What Would You Have Done?

JUst in one of my other discussions I was saying I am not one to hesitate complaining but i think in instances like this it's just best to brush it off and say nothing cos you'll probably just get yourslef in more of a rage by getting on her case and no matter what she'll go home thinking your the one with the problem. I think in supermarkets there is so many fights. People get themselves so stressed and some people really just don't have a clue how to behave towards other people. I think you done the right thing by just going away and saying nothing and just trying to get on with your day cos no matter what you said to that woman she would have thought that she was right. Sometimes though you really just wish that you could give people a real piece of your mind and tell them their behaviour is totally acceptable.

I might have said.....I don't see any other cart. And then I probably would have stayed there. But of course that's easy for me to say now cause it didn't happen to me. There have been many times when I wish I would have spoke up and said something to rude people. Sometimes I will do it, and other times I don't and feel bad later that I didn't.

Were you already in the line and she pushed in front of you? If so when she said 'you can't get behind me' you should have said 'you should be behind me I was here first' and stood your grand. If she didn't let you back in front of her you still shouldn't have walked away. You can be polite but firm and stand your ground. But to be fair there is a time in my life when I would have let her get away with it and just walked away mad - it took me a long to get to the point I can stand up for myself.

I most likely would have said something.....but sometimes it's just easier to walk away and not even waiste your breath on someone that ignorant. Just don't let people like that spoil your good mood.....you know she was wrong and would it really have made you feel better if you had said something to her? I don't think it would have made a difference to her either way.

I think you did the right thing to let it go and if you said something there's no telling what would happened . There is way too many people that are rude and just don't care about other people's feelings.

I am not a confrontational person by nature, but I believe this would have pushed me a bit to far. I hate grocery shopping in the first place and by the time I get to the checkout I'm pretty viscious.I don't think I would have left, but I also don't think I would have made a big scene. It's nice to stand on the outside after the fact and say OH, I would have told that woman where to get off, and pushed my way back in front of her, but I don't think anyone can honestly say what we would have done in that situation. I uderstand perfectly how you felt afterward about not speaking up and wondering if you were a doormat or something. She WAS the one who was rude, but what would making a scene have accomplished? You would still be upset when you left the store and more than likely still have been second guessing your actions. I can't say you were right or wrong here and as I've said, I really can't say what I would have done, except been boiling inside. Congradulations to your son on his gaduation by the way.

I see by reading this entire discussion that it was not really about the inconvenience, but about her poor attitude. You said if she had asked nicely, you would have had no trouble. I think I am a lot like you. I would not have wasted any of my time or breath on her, as I can control myself, even if I cannot control the other person. I think talking about it here is a real release. You did the right thing, and anyone around knows that you did the right thing. You did not lower yourself to her level. It is too bad if she was able to destroy your joy, though, even for a minute. Best wishes to the graduate, I hope the celebration was a blast.

I hate confronting others and would probably have done the same thing as you but would have been upset about it all day about how others can be ignorant and not even realize it . You were in the line first and she cut in front of you so how she could have said that you were not being nice is beyond me . Some people can be really pushy and bossy and it makes you wonder how they got to be this way and do they really think this is the way to go about doing things . When they go home at night do they really think they were in the right ?

I would most definitely have spoken up. What a rude ignorant little b**ch! I wouldn't even have let her get in line in front of me. I would have said "excuse me, you're not the only one with places to be, now could you join the line like everyone else has to do?" And if she refused, I would have made a complaint to the manager. Don't feel bad that you didn't speak up. We all react in different ways when confronted with an awkward or uncomfortable situation.

Oh! You weren't rude at all! I hate rude people! She had no right to ask you to get out of line, her friend should have been with her, or she should have let you go ahead of her! I had an experience with a rude person not to long ago! If you want to read my disucussion about the rude lady at mcdonalds! It was terrible!

What you have done was truly admirable...my, if I were the one, I'd have freaked out and reasoned with her. Anyway, she was the aggressor and you chose to keep quiet so as not to make a scene, so you were the 'good' person there. Some people think that the world owes them, that's why they are so demanding, they like to get what they want. Anyway, that woman may have also her 'story' like she was treated unfairly as a child, so now she is getting even at everything...that could just be an example of a 'story'. Behind the facade of hostility, aggression is a bruised person who is just trying to be 'vindictive' and picks on anyone she comes across with. So next time you meet people who are so demanding, think of a possible explanation behind it....congrats for choosing a passive but more civil response to a rude behavior...

You did well to restrain your self to this extent! I admire your self control! This woman was rude and self centered, and there was no percentage in trying to teach her anything! The only advise that I can offer is.....If a like incident should ever happen again, Try not get upset about it, maintain your Pride. Hold your head up and Send this woman Love. (God Knows she needs Help) I would Hope that in your position, I would have been able to carry it off just as you did. Congratulations!

I think you did the right thing. Starting a discussion with her wouldn't change anything. If you started it, she would probably win, people with that kind of attitude is used to these things. By just walking away you were the bigger person, and i would feel good about myself knowing that.

I think ur in a good mood and u have done shopping for ur son i too waste that much time for that kind of people just u walk away from her and we should not care for such kind of poeple let them leave for their fate but i will not get disppointed and i wont make other also..........

Im a reserved guy in that cases, cause we never know what happens, which reactions that other people have. Im from Portugal and generally people are good and non-violent, but it happens sometimes to meet a angry person and we dont know what he can do. Im small and weak so...i dont take the risk. 5 minutes or 5 less words we say can make our day less stressfull.

i have had this happen to me before, and i said excuse me what do you think your doing, and all she did was look at me and say oh sorry. and went behind me. but in your case, it sounded like that lady needed to be put in her place. i dont like people like that

I would've done exactly what you did...I mean, why make things worse? That person wasn't worth your attention in any way, if you had responded, she would've had power over you. I suppose there are a few things in life response is required, but not in a checkout line when there's a rude person involved. Try and understand, too, that person is probably very unhappy, and maybe people have treated her really badly in her life. I try to think of these things when that sort of thing happens to me...once in awhile I'm successful, not like I'd like to be all the time. I just keep practicing...trying to be compassionate, that is, and stay in a positive frame of mind.

f were in that sitution, I will definitely confron that person. These people ofte do this because they think they can get away with it. It should not bee case. They have no regard for the other person's feeling. They do not know how to respect others. I personally think that this people need to go back to school or have their parents teach them some manners. I get irritated with these type of people. They don't even think what they would feel if someone did that to them.

i won't keep quiet, i will complain, i think the time is the most important thing for youngling.

Is awful when someone manages to screw your day. It just not worth arguing with this kind of people because they have other mentality, other character, other life concepts.They don't think that their actions are wrong. I rather leave and go to another line and ignore them.