I hate abortions!!! (WAIT, read before responding)
By speedy1279
@speedy1279 (2665)
United States
June 25, 2007 10:27pm CST
Now that I have your attention and before you start with the insults. Here me out! This discussion is not about hating or approving of abortions. I choose the title to get the attention of those that normally respond to abortion topics. This is a very touchy subject that normally raises lots of controversy.
I am not here to give my opinion of whether I am for it or against it. Now some of you may know how I feel about this subject. I did make the mistake of voicing my opinion on this subject in another discussion on this topic. And of course after reading what I had wrote, I realized that it did not come out the way I had intended. Some people were not happy with my opinion and responded back with how they disagreed with me.
Which brings me to my point. There are two sides to abortion. Either you are against abortions or you a for abortions. No one side will win over the other. Which ever you choose is your own right and opinion. No one should judge you on your decision. But what gets me is how people start insulting others because they disagree with them or have a different opinion. Of course I know, some will say that what they said was wrong or hurtful. But you see I was raised that "Two wrongs don't make it right". So just because one person has said something hurtful, doesn't make it right for someone else to do the same thing back to that person. Come on, for the most part we are all adults here!
Now if after reading this I have upset you in anyway and you feel the need to insult me or be rude to me. Well go right on a head. You will not get me upset and you will not get a rise out of me. I was not raised that way. You have your opinion, I have mine! And that is where it should end!
I have said my peace and how I feel about people being insulting and rude to one another regarding this topic. Feelings are being hurt on both sides and to me it is all uncalled for.
So in closing. I leave this last thought before the insulting and rudeness begins.
"CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG"
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11 responses
@DJ9020 (1596)
• United States
26 Jun 07
This should be a place where people can agree to disagree, and everyone is free to express their opinion. But some people just can't seem to do that without resorting to personal attacks. For those people, I wish they were intelligent enough to respond to a civilized debate! There, how's that?
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@speedy1279 (2665)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Thank you for being able to respond with out the rudeness or insults. I agree with you. This should be a place where we can all share our opinions without being afraid of being attacked for how we feel. We all have a right to our own opinion without being verbelly attacked for it.
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@eashoor (307)
• Canada
26 Jun 07
Speedy,It saddens me when people are inapropriate and/or insulting to others.
I have been a target for a lot of crap since 9-11 as I am a Muslim and an Arab living in the western world ( I realize this topic is related to abortions somewhat.) Overall I agree with you, the world has become one big mess thanks to hatered and racism and bad politics.
People unfortunately have not agreed to disagree and they never will, especially when it comes to money, power, politics and religion.
Our leaders have demonstarted this and so will the civilians as we are no different.
Now as for the topic of abortion I come from saudi where it is illegal to have them. That was a big issue as a woman simply had no choice especially in cases of rape or incest ...etc that would result in an unwanted pregnancy.
However, in the western world it is a right that you can choose to practice or not to practice and that is good enough.
I myself have had one performed, I had to for many complex and personal as well as radiation exposure reasons and I am thankfull I was living in a country that gives women these rights.
I am now pregnant and happy and will probably never consider having a termination ever again.
Confessions of a soon to be X-Saudi woman
@gardengrrl (1445)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Welcome to the West (a little late, but still...), and to myLot, eashoor. I am sorry you have been exposed to bigotry, it isn't fair to judge a billion people by the actions of a few thousand.
There are good people here, too, who don't hate you. If I saw you on the street, and we made eye contact, I would smile and nod a greeting. I hate that Muslim people have to be afraid of strangers, that isn't what the USA is about.
I hope you enjoy your myLot membership as much as I do. be well!
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@RealIolo (1854)
• United States
26 Jun 07
It is good that you would not choose to have an abortion speedy. I encourage everyone to choose life.
Now having said that I will make my point.
speedy1279 Either you are against abortions or you a for abortions.
