Do you believe in your source of information when it comes to gossips??
By shemah
@shemah (840)
Malaysia
June 24, 2007 9:43pm CST
When I was younger, I used to believe my friends when they started gossiping about somebody. And then we'll share our thoughts on the matter.
As I grew older, I realized just how silly it was. What if your source of information just started the rumor out of spite? My mother always tells us "Believe half of what you see, and nothing of what you hear". I really try to hold on to that whenever my friends start gossiping and just nod and don't really contribute anything.
What do you guys think? Do you believe your source of information? When you hear a rumor, do you ask that person yourself, or do you make a judgment straight away??
Do share.. i really appreciate it.. THanks!
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7 responses
@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
25 Jun 07
I have never been into gossiping and I was labeled as being weird when I was in school (you know how girls enjoy gossiping so much that they think people who don't are some outcast). I even told one of my friends to stop telling me all these stories about someone else, it just annoyed me. The reason why I am not into any people's gossips is because I think I should live and learn and focus on my life rather than someone's else. It doesn't do me any good to gossip with other people. I would use my perspectives to judge if I like him or her or not when I get to know the person. If I like him or her, we are friends. If not, I would just walk out from their lives and that's it.
@shemah (840)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 07
hey there!!
*laughs* then you're way much wiser than me when i was young.. i just lapped it up.. however, i never spread any rumors, no matter what. I never started it.. i just listened alot! But nowadays, i just can't stand it.. i really can't. When my friends start talking about who and who.. doing this and that.. i'm like, what does that have to do with you? just let him/her be..
It takes A WHOLE LOT and MORE to make me listen and believe a rumor.. it's quite impossible actually. :)
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
1 Jul 07
Right, rumors are rumors and if we really believe everything we hear or see partially, then I guess our lives would be much more busier than this. Well, some people love gossiping and they are interested in knowing how other people doing their lives and such. But I would rather focus on my own. I guess I was like that when I was young because my dad and mom don't gossip at all and that's why it's built in inside me *smiles*.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I am going to pass your mother's wisdom along to my daughter when I am teaching her right and wrong! Thank you for the idea.
As far as gossip goes, I am always a bit suspect when someone speaks ill of another person in my presense. But I do not know how to tell them not to do so. I have tried discouraging others from gossiping around me, but it seems to make them want to do it more.
Often it makes me think less of the friend who is gossiping about the other person. I am the kind of person that likes to make up my own mind about people and not rely on second-hand information. That's just me though. Be well, and be blessed!
@shemah (840)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 07
I'm glad you think that my mom's teaching is a great wisdom.. i really think so too..
I'm with you too on the fact that most times i try to discourage people about gossiping but can't start.. or that they just wouldn't listen. Many a time they will tell me i'm naive to think only the best in people..
I still think it's better than thinking the worst of people.. because it isn't fair when you're on the receiving end of it, right? So, i too just couldn't care less anymore about their gossips.. i just sit there and change the topic whenever i can.. or better yet, avoid going out with them altogether..
@krislouiebaby (2346)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
i am not a judgemental person, and i really do not believe in gossips.
i want to see it with my own two eyes before i believe in something. to see is to belive and i don't want to be unfair.
and i don't want to do that to me,so i don't do that to anyone.i live my own and i let them live also.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
25 Jun 07
Gossip can be very dangerous. In fact, rumour mongering, if proven, can lead to criminal charges.
I guess when I was younger, I blieved in some gossip, or even participated in it, but maturity, and n awreness of the consequences of gossipng soon put a stop to that.
@joey_matthews (8354)
•
26 Jun 07
Well it's useful.
I just keep my mind open if someone says "so and so did this" I don't judge or go "really, they should be stuck down by the hand of god" hehe :P
You can also tell a lot from those who tell you. (surely someone not to be trusted with secrets)
But generally I stay away from it ::)
~Joey
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@shemah (840)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 07
hey joey!
haha.. i agree with you too.. i tend to be careful with my "gossiping" friends.. i never divulge anything personal to them.. there's no reason for me to believe that they wouldn't share my personal information with others..
But like you.. i try to stay away from it.. if they come to me, i'll just shut up and pray that they finish their story quick! :)
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
28 Jun 07
Hello,shemah,i will always hear some gossips from other people,but my first reaction will be think whether it will be truth or not,i will not believe them 100 %,i will build up my own opinions on that matter. Whenever someone passed the rumor to you,they may not tell you everything or they do not actually know the whole thing,they may also hear it from someone else,so the information may go wrong when it comes to your ears,so it is important to doubt the accuracy of it rather than believe it all.
@shemah (840)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 07
hey there..
all this reminds me of the game we used to play in grade school.. the teacher will whisper "i have a train" and by the end of the 30+ student queue it will turn out something like "i own an airport and a grand house on the beach" kinda thing, you know? :) I have friends who can really believe rumours word for word.. and when i tell them my doubts they scoff and smirk and say i'm naive.. i don't get it.
Anyways, thanks for taking the time to respond~ :)
@aninditasen (16397)
• Raurkela, India
29 Jul 16
Its better to step away from gossip and always discourage them.
