Getting married, good choice or bad choice
By clearer
@clearer (22)
South Africa
June 26, 2007 6:19am CST
I have only been married for 4 months now. And you either cut out for this type of lifestyle or not. You have to learn to forgive and forget. This takes on a new meaning after you a man and wife. As before you could either deal with his crap, take a walk or forget him completely. You have to learn to be honest and truthful about everything. Communication is so key in a marriage. If you don't speak this could cause your marriage to go sour. Also once you have tried all of that. Be each others best friends. Being best friends is the one that will get you to forgive and forget, be truthful and honest and communicate.
Getting married can either be a really good decision or not. People that I have spoken to recently have said that the first year of marriage is the worse. So we have managed to get to four months. I am hoping that we might get over the main urdle that is a year.
5 responses
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Getting married is a one of the greatest and hardest decisions a person will have to make in their lifetime. It is great to spend a lifetime with the person you share a common bond with, but it is also something that should not be taken lightly, as so many of the younger generation do.
Being married will have it's ups and downs, but most things in life have those. You both will have to be willing to work through the bad as well as the good moments. Being good friends helps, but in the end you both have to be willing to make compromises in between to make the marriage a successful one.
@clearer (22)
• South Africa
26 Jun 07
Thanks for your resonse. I still have tons to learn and I know that there is tons of work for me in the future. It is good knowing that we learning and working at our relationship together. Knowing that there is someone out there who cares and loves me no matter how silly I can be really makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Your welcome! Marriages do consist of a lot work being involved, but don't get so self absorbed in it that you won't be able to enjoy your marriage to your partner. Yes, problems do arise, but there are also ways to get through them, as long as you take it in baby steps, and don't let it become much bigger than what it is. For the most part when times get rough, just remember why you decided to get married to this person in the first place, and enjoy each other no matter what may come your way.
@lynnz78 (75)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
i've been married for 15 months now...and still once in a while i miss my single-bachelor moment; where i was free to ge any where i want, meet any body i like and do any thing i wanted to do...miss all those moment...but i'm also be thankfull to God, as i'm married now i have a lovely wonderfull little girl :)
@MGjhaud (23240)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
well that really depends on your status. if you're that ready. well go and have the loveliest moments of your life.
in your case, that's really normal. understanding your partner is like doing it forever. but of course in a reasonable manner. dont be too expectant on your marriage. just be happy with your new life.
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@mers_08 (84)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
It depends on you..your feeling to the person..its really a tough decision, but if you really love each other you can conquer any obstacles that will come to your married life..we have saying in tagalog about getting married..it goes like this.."Ang pag-aasawa ay hindi parang kaning isusubo na kapag napaso ka ay iluluwa mo." meaning to say when you get married you must ready to both face and solve whatever trial or problems that will come to your relationship as a husband and wife.
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@clearer (22)
• South Africa
26 Jun 07
Thanks again. As soon as you have decided to make vows not only in front of your family and friends but most importantly in front of God you have to make sure that you will stop at nothing to make sure that you make your marriage work. As God has ordained marriage and it is something that you must cherish.
@elshaddai123 (3981)
• Kottayam, India
26 Jun 07
Once you married you come in to good relationship which cannot be easily broken.So it is good choice.communicate all things with your partner, which will solve almost all problems.Be considerate and lovable always.then you will see great changes.I wish you happy married life.
