Would you perfer someone younger or someone older as a partner?
By TriciaW
@TriciaW (2441)
United States
June 26, 2007 5:10am CST
I watched that show last night where the guy has 20 year old women and 40 year old women and it got me thinking. Myself I perfer a man older then I am because I like the maturity. Now that doesn't mean that all older people are more mature because trust me some aren't*L* So which do you prefer in your relationship? Older or younger? Why?
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21 responses
@maybel13 (205)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I prefer a partner older than me because I also want a mature person just like you.. I want my partner to take care me and treat me like a baby because I'm an attention-seeker type of person.
And I belive that there's a higher chance of lasting relationship in that kind of situation.
@Lord_Romer (31)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I just turned 30 recently, and I prefer to have a female partner that is younger than me.
There are sveral reasons why I want my partner to be younger, one is the fact that women matures a lot faster than guys...
two, women tends to gain weight as they grow older...
three, younger women has a more subtle and yet energetic Chi flowing from within their body making them more attractive...
four, women tends to become immature at some point making men loose their wits, I like it better if a girl has tantrums, it makes me feel more ahead of her, like when they try to make simple things more complicated, makes me go crazy and yet makes me love them more...
Of course, not all Older people are matured when it comes to their decisions, but that doesn't make any younger women feel more experienced either.
-The King of Reason and The Leader of None-
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I have tried dating younger and older men to be able to fair to the age range. But I find younger men to be a little bit too immature and sooner or later I become somewhat their mom and have to nag on them so they would do things right. On the other hand, though older men are quite mature, they are also very much hard headed at times and they try to do the 'I know better because I'm older than you' talk. :)
Funny as it may seem, I still prefer men older than me but not very old, a gap of like 3-6 years would do. For it is at this range that we both can learn from each other at the same time there isn't problems on seniority and if ever there are arguments, he would understand that I am like this because I'm a little bit more immature than he is.
It simply is ~ a girl thing.
Just my cents.
@butterfly101 (54)
• United States
27 Jun 07
don't think of the age...think of the person. Yes, some older men are immature. I like someone my own age or within my age group.. a year or two difference either way.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I certainly wouldn't want someone more than 5 years younger than my self. we wouldn't have that much in common. If he was much younger than that I would be talking about something that was the going thing when I was a kid and he would go duh? I alsowound not want some one that is too much older than me for the same reason. I would not want some one that I might end up haveing to take care of in a year or two. I'm speaking from the age of 62 and the age of the peron makeing the choise could be much younger and will make different opinion.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I certainly wouldn't want someone more than 5 years younger than my self. we wouldn't have that much in common. If he was much younger than that I would be talking about something that was the going thing when I was a kid and he would go duh? I alsowound not want some one that is too much older than me for the same reason. I would not want some one that I might end up haveing to take care of in a year or two. I'm speaking from the age of 62 and tha age of the peron make the choise could be much younger and wil havea different opinion.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I certainly wouldn't want someone more than 5 years younger than my self. we wouldn't have that much in common. If he was much younger than that I would be talking about something that was the going thing when I was a kid and he would go duh? I alsowound not want some one that is too much older than me for the same reason. I would not want some one that I might end up haveing to take care of in a year or two. I'm speaking from the age of 62 and tha age of the peron make the choise could be much younger and wil havea different opinion.
@dlkuku (1935)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I prefer my man to be older, my husband is five years older than me, I am not sure why, it certainly doesn't have much to do with maturity since sometimes he still acts like he is 12. I am just attracted to older men.
@sreeraj_9 (67)
• India
27 Jun 07
hi
i prefer the one whoom i love most
and ur decision is upto u
and ur decision is inal for only u
and should not impose on others....
@marshall_blake2000 (304)
• United States
26 Jun 07
some one younger. Because if I get old she will still be young enough to help me out of my wheel chair
@blog8withJ (136)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Its the matter of the heart. If my heart can settle with someone younger than me, why not? But, I prefer older than me so that he can spoil me the more and he can handle the situation all the more. But, in case young person can settle all my needs and wants in life and he loved me more than the older one, I can say why not? Loved will strike without taking consideration about how old the partner is. As long as both of you loved each other. It is more good if you can have an older partner but in case the younger one is more good than the older, I settle for the younger one. A girl can choose, can't she? Heart is the matter at all times.
@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
26 Jun 07
whenever I was with someone that was older than me, they behaved like they were my father or something..whenever I was with someone younger than me, they acted like I was their babysitter...so I prefer someone in my age range..I would say 22-26
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
26 Jun 07
My husband is 6 years older than I am. I have always preferred older guys over ones that were either my age or younger, considering most of those that are older than me show a maturity factor that those of my age or younger have yet to show.
Being someone who has always been of a mature nature, I like having someone with close to the same mature nature about them to be with. Granted I like joking around, just like nearly anyone does, but nothing drives me more nuts than when I am trying to be serious and my partner is treating it like some small pointless issue.
@unithorn (193)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Though I am currently dating a guy my own age, I am usually attracted to older men. In my own defense, most of my friends are nearly twice my age - I find it an unnecessary irritant to deal with the childish drama of many people my own age. I do not base my first impressions on age, but it never seems to take long for immaturity to come seeping through. And, while I will never quit learning, I feel that I am quite mature for my age.
I am 21 years old, and the oldest guy that I have dated is over twice my age. It had nothing to do with money, as I always pay my own way on dates (or he pays one night, I get the next...or he gets dinner, I buy whatever else we do that night...whatever)...ANYway, it has to do with the life experiences, the acquired intelligence and wisdom, the capabilities of an older man in all aspects.
So long as no one is being mentally or physically taken advantage of, I see no problem with a large age difference.
Don't get me wrong, though - I'm doing alright with the one I have now! Keeps me warm, anyway.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
26 Jun 07
I'm still young enough that people even just a few years younger than me seem like children. I'm 26, and I live in an area with two nearby universities, so many of the people I see everyday are young college students. I can't imagine being involved with anyone younger than me, because those kids just act like such... kids! =p
My husband is 30, and while he sees that as "older" I see it as within pretty much the same age range. I think anything under 5 years doesn't usually make that much of a different in worldviews. When I was a teenager I dated guys much older than me, and while it seemed appropriate at the time because I considered myself very mature, now I kind of wince looking back on my stupidity from those days.
I think given the option I would choose someone close to my own age. While I do have some friends and such older than me, some of my ideas and values are less popular among older people, and that could be a major issue in a relationship.
@jmathen (112)
• India
26 Jun 07
I would prefer an older man. I would like to have someone in my life who is mature than me ! I am not saying that everyone who is older are definitely mature but I have to say the majority is. When the guy is younger than me, he will look at the world in a different manner, i mean somewhat in a childish manner, which i really dont prefer ! In my opinion, both men and women get mature with age and experience. I am someone who looks at life in a mature way, facing the reality and challenges out there. I would prefer my partner to be equally serious about life and our future !
@forsakemysoul (519)
• United States
26 Jun 07
To be honest, I prefer someone who's older when I'm looking for a relationship. Most men who are younger happen to also be more immature. Since I'm more mature than my age anyways, having someone who's immature doesn't really help me further anything in a relationship. Older men always seem to get along better with me as well.