Man is Polygamous in nature...
By Skulls1850
@Skulls1850 (14)
Philippines
June 26, 2007 12:47am CST
I am a married man, an uncontent person. I got 3 kids age ranging from 1-7 years....They said every man was polygamous in nature and i believe it is true. I love my wife and my kids but i kept on jumping from one affair to another. Lately, I got involved with a teenager...She's 18 years old and very pretty, i fall for her. I did felt the same thing when i first fall in love with my wife, I don't know what came over me but i am happy being with her. I felt young again in my 35 years of age. After 2 months of having an affair with her, we separated our way...I thought it would hurt me too deep and would hurt me too bad, but it didn't. It felt nothing at all that i could laugh loud enough losing her....D'you think it's because i am really a polygamous naturally? That i was looking forward for another relationship?
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6 responses
@shan_ab (377)
• India
26 Jun 07
I donn't think we should debate about the polygamous nature of man.
Man is a social animal, and there are some norms to be followed.
I humbly suggest you to go for a family counselling with your wife, also go for a vaccation with your wife adn kids and try to sepnd more time with them.
All teh very best.. It is always better to be in a family than jumping relations.
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@Skulls1850 (14)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
You're right, being with the family is better than jumping to different relations... But the point is, "I CAN'T HELP MYSELF DOING IT!" I am too weak to fight the temptation, and i don't want to open up to my wife re: this problem. I don't want her to suffer or be hurt, everytime i'm with here nothings seems changed. We're still the same couple as before, so i just better leave it as it was...I guess i am like a werewolf who should get out on full moon to feed....
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@Skulls1850 (14)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I guess you didn't get what i was trying to say. It is hard bein' there in this dark nasty room where my heart been enprisonned. I can identify the right from wrong geee!!! But the thing is i can't fight the urge of doing it, I know my wife has an idea of what was going on with me but she's trying to understand my feelings. I feel so bored everytime and felt so empty without having an affair with other girls....I don't know what was happening to me.... Could any expert of this kind of human behavior help out....I dont want what was happening to me but i can't help it...I am weak to temptation....
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@itshalom (355)
• Singapore
27 Jun 07
It is best u come clean with your wife and confess to her that you needed help. Well if she is aware of your doing then both of you get help from leaders in church to pray for the bondage(temptation) you are in...that is if you believe in God Jesus. Ask God to set you free from watever bad situation you are in. God with you!
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@itshalom (355)
• Singapore
27 Jun 07
It is best u come clean with your wife and confess to her that you needed help. Well if she is aware of your doing then both of you get help from leaders in church to pray for the bondage(temptation) you are in...that is if you believe in God Jesus. Ask God to set you free from watever bad situation you are in. God with you!
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@urbandekay (18278)
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27 Jun 07
Yes, I think you are right, men are naturally more promiscuous than women but what is special, what is fantastic, what is unbelievably amazing about humans is we are not condemned to follow our natures, we can and do create ourselves. That's not to say we can suddenly choose to be another way from the way we find ourselves to be but that we can train ourselves slowly to be different from how we find ourselves.
all the best urban
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@Skulls1850 (14)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
YOu got me there, yes you are right "we can do and create ourselves" to be more human than animals, it is easy to say though... It's hard to adjust, as you said, we shoud "train ourselves"...Training, as you know is too hard to do without a trainor...But i got you point and i like it... Thanks you're giving me hope...
@Neriz69 (1093)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
I don't think it's because you're polygamous in nature. I believe it's because you don't know the consequences of your actions. You sow what you reap.
I have kids of my own, they are all girls, that's why I always remind my husband to be careful not to do things I wouldn't do because it may bounce back to us. Remember that our sins are passed on to the next four generations. We suffer and pay for the sins of our ancestors.
God Bless.
@Neriz69 (1093)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Jeremiah 32:17-19
17 Ah Sovereign LORD, you have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and outstretched arm. Nothing is too hard for you. 18 You show love to thousands but bring the punishment for the fathers' sins into the laps of their children after them. . O great and powerful God, whose name is the LORD Almighty, 19 great are your purposes and mighty are your deeds. Your eyes are open to all the ways of men; you reward everyone according to his conduct and as his deeds deserve.
Lamentations 5:7
New world translation version
Our Forefathers are the ones that have sinned. They are no more. As for us, it is their errors that we have had to bear.
New International version
Our fathers have sinned and are no more, and we bear their punishment.
Exodus 34:6-8
6 And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, "The LORD, the LORD, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, 7 maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickedness, rebellion and sin. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children and their children for the sin sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation." 8 Moses bowed to the ground at once and worshiped.
Leviticus 28:38-40
You will perish among the nations; the land of your enemies will devour you. Those of you who are left will waste away in the lands of their enemies because of their sins; also because of their father's sins they will waste away. But if they will confess their sins and the sins of their fathers - their treachery against me and their hostility toward me.
@Skulls1850 (14)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
hahahaha....You're good Neriz, what religion are you in? But i still believe that somethin there inside of every man the monstrous nature of polygamy..I just hope it be awaken in your husbands senses...I was once very loyal to my relationship but time comes when the monster awakes and here i am now...uncontrollably bad....
@Skulls1850 (14)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
ows? are you sure that sins of our ancestors were being pass unto us? Could we read it in the bible? Please site the chapter and the verses where i could read it, and states that it is being pass to us...
@Inky261 (2520)
• Germany
27 Jun 07
At this point I did show my husband to the door. I brought up the kid alone. Three years later I did see him in court again for a divorce and never again. He was not worthy of me. Period. Case closed.
@Skulls1850 (14)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
That's what i am saying....Am I not alone? Lolz...Well, i did try to set her free and let her do all she wants and we'll both raise the kids together as a bestfriend, but she won'n give up on me...Maybe it is how filipino values bonded our families...I am a filipino and we really have a strong family ties, that's one of the problem here...We dont want our relative to know what was going on....
@butterfly101 (54)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I think it was the thrill you were seeking. If you want to have all of these affairs...you should not be married. The point of marriage is to be with ONE partner. You need to seek some help for your problem...
@Skulls1850 (14)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Too late for that, i'm already married....and you are right one reason was the thrill but not the main point...
