I am frustrated with life!!! Any other SAHM's out there???

My dear, You are not alone. I am a SAHM mom of three kids, ages 10, 4, and 3. Now granted the oldest is only my stepson and is not always here. But the other two are mine and I never get away. They are only 10 months apart. It is kind of funny. My 4 year old is also hyperactive and requires alot from me. I have been doing this for the 3 1/2 years. It is very hard and the best thing to do is to try to find some quiet time to your self. My husband complains because I stay up so late. But I tell him that is my quiet time. Where I can do whatever I want and don't have to be bothered by anyone. I am here if you ever need to talk, just pm me! Best of luck!

When my son was younger he was a hyper little boy lol which child isn't right.. I had my son take naps during the day which gave me a break from things and it gave me time to relax and time to do things that needed to be done.. Naps aren't a bad thing i say try it and see if it works you might have a little alone time.

Sounds like you need to hire a sitter or ask grandma for a little help. There is nothing wrong in hiring a sitter for an hour or 2 so you can go and have YOU time even if you have a friend come by so you can take a long hot bath and I bet you totally need right about now.

I wish I had some advice for you. I am also a SAHM to a special needs child. Our oldest son, we have two, is 8 1/2 and is Autistic. He is also non-verbal and still wears diapers. After his most recent IEPs and other tests he is averaging the age of 12-18 months old in most areas. I also have a 14 month old son. My husband is in the Navy and also works long days. We don't really have anyone (there is no family here) that we trust with the boys, or that can handle our oldest. It's not like I can call the local 14 year old babysitter to come over for an hour while I go off for a drive or something. They wouldn't know what to do with him or how to understand him. I don't know your situation but do you qualify for respite care? Most states offer this to families with special needs children. I believe it is based on income. There is a waiting list in our state (Virginia) but they offer a certain dollar amount a month and you can hire someone to watch your child (like a teen charging $5 a hour or a professional that charges $20) and they pay for it. They often have a list of care givers with experience with special needs kids that you can use if you don't know anyone to watch them for you. I couldn't tell you the last time I did anything without my boys. I don't even go to the store alone as my husband and boys go with me. My husband tries to let me sleep in on weekends and he takes care of the boys to give me a break when they get up. I also try to read for a break. I usually end up making time for myself when they nap (if they do, which isn't often) or give myself a little time after they go to bed at night. There have been times where I swore I'd snap if I didn't get a break but luckily I haven't snapped yet. Like you, my sons are my life, but sometimes I need a break. I usually email a friend or call someone and vent, which helps. I also try to walk away (hide in the bathroom or something) for a few minutes to collect myself. It's hard being a SAHM and some people don't realize that. You live where you work so you are on call 24/7/365. You can't leave your work behind you because you are always there. There are always dishes to be done, laundry to be done. You'd love to take 5 minutes to go to the bathroom by yourself, but someone always follows you in there, wanting you to do this or that. Hang in there! I understand how you feel and wish I could give you better advice but there are times that I want to pull out my hair, as well. I take a deep breath, count to 10 and continue on because my family needs me.

I have been a stay at home mom pretty much since my first child was born minus the couple of jobs I have in between but even then my children were with my most of the time . I have been at home for over fifteen years now with my children as they vary in age and my youngest is still only two . It is true that at times it gets harder then those that work all the time realize when your day consists of little ones and you crave to just have an adult conversation once in awhile . I have always found when times seem to be getting really difficult and I need a break but can't get one that even if I take the children visiting can make me feel a little better even if only to get some adult conversation going . If you can get away yourself it would be better but if not even take them with you . Often family and friends are glad to see your children and you don't feel like you whole time is watching them . Also if you can keep in mind that they are only little for such a short period of time and before you know it they will be more independent and not want you around all the time and this is hard as well , when you realize you are not needed as much . I see this more because I have older children and little children and I am glad I have the opportunity to see this . Take Care and best of luck !!

