able to work something out. If not, then I hope that you can recongnize that you have done all you can do, and find your own way to find peace with the situation.

this is so sad, and i do not believe you are pathetic. I would do a bit of research on my own, particularly about hospital rules and regulations. Is it possible that the reason he is having difficulty seeing you is he doesn't want any one to see how bad he really is? I mean his illness not person. I know when I am not feeling very well I tend to want to be left alone. I would talk to his support staff at the hospital and see what they think. If you are his partner and have lived together for 7 years than you do have rights and I would pursue that. His family do not have the right to keep you at arms length, and if they are playing games at yous and his expense, then you know what to do. This man is having problems and until he gets it sorted out and you say you love him I would tell him "I support you, if you need space to breath, then discuss it with me and we will work out something. but please do not leave me in the dark, because my mind plays games and I have a great deal of difficulty, keeping my head on straight" that is a very reasonable request. and he knows you are there for him. I do wish you and him well. Robin

I am so, so sorry Galena. You are not pathetic, and why do you think he's not going to want to be with you when he gets out? Things will work themselves out, they always do. Just know that you are strong enough, and tell yourself that you are, even when you think you aren't...and you'll get through it. *HUGS*

I am so sorry to hear of your situation but I am glad that you found out it was a lie told by his parents. Although it is painful, at least you know you have the right to have contact with him. I think that you will be surprised at how much strength you do have even though it may feel that the opposite is true. It may feel like a roller-coast ride at the moment, but life has a way of resolving things. My thoughts are with you :-)

Of course you're not pathetic. It's a horrible situation for you to have to cope with - it would be hard enough even if his parents were being supportive of you, and it's only natural that you'd be feeling helpless and powerless right now even without that extra stress and adversity from them. I'd advise you to take some time to centre yourself, to work through those feelings in whatever way suits you best, because once you've written down all the negative feelings, or expressed them in some other way, only you will be left, and you'll be in a better place to gather your inner strength and deal with the situation. You are a strong person, and you can get through this. I also know from how you've described him, that your partner will understand how tough the situation has been for you, and certainly doesn't sound like the sort of person to reject you for feeling overwhelmed by such a nightmare scenario. It's time for some positive "you-time", to help you get through this. All the best, and my best wishes to you.

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this Galena. What a horrific situation to have to go through! Don't blame this on yourself, and please do not think that your husband won't want you anymore after this. Right now if he's on meds for his panic attacks, they may be affecting how he thinks. Allow yourself to feel your pain though. Blocking it out will only hinder you in the long run. You are also NOT pathetic! Galena, I don't know you so well. But I've always enjoyed your discussions and your responses to mine. From your discussions you strike me as a strong intelligent lady. That isn't the sign of someone pathetic. Take your partners cake for him, and continue to show him you care. At the end of all of this, he will come to respect you more for the care and the dedication you've shown him regardless of how he treat you during this time. Hang in there Galena. Things WILL get better!