Should i tell my boyfriend i cheated?

but i don't wanna risk hurting his feelings. .

Yes he'll be hurt, my partner was when I told her. But she forgave me. I've never done anything that stupid since. You just have to gain his confidence again and telling the truth will do just that.

but it would make things more complicated if i tell him im moving anyway

thank you . .but im really scared of hurting him .. what if we just forget about the whole thing and i just won't tell him .. would that work?

I am glad I could help.Take Care.

Thank you taht pretty much relaxes me . . no i didn't make love with the guy and we didn't exchanged numbers and surely i won't see him again .. its really something i find hard to tell my boyfriend.

But the chance of him finding out is really2x slim because it happened out of town . .

its like your saying that after he knows everything in the end i was honest with him and i didn't meant to do what i did?!

Trust and Communication are the foundation to healthy relationships and lasting friendships. You betrayed his trust, unbeknownst to him. He may not like what you have to say, and he will go thru a range of emotions, where you are concerned. In the end, he will respect you more for having been truthful with him. If you choose not to tell him, then it is you who must live with your guilty conscience.

what do you mean by not violate the confidence of the young man?! thank you for the nice reply you changed a lot on what i was thinking, yes i really feel like he is relaly fixate to me. I'm not really that inlove but i want to try. and yeah . .its nobodies bussines but i still want to be friends with him . . he is very good when it comes to making me laugh.

yes she is so right. dont feel guilty that you have to hide the truth

You are welcome. What I am saying is that it would be inconsiderate of your new friend's feelings to tell others what you did together with him in private, because you would not only be making your own confession, but also telling his secrets. You may live in different towns, but people do have friends and relatives who know each other and the more your private lives are talked about the more likely someone is to get hurt. As it stands now, unless you volunteer the information, nobody has to know what you did or didn't do. Apparently, your old boyfriend is already speculating as to what you might have done. The last thing you want to do is pour fuel on his fire. You cannot use feminine logic in predicting what a fellow will do if his masculinity is challenged because men and women control their emotions in very different ways. My advice is that you need to do everything you can to keep yourself safe, as well as to take great care in ensuring that nothing you do or say could even remotely result in someone else being injured. This is also a good way to protect yourself.

ok. but how could you say that i have the right to make out with that guy?!

but how could we still remain friends if i don't tell him?!

That, My Dear, is entirely up to you!

I agree that there is nothing to be gained by telling him, and a whole lot to lose. I disagree with those who say it is an issue of honesty. She is not asking if she should lie and tell him she did NOT take up with someone else. Assuming he is going to ask, this is not a question she needs to answer one way or another. To me, he sounds too controlling already, and if she "confesses" this indiscretion to him, he is going to feel that she has given him the authority to be her moral guardian and "protector" and he is going to demand to know who the other boy is and maybe even hurt him.

oh no. . im not gonna hurt him . . im really finding a way where i could break down to him easy but if i can't find a way to do that i guess i will just keep it to myself

he would not feel i betrayed him but he knows i betrayed him

but then she would only risk hurting her boyfriend , . . from their situation i think they should give it a break, she doesn't have to tell anything to her boyfriend, they are separating anyway. So its a lot more easier if she just won't tell. well thats my opinion just want to give my thoughts on this.

thank you for your reply ill see what i can do

please don't call me a cheater, im ready for the just one guy. Im sorry but don't judge me. I regretted what i did and i wasn't happy for it