Yes!! My husband is gone at least 12 hours a day with work and doesn't always get his days off in a week. The days he does off he goes off to practice band with his buddies. I'm home with our 11 month old all day, every day and no breaks! He even broke our other car, again so I don't even have a way to get out of the house! Maybe once a month he'll offer to go for a short drive with our son to give me a break, but that's a rare occasion. I almost want to take a job just to be able to get out of the house too!

As it is good to be child, never cease to be a child

I can truly understand what u must have been going through ,what i would suggest you is that u take it as challenege rather than just mere responsibility ,that would make ur mindset more better and more acceptable to the challenge, i suggest you that give yourself entertainment by spending some quality time here on mylot or some other entertainment forums or sites,that would do world of good to you.

I feel your pain. I've been a stay at home mom for about 2 years now. I have a 4 year old who never stops talking and a 2 year old that gives "terrible twos" new meaning lol. Plus I babysit an 18 month old and I'm 36 weeks pregnant. There are days when its easy and days when you just want to scream. Sometimes if I'm really stressed, I'll just tell my husband he's on his own and I'll take the night off. I'll go take a nice long shower and then relax on my bed and read a book or watch some tv. Another nice thing is a girls night out. You wouldn't believe how much relief you'll feel after dinner and a movie out with a friend. Just know that you aren't alone :) If you want we could be e-pals and use each other to let off some steam lol.

change our mind, we must change our mind about problem, change problem become opportunity, i like to use illustartion about surfing, wave like our problem and surfing board like our tool to overcome the problem. so change the problem like art, we use our board to overcome the wave, we turn left the board and turn right the board, and after that we enjoy the wave, after all we handle the wave. so we will enjoy the problem. i think the hard battle is our mind, if we can change our mind to the good thing, we will overcome it

Hi packgirl, I can relate to what you are going through. When I was married we had custody of my husbands three kids from his first marriage (two were ADHD with LD) plus my two kids and our one child. I had to leave my job because we could not afford daycare. All my check would have gone to daycare and not having the "me" identity anymore was difficult. You could try networking with a few other moms...find them through play groups, preschool or daycare...and take turns giving each other a break once a week. I would also suggest letting your husband know that you think a small amount of one on one time between him and your child would be a good thing for the little one (wink)...you know, just two hours on his day off, giving you time to go to the gym, have a pedicure, take a painting class or writing workshop, wander aimlessly through the store just to refresh yourself or try on outfits, meet with friends... Oh, by the way, how are things going with your job search? I think taking on a hobby may be a better idea than adding more stress of another job right now (according to your post here) but please feel free to leave me a PM. I will be glad to help you if I can. Smiles, DL

I do understand how you feel. I have been a SAHM for almost 16 years. Fortunately my husband did not have the long hours, so I was able to get a break in the evenings. Is there a Mother's Day Out program somewhere in your community? My kids went to MDO one day a week at my sis-in-law's church. There was a fee, but it was worth it. Some times I shopped, met my hubby for lunch or met up with a friend. Often I just went home to clean house, exercise and grocery shop. Call some churches or a community center to see if this is available. Good luck!

Ask your mum or dad to take care of your son for a period, let say a few weeks.

aw haha im sorry for you ...maybe you should send him to a day care and get some free time for yourself

At least you are calling out for help recognizing that you need a break. I am the worlds worst about getting all stressed out and never asking for help or asking for a break until I'm at my wits end. Just a couple of weeks ago my aunt told me I needed to take one night a week for myself. She said to either take that night to go shopping, go have a drink with a girl friend, or just take a nice quiet walk. It's been a little over 2 weeks now and I've still yet to do that. But I'm going to start I swear lol (yeah right!). But seriously try to find someone to watch your son for a few hours. Even if it's just one night or day every couple of weeks. Any relief would be nice. I completely understand how you are feeling. My daughter is 20 months so she may not be quite as active as yours. But she sure is all about mommy right now lol. It's so sweet but sometimes I just really want to rest.

OK. you know this is the world's best word to relax... the word youo have used is so nice that any one can make that ..OK so nice to you. If you fade up with this condition try to chat ..do some orkuting on net..if there is any book store near aabout you ...try to explore your self with that great book..some one that's why says that books are man's good companion and best friend..i think this might be well work with you.