Is being a submissive wife a key to a happy marriage?

I think a lot of that is silly. First of all, a woman does not have to OBEY her husband, there should be MUTUAL respect and cooperation. It's not a matter of disrepect to have a different opinion. Second, men are not always how they should be to there wives. I don't believe a woman should just have to keep her mouth shut and not say anything if she is being mistreated. A successful relationship is created by two partners, not just one, the woman.

I don't think you that being a submissive wife is a key to a happy marriage? Husbands and wifes should work together, consult each other what are good possibilities to make the family strong. Do's and don'ts should be discussed too, so no one is to be blamed.

Well maybel - I can't quite make up my mind whether you are very, very clever (in starting a contentious discussion that will get lots of responses), or very, very stupid to really believe the stuff you've written. Or maybe you just have a strange, warped sense of humour..........? Whichever, - I do find it hard to take your post seriously - so I will just say this briefly. Women are equal to men - not better but not worse either - just EQUAL. And as such we should not be submissive to anyone. My partner and I are EQUAL partners - I would not "obey" him, or any other man, and, furthermore, like Jimbo said earlier - he would not want me too. Marriage and relationshps are about loving, caring, laughing, and SHARING everything - they are not about one person being subservient to the other.

I don't see how being submissive makes for a happy marriage. The husband might be happy, but I know if I let my husband do what he wanted, when he wanted and how he wanted I would be miserable. I'm not a nagging wife, but I do let my husband know my opinion about things. We work together. You don't have to let your husband run all over you to have a happy marriage.

I was never a submissive wife and I am not submissive in the relationship I am in now. In my marriage - I had to be the one that took care of everything when my late husband was seriously ill. If I had been a submissive wife I wouldn't have had a clue what to do. Since our marriage had been an equal partnership then I knew exactly what needed to be taken care of. If the wife is totally submissive then it isn't a marriage it is a dictatorship.

My immature opinion to this question is that it won't work however submissive a wife is, when the time for divorce comes, your submission to your husband won't work much if his heart is not focused on you. Treating each other with respect is the best policy because men and women are born equal with equal respect. What do you think?

That is a very strange opinion of the wifes role. Being submissive is not the way to live a life, being a partner is. Men are just as much to blame for divorce as women. a man can be just a disrespectful to his wife as a woman to her husband. Respect is a 2 way street as is a marriage give and take. He gives and get respect and so does she, he gives and gets love and so does she. It is when that stops that marriages become unhappy and with the laws allowing divorce now compared to before woman are now free to get out of bad marriages for the chance at a good one.

Ok you are living in the stone age. The key to a happy marriage is communication and workingtogether as a team not by shutting up and putting up. MY husband and I have a loving happymarriage and it is not because I am submissive, it is because we talk to eachother about everything, and we work together as a team. NO my marriage is not perfect we have our ups and downs but we work through them. I refuse to give in to my husband al lthe time and "Do what I am told" by my husband my equal.

That sounds like something out of the dark ages! We are equals not master and slave. I have never tried to control my hubby. When you truly love someone that doesn't even come into the picture. Interrupting anyone that is talking is just plain rude. I was raised better than that.

I definitely don't agree that being a submissive wife is the key to a happy marriage. I can't understand how anyone could be happy being less than a full person, though I know there are people that feel that way. My marriage involves mutual respect and shared decision-making, and I can't imagine having it any other way. My opinions and strengths are important to my husband, just as his are to me.

Goodness..interesting post. I used to think that my submissiveness would make for a good marriage. I never minded being "submissive" to a really good man, as I'd feel safe in doing so. And in a way, if he was happy, he'd be "submissive" to me, as well. In two marriages, I tried that submissive stuff, but both marriages ended terribly. The men just took advantage of me. Now, after all that, I find that word almost poisonous. The key to a happy marriage is if both people have respect for each other, and actually enjoy making each other happy, and both are happy in their roles in the marriage, and respect each other's roles. It's not that one partner is superior to the other. It's not a power game. Or an opportunity to control each other. I found that being submissive to someone who has the divine quality of humility was alot easier, too. It's not a good thing to be submissive to a man who is cruel, and selfish, and abusive. Both the man and the woman should refrain from criticizing each other. Well, no one is perfect of course. In the end, the woman who knows the art of submissiveness, will benefit, as the husband will become submissive to hher.

submissiveness is not the key to a good marriage, altough I'm sure some men think that it's the answer. a good relationship is based on EQUALITY. both partners views are equally as important and equally as valid both should learn to Comprimise responsibilities, in the home and out, should be shared both partner give and receive equal respect to the other true, a woman should not try to control her husband, but a husband should not try and control his wife either. a relationship isn't about control, it's accepting someone for who they are. being submissive may lead to a happy relationship for the man, but not for any self respecting woman. if one partner is the boss and the other submissive, that is not a healthy basis for a partnership. apart from BDSM relationships, where that is something they actively seek.

The only thing you need is respect for each other. then you will find that ther does not have to be any submissen. This mean that both of you yeald to each other.

I could not be a submissive. If a man expect you to be submissive then he is not a true man. A true man wants a partner not a doormat. When they are old and grey he wants someone to talk to and someone that will keep his mind fresh not a yes person. I think being submissive is the worst thing that either partner can be in a marriage.

what!! are you kidding me!! Heck no. I am not going to submissive to anyone, let alone my husband. Like the previous posts say, marriage is a partnership, its supposed to be equal. I'm not going to bow down to you just because you are a man.

i think a submissive wife is only the key to a happy marriage if she has married a man with an ego bigger than his brain. Who wants a door mat for a partner? certainly not me blessed be

How can be completely submissive make anyone happy? The key to a successful marriage is not grounded in submission or domination; it's all about compromise. Marriage is a partnership and two people need to work together in order to create a successful relationship. I'm not a submissive wife and if I were I'm quite sure my husband wouldn't be so happy. He likes that I am an individual with my own opinions, but we compromise on the things that are really important and we stay unified when it comes to raising our kids. We've been together for over twenty years and I can safely say that I have never been submissive.

If his ego needs a slave and you are willing, go for it. Otherwise it is just a bunch of religous dogma crap.