im pregnant. what to do?
By vanezzyi
@vanezzyi (206)
Philippines
June 23, 2007 10:46pm CST
i am 22 years old. and I am 7 months pregnant. My bf knew about it from day 1, we made plans together about our baby. But a month ago, he went out of the country and when he got back, it seems that he just doesnt care anymore. He is not talking to me nor picking up my calls. I have told my mom already that I am pregnant, and he is the father. He wouldn't even talk to my mom or tell his parents about it. I really don't know what to do now. I expected him to be responsible for me and this child, then all of a sudden on the last minute, he would just bail out, 2 mos away my due date. My friends told me I should be the one to tell his mom, so at leat tey would know. but I am so scared. I am scared that they would think I am just a crazy little girl their son knocked up. Pls help me.
3 responses
@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
24 Jun 07
Hi venezzyi! Now that you are pregnant definitely his family has to know about your existance and about your child. I also think that the child should have born wellplanned and not out of wedlock. Thinks like that rarely happens in my country. That's why i love my India.
@vanezzyi (206)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
i do not what his plans are. I havent talk to him yet since he came back from his vacation. His family knows about us cause we have been together for 4 years now, i was just thinking that he probably found some1 else from his vacation that is why he changed his plan so suddenly. He will be leaving again on tues, so I will have to decide overnight whether i should be the one to tell his parents if he can't. Sigh. Thank you very much for the support.
@sharonercastillo (888)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
i hate to say this, but maybe you think of the consequences first before you do anything,.... my advise is tell his parents, they have the right to know that they'll be having a grandchild soon... you wouldn't know their reactions are till you tell them. ... as for the father, i dont know what to say, lets just pray he comes to his senses and be responsible.
@cybermom45 (196)
• United States
24 Jun 07
First, know you will not be left alone. There are so many orginizations to help you now and when your baby arrives.Make sure you put his name on the birth certificate as the babies father. His parents deserve the right to know they are going to be Grandparents. If he is not man enough to tell them, then yes you should. if they choose to believe you are some crazy girl their son knocked up, then to bad for them. They will miss out on being grandparents. There is an organization called Hope Pregnancy center that will help you prepare for your babies arrival and help you after his/her birth. There is probably a chapter near you. Look online for Hope Pregnany center and you will find your nearest location. If you don't have one nearby,most Catholic churches have help available. Catholic churches are not the only denomination there to help. In fact many,many churches would love to help you. Your b/f is obligated by law to help you support your baby. You may be forced to have a DNA test on the baby after he/she is born to get that financial support, but that isn't a big deal.In Texas the Attorney General will go after him for child support regardless of whether he is instructed by the courts to provide it or not. Most state govts. don't want to shoulder the financial assistance of helping you care for your baby if the Father and his whereabouts are known. Don't be afraid, now is the time to be strong. So what if his parents act like jerks like their son. Your baby has you and your family. Be strong and remember you are not alone in this. If you need to talk I am here. I may not be able to do much more than lend an empathetic ear, but sometimes that is just what you need. God bless you and your baby.
