If Someone's Miserable Do You

Ok I try to cheer them up but not with a joke or anything just by being there for them I am not normally miserable but when my Pains set in I will not smile all the time and I hate it when People say don't look so miserable, what do they know There is a time where you won't smile because you really do not want to is that not allowed So ignore those People Sweetie they are just self centered thats all

I am an optimist...but I donot tell people to cheer up... don't feel that I have a right to tell them how to look...that is their business...BUT I am a great listener...so that is what I usually end up doing....letting them vent..... Be miserable if that is how you feel, my dearest Wolfie....I still luv ya....xoxoxoxo

I say that to the people I love pal and then they usually tell me whats wrong and I try if I can to help them fix it , If it is someone I know but not too well , I ask if they are OK and if they say yes then I leave well alone , I am just one of those people who don't like to see my friends sad , but if you were here pal in Stirling I am sure you would have a happy smile on your face , especially if more were home and we has a battenburg cake xxxxx

To be honest I tend to judge each case on merit because I know that sometimes when I am miserable I just want people to leave me alone, but then other times I want people to talk to me so I can have a whinge and get over it. So if I see that someone is miserable or unhappy then I will ask them how they are doing, I think it's pretty obvious at that stage if they want to talk or to be left alone and I'll take it from there.

Well sweety I have been on both sides of this subject as you know already! lol I would be more likely to let someone know that I care and will be there if they need to talk or offer a shoulder to lean on rather than trying to joke and cheer them up - I know it very rarely works that way! I hope no one has been upsetting you - I will have to have words with them! xxx

ok must apologuise first i shattered been up 48hours was just turning in read this and had to respond but my spelling gunna be terible and i may lose the plot part way through i hope not though well here goes hello trouble how are you here we go you want honest answer wel sorry not got one but i know exactly how you feeling look i not going to ask for details but were i am at the moment basically if i got struck by lightning or plane landed on me head i would be happy ok look mate i know you feeling down ok i know that oviosly you got hand of cards that is all crap at the moment but this is wats helped me through last 4 years ok think about it there a lot like us out there that everything is going wrong ok theres some out therethat actually love it it puts them centre stage and they play on it anrevel in it big time to the point i sure some of the crap they make up bits and things to keep centre stage ok iggy you for the moment ok and think about your freinds and colleges at minue s there someone amongst them you close to that needs a shoulder a friend them selves i know your plate is full ok and i know this seems totally wrong but honest it isnt if you can help someone ok it will help you and it is you giving yourself a hand up corse you will gain back a bit of feeling of self worth look mate if you need someone to chat with ok that is not to close to your problem im here ok i know you dont know me adam i know that but i also know it is wat i neaded also i know this sounds odd as wellwat ever happens if someone showing they concerned or care about you and offer you a hand dont slap it away emedialy without thinking ok some do say it automaticaly and praying that you say no but speaking from standing that side to there are a lot who genuinly care and want to help and if they love you it isnt just want to help it is neads to help because it hurting them to see you hurting and they need to help you as much as you need helping dont use pride as a silly defence it oly hurts the one using it and infruriates those bouncing of that shield who are trying to help you ok think i stop now before i headbut pc in my sleep lol take care wolfie and if thee needs a chat giss a kick ok i truly am about if you need a chat or anything ok

I try to cheer them up and if that doesn't work, then I'll just let them be. Not avoid them, but just let them do their own thing and let them get out of their bad moon on their own. I do find some miserable people annoying. Its like they find down faults with EVERYTHING in their life, every single day. Sometimes you just want to shake them and say hey look this or that is good...look at that.

No I don't avoid miserable people...Instead what i do is let them know and feel I'm here for them..I don't bug them hough to open up..I just make friendly gestures like I smile at them...say hi..or ask if they're ok..I just want them to know there are people they can talk to..no matter what.Avoiding them would just make them more miserable and I don't think that's nice.

I'm very rarely miserable and i would hate someone to say just cheer up i try to get them in a better mood sometimes all it takes is a smile or a hug just to say your special.

That will depend on my own emotion state. If I think I can withstand the emotional onslaught, then yes, I will try to comfort, advise, help, whatever. But if I am feeling down myself, I avoid them like the plague. I am depressed enough already, me joining in will not help them and will just make me worse. So sometimes, the moment I see a discussion is about ranting, crying, etc, I will delete it right away without even reading. There is simply no point.

I don't have a very smiley face and sometimes at work people have reminded me to smile when I pass them. It is usually when I was not feeling particularly down so just perked up for them. If I had been feeling sad I would probably have burst into tears. It is actually better to be noticed at all and that they care enough to say something. I tend to stick with the same people and we get along well. If one of us is feeling sad they need a while to themselves then we carry on as usual.

I think nobody wants or likes to be miserable. it's the situation that brings that state into play. if one has some very situation happened definitely you'll look miserable a while until you find some possible solution to it other than that you'll not look cheerful. definitely if i know that a person looks miserable and i can do something to cheer him/her up, i'll not hesitate to do it. i've got friends who cheered me up when things went wrong and now i'm very happy and we're ever best friends. cheering people who look deprssed is a good thing though .... depending on the type of person.

If some is truley miserable the best thing you can do for them is make them more miserable. The more miserable you can make them feel, the better they will feel, when they finally get over feeling miserable.

i try to cheer them up but i do not appreciate ppl being miserable towards me because they may be a threat to themselves or others. I just let them chill out before i talk to them

People have said this to me at times, Wolfie, when I have my serious head on, but it's only because they're so used to seeing me smiling and laughing, so I let it go over my head. Nobody can force a convincing smile, my friend, so be as you are... it's their problem, not yours. As for miserable people, it depends on who they are and how they like to be treated when they're down. Some like to sort out their problems themselves, in which case, I would just give them a hug and tell them I'm there for them; then leave them some space. If it's somebody who's normally laughing and need the company of others to bring them out of their dark times, then I would listen, hug and then change the subject and probably try to get them laughing again, by telling them a joke or two, or siting a humorous situation. These things normally work, unless the person is so deep that you can't really reach out to them. Brightest Blessings my friend, and you are the only one who knows exactly how you feel inside, so ignore the comments, huh?

Well my friend - I would love to answer with the second option, and say that I try to cheer them up, but if I'm honest I'm more likely to be the last one. I do feel a little awkwatd around depressed people. I'm OK giving someone a hug if they've just experienced bereavement or a relationship breakdown or something - that is something "concrete" I can work on - but just generally depresssed and down makes me feel a ittle uncomfortable, because I don't know how to rect. Hope that doesn't sound harsh - just trying to be honest.

I do avoid others when they are treating me miserably because I don't understand why and I just don't wish to be treated crappy because they are having a bad day . If I know they are upset and just upset in general and it has nothing to do with me then I will try to cheer them up but if I don't know the reason then I tend to avoid them .

Whenever I'm down, I prefer to be alone. I need to have a quiet surrounding so I can better deal with what's bothering me. It is not my habit either to burden my problems with anyone else. On the other hand, I always make sure to cheer up my friends. I don't force them to speak out. If they like to have the time and spaces to be themselves, I can simply stay behind their shadow. They know where to look for me anyway.

When someone is miserable i do my best to stay away from them for a while...I dont like getting involved with other peoples problems!

I generally avoid someone who looks like they're in a foul mood. I know when I'm crabby I just want to be left alone. I don't like it when people come up to me and constantly ask me what's wrong. I would rather just work through the mood myself, or seek comfort on my own. If someone I know fairly well looks like they're in a bad mood or miserable, I will ask them how they're doing. That gives them an opportunity to speak about what's bothering them. If they don't want to talk about it, then they don't have to.