Save my marriage

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On May 20, 2006 my husband told me that “this” doesn’t work, that “this” is over. That he needs space; he doesn’t feel the same way as before, that he wants to do different things with his work/ job. That he has a lot of pressure. Lately he has been spending a lot of money on our house project; he made a pool, office, additional bathroom. This construction cost him three times what he was suppose to. Financially we are going through a rough time, he owes money to his parents, grandmother, and friend. He even has the American Express up to $10,000. He also has two other credit cards and two lines of credits. I want to help and support him but he doesn’t want to get help. I told him that we should go through marriage counseling and he doesn’t want to. He left the house twomonths ago and since then I haven’t spoken to him nor seen him. He now lives with his parents. I miss him very much and I would like for him to come back home. He does not have money but does have money for his sports car. I think that his priorities are not the same as mine. He is very ambitious and loves money, well he is a CPA. He likes to spend money and have a nice life. My priorities are different, I wanted a Baby and he doesn’t want one for now. He says that I’ve been pressuring him a lot with the baby issue. We both have faults in our relationship but I think we can work things out. I want to save my marriage but he doesn’t event want to talk to me. He says that everything is going to be talked through the lawyers. I would like to know what I should do in this situation. I know that is only been two months and that I should give him his space. I think he is very confused and took a very fast decision. He already filed for divorce and the reason is “Irreconcilable differences”. I will like to talk to him but I can’t find the way to do so. I’m afraid to go to where he works at because he might reject me. I even went to his house and his mother didn't let me talk to him at all. I thought that I was in the happiest time in my relationship. Please, tell me what to do. Thank You, Shekira Alicea