I do not agree with this statement speedy. Like I said above, I encourage everyone to choose life. However I am neither "For" or "Against" abortions. I am for "choice". Being for choice is not the same as being for abortions. No one has the right to get in another persons face and try and say that they can or can not have an abortion. It is their choice to make.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
26 Jun 07
This is a very touchy subject but I believe that every women should have her right to choose what they want to do with their own body. The only thing that I don't agree with is the people that bash others and I think that if you are in a relationship that the partner should be imformed. I am not saying that they can't go through with it but I feel it is only right. Although I don't believe in it for me personally I know there are many reasons to consider having an abortion. I think everybody should just be considerate of somebody elses feelings. As long as it is not used as birth control.
@speedy1279 (2665)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Thank you for your personal opinion on this subject. I also appreciate you doing so without being rude or insulting.
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I think that you said that very well....I also, see no reason for the rude exchanges that frequently occur here over differing opinons...
I tend to agree to disagree...like you, my friend...
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@drcrys (10)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Just to clarify I am not trying to bash anyone who believes in abortions because everyone can do what they want. I have numerous friends who have done it 5 times. I love them and I wont hate them for what they believed was right. This is a very touchy subject and I dont want to offend any one who reads my responses.
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@speedy1279 (2665)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I understand completely. I have not personally know anyone that has had an abortion. But if my best friend were to come to me and tell me she was going to have one. I would not hate her or put her down for it. It would be her choice, not mine.
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@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I beleive everyone has the right to his own opinion..whether they agree with yours or not, but I also believe that everyone deserve respect, disagreeing on ceratin topics can be done without being rude or thrwoing all kinds of insult to that person.
yeah..let's all get along..let's amae mylot a happy place and a healty place where we can exchange our views and say what's on our mind.happy posting!
@aries_0325 (3060)
• Philippines
12 Jan 08
In my own opinion, I am not favor and against in abortion. Abortion is an absolutely wrong and it is a crime of murder. And absolutely I am not favor for this. And I think the fetus have life and like us she/he have a right to see this wonderful world.
@speedy1279 (2665)
• United States
14 Jan 08
Okay I am wondering..... Did you actually read the discussion? This discussion was not asking if you agreed or disagreed with abortion. This discussion was about the rudeness and hurtful responses that people make when someone is discussing abortion. Everyone seems to attack each other anytime someone has a disagreement about abortion. I do thank you for sharing your views on abortion, but next time would you please take the time to actually read the discussion before you respond. Best wishes!
@gardengrrl (1445)
• United States
26 Jun 07
You are absolutely right. I have voiced my opinions on the matter in other posts extensively, I will only say here that I hate them, too, but for safety's sake, they have to be legal.
I find myLot to be a magnificent exercise in crafting disagreements that follow the "hate the sin, love the sinner" school of thought - not that disagreeing with me is a sin, lol - which is an area I need to work on anyway. I just detest the namecalling, and it makes me really sad when people do it without even realizing they are.
Civility is the axle grease of society, it keeps too much friction from building up. I wish there were more of it everywhere.
Kudos to you for taking a risk, both headline and discussion. Nicely done!
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@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
9 Nov 08
Hi speedy,
although I am a year late in your discussion, i would still like to respond. I didn't start a family yet and don't have children nor had abortions. On the other hand, I was taught to not call people names who don't share the same opinion as mine. I ran through some abortion discussion last week and I find it soo ridiculous the amount of people who would call people who abort as killers. I find it really silly. I also made a discussion which is really similar to yours and still some people are extremes and they just won't be considerate. They call women who abort as killers. How about them? Don't they eat meat? Isn't that killing off animals to feed them? How about people who die everyday in wars killing each other? Whatever I say it's just pointless and it frustrates me. I am not the type to force someone to change their point of view to believe me or to take me as a dictator. I just want everyone to make their voice freely like a grown up without calling people names. So I came to this conclusion. People who are stuck up inside and can't accept a different point of view will always be cold. No matter how you explain how you feel inside, they won't understand you. Their eyes will always be cold. If one day I am into a dilemma, I will have to follow my heart with the guidance of my family. I am glad that I am not the only one to think like you. have a good day.
