How do you deal with grief?

Hello.. I don't know what to say except that I am sorry to hear of his passing. Grief if you must for this is only healthy. Cry it out then remember the good he has created and left behind. God bless.

Cry allot. Lie on the bed, on the couch in fetal position with me, myself and I and let the tears come until I don't want to cry anymore. And when they come again, I have another round. Think of the beautiful moments, the bad ones, the sad ones, the memories, the wantings, the regrets, the guilt. Feel vulnerable as a child and let the angels hold me, which makes me cry all over again. Then the healing comes; It comes in the vulnerability, not in the strength of being tuff. Take care.

it is horrible when we lose someone so important in our life recycledgoth i know how it feels as i lost my mum and dad when i was 10 and 11 years old, a year between them. all we can do is remember that we was brought up with good memories of them and we will never forget them

I have lost my sister in Marh of this year and it is still hard to deal with.I talked to her the weekend that she past and that is hard I have words to tell you how to deal with it but I can say this in time it gets easier but it nevers goes away. I have lost a child back in 2004 and it still hurts but I have deal with it over it and plus a miscarrige of the same year and it is hard still and now that I lost my sister and a aunt of last year in Dec. right around Christmas.With the both of them I have found that ios even that much harder to deal with.All I can say is to pray and ask God to help you throw it.All I can say is I will pray for you and your family that God will help you and your family through these very hard times and I am truly sorry for your lost and God bless you.

Oh Sweet I am so sorry that you have lost your father - I know how hard it is to deal with this type of loss! I talk to mine a lot and try to remember all the things he taught me and the things he used to do that made me laugh! I think we all cope in different ways and there is no point in trying to give too much advice - you have to deal with it in your own way sweets! I am here if you need to talk - even vent at someone! Hope you are feeling a bit better sweets but it can take time - don't push yourself too hard! xxx

My Condolences. I usually deal with my grief by sleeping. Yeah, it might be an escape but it helps me to slowly churn my grief until I come to understand and accept reality. Another way for me is by talking about it like what you are doing. It comes easy since you are facing your grief at the same time you are allowing people close or strangers to help you understand thing and keep it light for you. Life just really comes and goes but the most important thing is how you lived it.Yes we do miss the people we love that passed away, but let's just hope they're in a better place and much much more happier and waiting for us to be with them. In the meanwhile, you should not let grief take away your life, they (our beloved) wouldn't be happy that way. I can relate to you since I lost my favorite aunt. She wasn't sick at all. She just suddenly had a massive aneurysm attack. She was pregnant then. Yea I still miss her, but I'm just thinking that's she's happier now. It has been 10years now. You take care. Life is Good. :)

Sorry to hear about ya Dad. Removed and feeling numb is a good sign, just go through it.It will get better, yup!

Hi Recycledgoth, first let me say that I'm sorry to hear about your father. I think everyone deals with grief a little differently. I think the best thing you can do is spend time thinking about all of the positives in his life and try to keep busy to keep your mind off of things. I wish you all the best, Terry

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know it is very hard when we lose a parent. You have to give yourself time and let yourself grieve for your dad. I know my mom has been gone 5 years and I still have times when the tears fall. It is ok and you have to let yourself do that. I remember shortly after the haze started wearing off I went to a computer store and I found some computer games to teach my daughters math. I thought oh gosh mom will think this is great and it hit me I wasn't able to show her. I lost it right there in the store. I burst into tears. Everyone was watching me and for the life of me I couldn't stop them. So I just looked at them and shrugged my shoulders and went to the car to let it all out. So don't get down on yourself when it does hit at an odd time. That is normal and in time the tears will be fewer or spread apart but let yourself have them. If there is anything I can do please message me. *hugs to you*

Honestly, you sound like I do when faced with that kind of grief. I've dreamed several times that my father was still alive. I've dreamed a lot of times that my friend was still alive. Happy to see them, upset they didn't tell me & when I woke up the grief hits me all over again. Dealing with it? Surviving is about all I'm doing.

