Consideration
By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48686)
United Kingdom
June 24, 2007 3:02pm CST
Now some of you might remember about my thumping neighbour Upstairs
Well the heave footed walking I have to allow, but do I have to allow the fact that they have been home all Day and at 9pm they start moving Furniture round, start hoovering and that
Now that did annoy me tonight and I did something I normally do not do
I turned my Music up loud as I got so cheesed of
There is no need for that at all, the noise that is coming from up there now is really unbelievable
If it happens again then I will complain to the landlord as I do not have to put up with this, it is not the first time this has happened only the other night it was at 11pm.
So there is one grumpy Gabs here at the moment believe me
I would knock on the ceiling with a broom or something but I am worried in case it caves in lol
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32 responses
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Hi Grumpy Gabs LOL Im just kidding I would have done the same thing. Your right there is no consideration at all. Have you talked to the people upstairs yet? Maybe you can ask them to please keep it down. But I dont know how they would take it. I think if they keep doing that I would talk to the landlord. I really hope they stop for your sake.
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@jazzafrazz (910)
• Canada
25 Jun 07
Hey Gabs,
No worries about the ceiling. I've been there myself, once or twice. Dealing and dueling with inconsiderate neighbours who have no conscience at all. Pity shame really. I don't get what it is, why they behave so rudely.
@weemam (13372)
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24 Jun 07
not very nice doing that , I am always considerate of my neighbours and them of me , and if they are doing any work on the house the warn me and I them , I think it only polite , but outside at night you can hear every sound in the street and the other night a neighbours family were going home after being here on holiday , it was about 5 am and they were all shouting their good buys and I so wanted to shout at them to shut up , but the neighbours they were visiting are almost 90 and lovely people so I just gritted my teeth xx
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@shelagh77 (3643)
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25 Jun 07
You are lucky. We have a full scale war going on outside here. I am very frightened that somebody may have been injured since there is an ambulance, police with dogs are swarming around everywhere, there are half a dozen police cars and a van and everyone is being advised not only to stay in but make sure their doors are locked . . .
@shelagh77 (3643)
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25 Jun 07
I think if you could be upstairs and downstairs at the same time you would find that it is the accoustics which make most of the trouble. Remember when you lived at home and the kids sounded like a herd of elephants having a fight with some rhinos?
I am sure they don't mean to be so bad, and before you try the landlord approach I would try having a word with your spiritual friend who visits and ask how to beam a bit of love and peace up there to see if that works first.
You are in the right and need your sleep but unfortunately I have found that when a person invokes a landlord the other party retaliates and every petty thing gets reported to the landlord, whether it has happened or not and things can really escalate.
I live in a really nice area, that is the annoying thing. I think these flats must be on a ley line or something. There are four hot spots in our area and this is the worst one.
Deafness helps in a way because I am totally oblivious to a lot of it but it is a disadvantage in that I don't hear the build up and when things are really out of hand it is a big shock. I CAN hear vibration noise though so bangs and crashes are doubly loud to me.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
25 Jun 07
But I don't think I am lucky Sweet as I am not used to this I live in a quiet area as you know and it is not fair that they are being like this
I know I would not like to live in your Area I would never sleep it would scare me
I hope everything is ok there now
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
25 Jun 07
Well I am looking already elsewhere anyway so I will put up with it for now I can not be asked to fall out with neighbors and I need a garden for Gissi and me so I am looking but it won't happen till late this year or next year
Depends when I can find something
@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
25 Jun 07
The one and only time we lived in a condo unit was for only 3 months. I couldn't stand having someone over my head. The people up stairs where so loud. The stairs for the upper units ran down my living room wall and they where the only people we would hear on the stairs, They parked their second vehicle in my parking stall. I just hated having people living on my head. I have the greatest sympathy for you on this matter.
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@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
25 Jun 07
Have you tried saying something to them. The people that lived over us didn't care but maybe yours will. The other problem we had in the condo was lack of sound proofing. Ii I was in the bedroom I could hear the people up stairs talking in their bathroom and I don't mean mumbles I could hear every word.
