Yay Yeehaa Yippee...... my grandad is finally dead
By sandgroper1
@sandgroper1 (629)
Australia
June 25, 2007 9:32pm CST
Ding Dong the witch is DEAD.... Finally .....Yeehaa... my grandfather has finaly done me the biggest favour and taken his last breath and checked out of this world, i am feeling quite happy at the moment almost dancing inside. I know that this sounds nasty/crazy as most people love their elders, but i hate him with a passion. He molested my younger brother and i when we were 3 and 5 and then every time we saw him and he had been drinking he would cry on my shoulder and tell me how sorry he was. 'Im so sorry, im sorry' . Well sorry old man but you suck. I cant feel anything but relief that he's gone. You cannot even imagine the damage that this has done to me and my family and the guilt that my mother feels (her dad). She didnt know it was happening and she would put me in the car for him to take me to the shops, she thought that my cries were because i didnt want to be away from her and this was just another chance for him to get at me. Anyway im just glad he's dead and wonder if this has ever happened to anyone else, i have always loved and been very upset at other people dying but i just cant be upset about this happening.....What about you.
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11 responses
@sweetaspie52 (2359)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I can understand your reasoning for you being happy that he has passed but do you ever think that you would be able to forgive him I read somewhere that you need to forgive someone that has done something bad to you or it will eat at you and you will always have that memory unless you forgive him please do not try to bury the past but have you ever got help for the problem in your past I understand that you can not forget what he had done to you and no one will except you too But please try to forgive him
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
26 Jun 07
"I read somewhere that you need to forgive someone that has done something bad to you or it will eat at you"
No that isnt true at all...I've never forgiven my abusers nor have I ever forgiven my attackers and I never will....I have no need to and I see no reason to particularly considering none of them have any remorse for what they did to me....Does it "eat at me"? Absolutely not.....and it never will...My not forgiving them also hasnt hindered my healing from my rapes and abuse either....
For SOME ppl I'm sure that due to maybe religious reasons or whatever they feel the need to forgive but it certainly isnt necessary by any means
@sweetaspie52 (2359)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I am sorry if I have offended you in any way it was just my opinion again I am sorry
@raenie (705)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
I must say that my eyes popped out when I read your subject--but then curiosity got the best of me so I decided to read on why such a reaction from you. Then my eyes popped out again when I read why. Wow. That must have really sucked, what you went through & I sure do hope that now, you are able to live a better life, knowing that the antagonist in that chapter of your life is now gone. & I pray this as well for your brother. You must have felt such a betrayal, since it's your own grandfather who did this to you--am just wondering--was he ever convicted for it? Just curious.
@raenie (705)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
You're very much welcome, sandgroper to the prayers =)...as for your granddad never having been convicted, that's also sad but given the situation then well perhaps, he'll be paying for it now ...but good thing for your brother that he was able to tell you after so many years, one can only imagine how hard that must've been, bottling that up for such a long time...at least now, your healing can begin, I sure hope so. I just also hope that therapy at least changed your granddad, sparing others from his acts.
I learned something new today ravenladyj! Thanks for that =)...hopefully that others will find justice through this & that this will give victims confidence to pursue for that justice. Sometimes, it's just so sad to think of how cruel other people can be & can't help but ask where's the justice & then you learn of new developments like these & are given hope...
I sure wish you both wonderful days! =) =)
@sandgroper1 (629)
• Australia
27 Jun 07
Thanks for your thoughts and prayers. No he was never convicted, because this happened 33 yrs ago thing were way different back then. My mums family decided he needed to see a shrink and get his head sorted but he never admitted that he got my brother also. My poor brother was 21 when he finally had the courage to tell us.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I know how you feel. My daughters father was fighting me for custody and got in trouble for molesting a girl my daughters age and shot himself. I felt the same way you did.
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@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
26 Jun 07
im sorry you had to go through such a horrible thing, and your brother as well. now your mother can see where your coming from, she would feel horrible for letting you go with him or even around him. i bet it would be relief for you it would be a bit of weight lifted off your shoulders. it wouldnt be much, i understand that as i have been there myself but its better than nothing.
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@sandgroper1 (629)
• Australia
27 Jun 07
My mum is the best she has always been there for us, although she hates what he did to us he was also her dad and she struggled with the love/hate thing with him for years. I can not ever imagine the pain and betrayal that my mum has felt, damn if you cant trust your own parents who can you trust. Maybe mum will find a sence of peace now that the mongrel has taken his last breath.
@curvychick77 (1084)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I can understand your feeling, but now he's gone and he can't hurt you ever again. I was molested by my father and by one of my older cousins, fortunatly I have not seen my father in years, but my older cousin still looks at me that way. I still remember how much I cried and how much pain it was to me. Now you should be able to move on though, move on and live life. Forget about that horrible man. I'm really sorry that happend to you, but I know the feeling of molestation so I can understand.
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@Akeela (2078)
• Trinidad And Tobago
26 Jun 07
I dont like my Grandmother and God forgive I deep down wish I cant celebrate it also but she mean and she tries evvery thing possible for me to have no relationship with my father and now his Grandchild. She made my mom life unhappy and the best part she'lll smile in yor face with it. B ITCH!
@krislouiebaby (2346)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
my goodness.
i understand how you feel and if i were you will do the same.
sad to say there are some grandpa that do bad things to their grandchildren. well i think he is crazy, if not how did he do that to you and the others?
good for you and what a relief.
start new life , be strong and move on.good luck!
@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I can understand your hurt and your rage at both your mother and grandfather, but it is unproductive for you and you need to try to forgive because if you don't this will just eat at you and cause you problems later on.
You can not change the past, you can only work on the present, you can not even do very much about the future, but you can work on making things as pleasant as possible around you.
Also I am speaking from experience I have lived thru molestation, and it is not a good thing and it does hurt you emotionally as well as physically, and it is a lot to deal with.
But just remember all that is in the past and you have to live in the present not the past. Try to just move on with your life and do the best you can with the rest of your life okay.
Hope that is helpful to you, I am sorry that you had to go through all that, but as mean as it sounds you do need to forgive and let go, it will help you heal emotionally. It did me anyway,
@fungurly1 (180)
• United States
26 Jun 07
That really sucks that you had to go threw that when you were a child. I know how you feel... really I do and I wish I didn't. Anyway Congrats this means you won! It must feel great. I'm still waithing for my Happy Day!! Good luck with everything!
@kingri (46)
• United States
28 Jun 07
It truly saddens me that this terrible thing has happened to you. I have not had any personal experience in this particular matter, but just hope to offer a bit of encouragement. I truly believe that every experience of our lives, good or bad happens by a design that I cannot even hope to comprehend. I think they happen to mold our character and give us strength. I only hope the nightmare has at least somewhat subsided now, and that through it you reach even higher heights for having had to endure it.
