Commitment Does It Make You Want To Run?

Yes wolfie I know you are. I feel bad that you have been hurt so badly that commintment scares you so. I have been hurt many times too but i KNOW somewhere out there I will find someone who won't hurt me. I am not scared of commitment although the older i get the more alone time I want. I would like to have someone to go out with and have a god time with but at the end of the night. I could have my own place to go too. So not sure if that is a commitment issue or not.

I have made a commitment in marriage and God. Getting married is a big commitmentSo far things has looked good for me and IO do stick with my commitment and feel safe and secure as I am married for almost 25 years in August 7th.

as you know my good friend. I have been committed to my guy for almost 50 years now and don't you dare give up . I know and all those who know you know that you are a very sweet sensitive guy and you have a lot pf love to give, you will find a soul mate pal , that I can feel in my heart , I really and truly believe that there is someone out there for all of us and we will find them xxxx

Well I guess it depends on what you mean by commitment. Certainly I am happy in my relationship - I like having somemone to come home to, someone to laugh with, someone to share things with, and - yes - someone to wake up with and cuddle in the mornings! I can survive perfectly well on my own, but sometimes it's nice to have someone to help when things get rough. I wouldn't particularly want to be alone 24/7. However, I definately wouldn't want to be in a relationship if it made me feel trapped or caged - I want my freedom within a relationship if that makes sense? I can't deny that I am a bit scared of stuff like marriage. Eduardo and I are not married because we don't want to be - the idea of a piece of paper and some legal mumb-jumbo "tyimg" me to someone else (even someone I love) is scary to me - and to him too. We are with each other because we want to be - not because either of us feel trapped by a marriage certificate, or by the rules of society - so maybe I am a little scared of it. OK - guess this answer sounds like I'm sitting on the fence here! LOL!

I HAVE ALSO ENDURED A LOT OF CRAP AND ABUSE IN MY LIFE WOLFIE BUT i MUST SAY I NEVER SAY NEVER BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT BEAUTIFUL THINGS May be around the corner..don't limit yourself to past experiences only set yourself boundaries in new relationships so you don't get hurt again..You are a lovely person and deserve to be loved and I am sure there is someone out there, just waiting to be the love of your life..Both hubby and me felt the same.but I always believed there is someone just for me.I will always try to look for the highest in human nature even though lurking in all of us is the dark side..May God sgine His grace on all of us man..

I cling to commitment, I love it! IT makes me feel safe, loved and comfortable! I have a guy I have been with for 6 years, since I was 17 and he was 19, we have two beautiful children and one on the way. I love it! I wouldnt have it any other way! =)

well, no but... it depends of who you are commiting to. I hate when someone invades my personal space and i have let go of the things i like to do most! Be commited with someone who has the same tastes in life! It's easier!

No Wolfie I am not I am committed to my Man, my Kids and of course to Gissi and I have never run away from Comittment be it in my previous Marriage my job or anything like that I am not scared of it

Nope. I grab it and flow with it, I'm not bothered about it because personally I'd rather know where I stood in life and try to guide it to the places where I'd like too. Kudos, ~Joey

Lol wolfie. somtimes. I know that years ago i could have answered you with a yes. but now i really am not scared of commiting in relationships and other things. I know there are still situation in which i feel like runing away and dropping everything, but usually i do not. :)

I guess, I must say committment for me, my dearest Wolfie...I have been married almost 20 years this time and 11 year the last time (which was also very abusive)...I am glad that I was able to trust again because without that trust...I would have missed out on the beauty of a loving, mutually respectful realtionship and the true meaning of "love" for a significant other...

Actually, i'm not yet committed to someone now, but in the future i will surely have a commitment. I guess that won't scare me because commitment is part of our life. Everyone will experience it and i think it makes our life more meaningful. We should not think negatively to commitment because it still has a great importance.

i think I am but i'm too young to worry!

What's the mean of"abymsal"?

It makes me want to run right at my gf,lol. i would never be scared of the commitment we have with eachother, I don't feel tied, just happy.:)

You seem to be like you are phobic towards "commitments"..!!! Well in my case I love it.But commitments does not means that you are bound up to do certain things. I mean being free as bird in the commitment. In a marraiges commitments mean no cheating and only loving and the smell of belongingness!! And after that you are all free. I don't have any fright from commitment ....if I do get scared at certain stages I change the rules..!! Very simple. Just set your own rules in your commitment and you will be free again.

Commitment is my middle name. I've been happily married for 26 years. I could not imagine life any differently. Once you find the right person you will know what I mean.

No, commitment does not make me want to run. On thecontrary, i desperately want a commitment. i want to find that person to love who loves me in return in the same way. i want desperately to fall in love with the person i will be with forever. Itwouldbe my world to meet them, fall in love, and be with them forever. It's what i crave...what i need. Commitment doesn't scare me...it calls to me.

You look very committed to that beautiful cat.Certainly a mutual admiration thing going on there. You musnt judge any future relationship by whats happened before only learn from experience. Fears have to be overcome or they can mar your future happiness. Prehaps it can be a matter of changing the type of person that you are usually attracted to. Or a bit more soul searching, is it something in your personality that needs adjusting that incurs the negative behavior pattern.

i am not scared of commitment but i am scared of doing with somebody with whom i can never adjust and understand that person or viceversa....So i feel we need to think twice for commiting with somebody... I don't expect from other person that even he should do the same if that person is not comfortable with me....