I know exactly how you are feeling. I lost my mother on May 31st. It's only been 3 1/2 weeks and it all still seems so unreal to me. I had some really bad days where I just cried and cried throughout the day. As each day passes, I still cry but the amount of times per day has lessened. Not that my loss has gotten any easier to deal with. I guess I am just trying to get back into the swing of life again. It is very hard to do. Allow yourself time to cry. It does help. I wish there was a magic answer as how to get through all of this. I think you just have to take one day at a time.

I am so sorry to hear about you fathers passing my friend. As far as grief i dont feel there is a set way to deal with grief your body deals with it in it own way. Everyone is different and has different circumstances too. I do know that with me the only thing that seems to make my grief easy is time everyone needs time to adjust to the lose of a loved one and some times it takes a really long time to get to that point as well. I hope you are feeling better soon.

I am sorry about the loss of your father. I lost my mother 20 years ago, and some days it feels like yesterday. Not to say that it doesn't get easier, it does over time. You need to let yourself grieve, each person grieves differently and it's not something you can just get over. Each person goes through the process at their own pace, and since you lost your father suddenly, you are probably a bit shell shocked.

we all deal in diffrent ways I dont think there is a best way just what ever makes you feel better... sorry for you loss I am sure all our thoughts are with you.

Sorry to hear of your loss. I think the 9 responses above sum up pretty much everything I could say. It feels strange at first, numb like you say but in time you adjust to life without the loved ones you lose. They say it gets easier, but i think you just learn to cope better. Most importantly, you should laugh as well as cry when you feel like it. I'm sure you and your family share a lot of happy memories of your dad, and it's more important to remember all of these good things than the sad part at the end. My thoughts and best wishes are with you & yours. Rhino.

Sorry to hear of your father's passing. It's a strange strange feeling for anyone to lose someone they're close to. My Grandmother passed away last year and she was the first person close to me that I'd lost. She was sick for a long time so I kind of prepared myself for the worst. In your case, your father went rather suddenly so it probably came as more of a shock to you. I found that talking to family members and to friends who care about you helps a lot with the grief. I also like to think about what the person who's passed would want for us. My Grandmother told me a while ago "Carly when I go I don't want you to cry. Crying is selfish because I'm in a lot of pain and I'm ready to go so you should be happy for me to be out of my misery". Of course it's natural to cry but to think about what your loved one would have wanted for you helps a lot. It will take time but you will naturally slip back into the monotony of every day life.

So sorry to hear of your loss hun. I would never quote from scriptures or religious tracts as I'm not particularly religious. I'm not very good at dealing with grief personally and always find it hard to say the right thing. The only thing I can say which I know for a fact will help you is that time will help. As time goes on your grief will lessen. I've never found anything else to be of any use or comfort. You have to grieve in your own way and take as much time as you need. I wish you strength and send you hugs at this difficult time, don't try to forget your dad, remember all the happy times you had with him and if you feel that he is still around it may be because he still is, watching over you. xx

It is normal to feel a sense of lose initially. Grief if you need to. Cry it out. Speak out your feelings and emotions. Do not bottle it. Once all these are let out, it will be over naturally. When my father passed away, I buried myself in work. As I was in a wholesale and distribution environment then, I have many clients turned friends who used to come to my workplace. They are the ones who counsel, encourage and keep me company. I even have an insurance agent who sold me a cheap term policy aimed to provide protection for my family. He was the one who made me feel that I should turn grief into strength. Gradually, I come to terms after I took up a course and changed my career. It was a turning point in my life.

sharing the good deeds of the person to others while he still lives here on earth. one way, he set as an example to others by helping in their needs and doing volunteer work without asking any return.

first I would like to say sorry for you loss. People dael with the loss of a love one in alot of ways, but the only thing that really helps is for time to go by. tire to go out, and get your mind off things alittle it will get better.