Do you conflict with your spouse?
By suzieb
@suzieb (188)
United States
June 24, 2007 10:18pm CST
I say no, the kids whine and my husband sides with them. Most of the trouble comes after dinner, they don't eat dinner they don't get desert. Then the ice cream truck comes by, 1 hour before bedtime. Sometimes he gets them ice cream when I'm not around. He doesn't put them to bed or go upstairs every 5 min when they call because they can't sleep, but doesn't understand why I'm mad at him when he asks whats wrong with the kids! He just gives in to stop them from whining, and won't except that it's not good for them. He says "That's how I grew up". Yeah real shinning endorsnment! If it were up to him they'd eat nothing but sugar 24/7.
Do you conflict with your spouse when you should be banding together?
1 response
@coolcat123 (4387)
• India
25 Jun 07
The conflict between divorced parents seems to be never-ending. I don't get involved, but it still stresses me out a lot! They can' t make basic decisions without getting angry with each other, and major decisions frequently involve yelling at each other on the phone.
How do emotionally distance myself from this conflict and stop getting so stressed out by it? I feel like my husband's custody situation rules my whole life (scheduling, money, vacations, everything is directly influenced) but at least I'd like so stop being so affected by the stress and conflict.
childrens are much affected in these conflicts.
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@suzieb (188)
• United States
5 Jul 07
It's got to be harder being divorced. I don't know why people can't make decisions without conflict. I keep trying to settle things without the kids seeing us arguing. He likes to look like the good guy, super dad fighting to get the kids everything they want. He just doesn't want to take responsibility for what happens when they do.