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Oh my, how un considerate they are. Try talking nice to them. Then go to the management. Use the broom, if they still do not get the hint. Good luck sugar.
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@nannacroc (4049)
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25 Jun 07
It seems the thinner the walls get the less thoughtful the neighbours are. We've got new neighbours and they seem to think that 10p.m to 2 a.m are the best times to start drilling and hammering. Just a bit of thought would make life so much nicer for others. Hugs to you Gabs nd take care of yourself.
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@dana234 (2114)
• Spain
25 Jun 07
Oh, the elephants again. So they don´t only thump around, they are now doing the cleaning at night. They really seem to be a pain in the neck. It seems the only option that you got left is to complain to the landlord.
Your comment about the broom made me laugh. I knocked on the ceiling with mine once to get the attention of my roller skating neighbours and some of the paint of the ceiling came off. My wonderful neighbours didn´t even realize I knocked fiercely with the broom, lol.
Hugs
XXX Dana
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
25 Jun 07
We have neighbors that are retired. Instead of doing his yard work during the week when nobody is home, he will do it early Sunday morning when we are trying to sleep in. It is just plain rude.
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@GardenGerty (160998)
• United States
25 Jun 07
That is hard and you probably will just have to let the landlord handle it. I am sure they have no idea how loud their activities sound to you. I used to get mad, then I started getting even. When I bought this house it was two apartments, and the upstairs was rented out. The young single mom would have loud company come running up the stairs or turn the tv up loud. At the time my kiddos were sleeping on sofas in the living room, as we were needing to get the money coming in to reconvert to single family. I just got to where I would vacuum (hoover) really early in the morning under their bedrooms. and in that same entry way. Man did it echo. I had another stunt I pulled at another duplex, but that can wait for another time.
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
25 Jun 07
How inconsiderate your neighbors are. Some people retire to bed as early as 9. I know if the winter months when I am teaching and have to be at the hospital with students at 6 a.m., I am often in bed at 9 pm. I belive that I would wait a day or two and go up and talk to them. I would very matter-of-factly state my concerns and ask for their cooperation.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
25 Jun 07
You should send Gissi upstairs to talk to them firmly. I am sure Gissi could work out a deal with them. Like, they could be quiet and Gissi will not bite them or growl at them. LOL I would talk to the landlord now. I would not wait for it to happen again.
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Oh...Gabs...that is absolutely intolerable...You should not have to tolerate this behavior....I would say something to the landlord about it....
Totally rude!!! I am so sorry that you and Gissi are having to put up with this.....
To have been home all day and begin that type of noise...so late in the evening...they must be doing this on purpose....some people are so inconsiderate....
Try not to let it upset you, my friend...
Have Gissi leave them a little "present" on their front door stoop.....OH, that was not nice.....LOL
I hope it gets better, my friend....
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@tredale (1309)
• Australia
25 Jun 07
Oh gabs Im so sorry there so rude, but I have to admit I have never lived with someone that close by. Which for there sake is a blessing. There are six of us and gosh we make a racket but its also for this reason we have chosen our house.lol I think it would be very hard if to live like this. Its really rude that they are vaccumming so late. I hope they settle down or you have a great range of music.lol
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@keepermykitty (2573)
• Canada
25 Jun 07
I have the same problem with my up-stair neighbors , I think they are just rude ...
Yesterday around eight thirty am , their dogs started running all through the house , which normally doesn`t bother me , but then the Barking starts ...
Well this went on for a good three hours , me being me never did say anything ...
I am going to next time , its bad enough they start running that early but the Barking has got to stop ...
They are good friends thats why I haven`t said anything yet , but they do need to learn how to control these dogs , even if its only a little bit of control ...
Did your neighbors finally stop ?
What time ?
Can you call your landlord ???
Good Luck !!!!
