Over Protective or Addicted to my children?
By Mshell
@Mshell (62)
United States
June 25, 2007 10:43pm CST
I have found in the last few months that I am a bit more obsessive with my children than most people. Example #1-My children 6y & 2y do not sleep through the night. They get up at least 2 or 3 times every night and I get up an additional 2 or 3 times to make sure they are covered up or haven't slid off the pillows. Example #2-My children are not allowed to spend the night with anyone-even grandparents (My 6 y old has a few times but I picked him up by about 7am)Now they refuse to stay anywhere. Example #3-My husband sleeps on the couch and both of my children sleep with me. It is easier for me to get up with them and for them multiple times through the night.
The purpose of this is for me to determine if I am being an over protective mom or obsessed with my children. Do you think it is good or bad for my children?
2 responses
@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
26 Jun 07
NO! here is something majorly wrong. First of all both your kids should be sleeping through by now. It is not good for them to be waking up so many times a night. They need to be sleeping through to get as much rest as possible.
It is good for kids to sleep out and have that experience with their grandparents and also helps them to develop a sense of self and build up confidence in themselves.
Thirdly, it is not good for your marriage to be sleeping apart. You are going to have to rectify this immediately. Your kids cannot take preference over your husband 24/7. This just is not a healthy environment. Kids need to know when it is their time with you and when it is your time with Daddy.
Good luck... I think you gonna need it in order to start making the necessary changes.
@Mshell (62)
• United States
26 Jun 07
They have never slept through the night. Most babies start at 6 months or less-My kids never did. That may be a source of my constant waking up to check on them-I haven't slept a solid night in 6 years! I realize that they should be able to experience life aside from me, but I have taken it so far now, that they would be afraid. I will have to let go a little, but it will be hard.
@muppetsnap (229)
• Canada
26 Jun 07
I think it's bad for you! But it's understandable - I still worry about my child's wonderful, open, friendly nanny suddenly stealing her (I work in the same house, bear in mind). It's normal, it's understandable. I guess we just have to fight it! :)
