How Important Is It To Have Friends?
By eashoor
@eashoor (307)
Canada
June 25, 2007 10:03am CST
Growing up I was always a loner, the reasons are beyond this topic of discussion but I grew up in Saudi Arabia and my in-apropriate patterns of thought made me not have friends as a female growing up there.
many tragedies passed through my life and every 5 years or so I would find 1 friend who would become my best friend only for us to break up and for me to get hurt as I usually feel misunderstood.
Now I am 31 and have zero friends. I am ok, though an extreme introvert. Just wanted to know what people thought? Should I try to have friends though I am fine without them or at least I seem to be? How many should I have? How close do you get to them?
Please share your thoughts and experiences, though friendship seems like a normal everyday thing, I seem to be difficient in that field.
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18 responses
@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
Someone said that in order to have friends, you have to be one. A friend to another person. There is also a line that says, no man is an island. For now you may feel fine, but you may feel better when you have friends. They make accomplishments taste sweeter and life more colorful. Friends come and go, but some will stay through all the good and bad times.
The number of friends does not matter, one close friend is enough.
@banta78 (4326)
• India
25 Jun 07
I feel it is always nice to have friends but they should be good friends. I know true friends are rare but worth finding them as you can have someone with whom you can share your joy and sorrow. Someone apart from your family, who will support you through thick and thin. Someone you have very good rapport and get along with and share common interestsa nd who gives you your space when you need it. I feel it is not quantity but quality of friends that matter it's imp. In mylot i have found some wonderful friends who are lovely to interact with hope you too find the same. good luck:)
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
hi!eashoor...I am an introvert person too..but unlike you,i have friends..i only have few but true loyal friends.you said that you will find 1 friend who would become your best friend only for you to break up and for you to get hurt...on my own points of views,those things were just natural from the friendship.to have conflicts.it is healthy on friendship..coz we learn from it and makes the friendship goes stronger.it is good to have friends whom you can count on..who you can trust,and whom you can share your problems with..you are a loner right?and how does it feels to be alone?are you happy and contented with it?...life with friends is so wonderful..because you know that you will never be alone..you dont need to have many friends..i guess one is enough..one who will understand you.and will never leave you.remember that no man is an island..and think of this..why does God created eve for adan?so that adan would not feel sad and alone..like for us,God created not just one person..coz he doesnt wants us to be alone...try to make friends..it was a different feeling..it will make you feel happy..believe me..i hope that my response makes sense..and will help you..takecare!
@nejnej (148)
• United States
26 Jun 07
its important to have friends, with them you can find your self. i was a loner as a kid too. and i was just so trap with myself, i dont know how to laugh and be relative to people. but of course, you have to choose who you befirend with. for me i'm a very choosy on to whom i want to befriend.
@Deathknight_31 (500)
• Pakistan
27 Jun 07
hmm strange... how can you be ok without having friends.. i mean friends are like the most important thing in the world... its so lonely without friends. If you ask me yes i say have atleast one friend and that friend should be so close to you that you could share your secrets with that friend. So that all the burden you have, you can share it with your friend.
@hermitcrabheaven (645)
• United States
25 Jun 07
We seem to have a lot in common! I am a loner myself, and yes, the reasons are way beyond this discussion. I only had 1 good friend my entire years growing up. She was my aunt - only 1 year older than me - so we stayed friends until right after high school. I don't know what I would've done without her. I feel she helped to keep me "sane" throughout my growing years. I still am pretty much a loner, but I have 2 good girlfriends that live near me. I don't do much with them in the way of socializing, but they are so like me, they are good sounding blocks for whenever I have a problem, or have something fun to share with them. My husband is my best friend, but it's always nice to have someone outside the household to gripe to.
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@desertking1981 (455)
• India
26 Jun 07
I think as other relations, friendship is also very necesscary in our life. As at many step of our life we need friends more than anyone else.Friendship is the purest relationship god had made because it is far away from expection and full of giving.Hence I never imagine my life without friends . Hence I also suggest you to make friends and live your life with fun and happiness.
@punkish (424)
• India
26 Jun 07
well i think to become a well mannered person frienda are the important parts of our life.......i think they dhare a huge part n plays a huge part in our life,,,,,when u grow up u need some1 wid whom u can play n more importantly u can share ur thoughts.....and ur feelings because they cant b shared everytime wid d parents bcoz u need to tell some 1 whoi of dat generation only n understanda dat age beeter coz he s too th epart to same
...so to grow up u need friends,,,wid out dem life is like life widout water
@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
26 Jun 07
Very importand we have many fiends, you must try to find frieds, would you to add me to your friend my friend aeshoor ?
Can I know where are you come from ?
Best regards
@di1indilin (802)
• India
26 Jun 07
It's extremeely important to have friends, more so in today's world when you need contacts everywhere if you are to go up in society
@michael_harvard1010 (262)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
having a friend is very important to me this will give me comfort in times of problems and also get along and jam and talk to them when i'm feel happy and sad. there are many benefits of having a friend.
@sairamyadav (39)
• India
26 Jun 07
i cant do without friends.it is surprising that you have no friends.you cant be blamed for that,i understand the circumstances in which you grew up.friends for me are everything.friendship is one relation which appears to be new always,i never get bored of friends.We learn in friedship,we grow in friendship.
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26 Jun 07
I had 2 sisters and my entire family relationship is very big and i had so many cousins. But in one step iam forced to be alone and at that time i had a very good friends who even cares for my food, clothing & for studying. A true friend will not see about your wealth & will take care of your health. So every human being should have a friend.
@beetel_jack (800)
• India
26 Jun 07
Hi eashor, Friends are very important in our life. Without friends we feel very lonely sometimes just feel like why we are born if we have to live such a life.
I would like to emphasis here the importance of friends.
Friends do play a very important role in our life. do you have friends, if you have just quit all your friends for a moment and stay alone without having any contacts with your friends say a month or a year. you would realize the importance of friends.
Thanks.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
26 Jun 07
It is good to have someone to talk to and share your thoughts with. Even one friend is important. You also have to be friendly and not just keep to yourself, and walk off when someone says something you do not like. People are wary of those who act weird. You do not need to say much to be a friend, just nod at the appropriate times, say hello, and look interested. You may be better at writing than at talking and you may get friends that way. I think you are afraid that they will not like you. Don't be oversensitive, they probably feel the same way as you.
@bluregard7 (28)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
eyyy!!! lay back, girl!!! maybe you just think your fine without friends but seeing as you ended up making up a discussion 'bout making friends i don't think you feel good without one. maybe what your looking for is a circle...because i think it's impossible not to have even one friend. you can be friends with the postman, your neighbor or anyone you come contact with...i admit i understand what you cause i myself is an introvert but it only means that you are more comfortable with a certain group of people. just be friendly...itdoesn't hurt and it's definitely worth it!!!
@jazzygdc7 (285)
• United States
26 Jun 07
it is important to choose friends who are mature and that make you happy because hanging out with a bunch of loser rertards will make you feel down and depressed. Friends are people who make the world a better place for you