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@keepermykitty (2573)
• Canada
25 Jun 07
I know how you feel I will have to myself ...
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@petspets (476)
• Antarctica
27 Jun 07
It is basic kindness to be a considerate neighbor. These elephants are lacking in it. Let them know that you are disable and is sick, it might work. You could write them a letter about it. I have been hoping that you will be able to live in a flat with a backyard and I hope very much that it will come true. Lots of hugs to you.
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@elisata (568)
• Netherlands
25 Jun 07
If you can tell they are home all day, you are probably home all day as well.... There is nothing against being home all day, that's what a home is for, being there when you're not out. So yes, you will have to allow that!
Now moving around furniture and hoovering at 9 pm is another matter. That is not very considerate. Turning the music up is a temporarily help, but at the same time you loose your credibility, with them and with the landlord. You're being loud yourself, so who are you to complain? So that is just about the only thing you should never do!
Loud neighbours ask for manoeuvering carefully and politically, so that you come out as a winner, not as the loser or with a tie break. I wish you good luck with that. And remember, getting angry or annoyed is not getting you anywhere! It just makes you grumpy - lol
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
25 Jun 07
Ok let me explain to you why I am at home all day not by choice I am disabled and not able to work anymore which actually hurts me very much
So yes it will make me Grumpy being forced to stay at home and having to listen to that at night when I would like to rest and being woke up at 5.30am because they are thumping about
As for loosing my Credibility I do not think so as it will only be upstairs that can hear it
I know that something is going on as the Landlord is keeping his eyes on them
So please I hope you where not judging me for being at home all Day because believe me I would give anything to be out there working again and doing what I want to do
I loved working and up till 6 years ago I worked all the time even when I had my Kids
I am not having a go Sweet but this touched something in me as I still feel totally useless being the way I am at 46
Shock to the system when you have been healthy most your Life
@elisata (568)
• Netherlands
26 Jun 07
I was not judging you or anybody else for being at home all day. I only tried to point out that if you rent or own a place, you are entitled to be there 24/7. Your upstairs neighbours as well as you or the next neighbour. I hardly ever pass any judgement on anybody, since you very often don't know the story 'behind a person'. That goes for all of us.
All I know is that having a lasting argument with one of your neighbours is a source of aggrevation, and that's why I suggested to thread carefully, so that you not only "win the battle", so to speak, "but also the war"...
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Your neighbor and my neighbor should get together, because I don't think either one of them knows the meaning of the word "considerate". And I live in a house, even! I think I would complain to the landlord too. That's ridiculous for them to wait that late to start moving furniture. It's so RUDE! My neighbor loves to wait until 9pm or later to start working on his garage, which involves the use of hammers and electric saws. I have called the police on him a few times, and it seems to be happening less often, but I don't think he's completely learned yet. OH......good for you on turning up the stereo too. You're taking after me more and more. LOL
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
26 Jun 07
If you are going to approach the landlord be ready to go with some facts. Keep a diary of days and times and the duration of the noisy conditions. Best keep your music down or they will be able to retaliate with facts of their own. In our leases there is a clause basically about others being able to enjoy peaceful times and noise laws prohibit loud noises except at certain times of the day. If you can somehow record the noise that would be good too. Good luck with it all.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
25 Jun 07
No, you shouldn't have to put up with this. I know before I moved the landlord offered me and apartment they also own. When I went to look at it I would have sworn there was a hurd of elephants living up-stairs - I dreaded the thought of listening to that all day and night.
LOL - the movies always show people knocking on the ceiling with a broom or something but I often wonder if that really does any good in real life or if would just annoy and make matters worse.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
25 Jun 07
LOL - since I read your discussion I've been picturing one of the old Lucy shows - I can't for the life of me remember they whole story like of the particular show but I keep picturing Lucy (Lucille Ball famous comedian) with a scarf around her head banging on the ceiling with a broom and the ceiling crumbling down on her, she was then in a panic trying to figure out how to fix the mess before her husband, Ricky, got home.
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