Why do all good things come to an end...?
By DFolan
@DFolan (11)
June 26, 2007 11:02am CST
When you fall for someone, that's when you change! You become instantly vulnerable to them, and in a strong solid haze of infatuation, you like the little things about them, even though your mates do the same things - and it irritates you! You wait for them, for what ever reason, for hours, no matter how boring or tedious the waiting becomes. You'll do absolutely anything for them, just because you love them!
But...when you break up - you lose a little part of yourself forever and it's so hard to change, to get that little something back! There is no going back to what was once normal, there is no happy ending...you just have to forget! Everything that you love about them becomes a memory, and then over time, you forget completely - it's like they never happened...
You just don't want to forget them...or the happy times you shared, and...since you want to remember the happy times, you do everything you can to hold on...but eventually, you have to let go...people say that saying goodbye is the hardest part! But eventually you learn to let go...you learn to let go as the memories fade away! That's why time heals...so saying goodbye may be painful, but it's a step you have to take, to move on!
So how, do you get over losing someone you love with all your heart, when you remain friends? When you break up with someone, and remain friends, you don't actually say goodbye...so, how do you learn to let go, when the memories are just not going to fade away, because 'they'...your Ex, are still around?
I just lost my first love...and I still love him. I guess I always will. I guess sadness saw an ending with me and him...why does fate decide, that all good things, just aren't meant to be...that all the good things, have to come to an end?
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7 responses
@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Everything in life happens for a reason. Remember forget that. You won't always love him. You will get over it and in time you'll know why it had to end. Give it some time. I know how you feel. I've been through this before more than once. But life moves on and you grow and learn as an individual. Life experiences make us learn and the suffering helps us build character. Believe me when I tell you, you will meet someone in time that is right for you. Just be positive.
Oh and by the way, it's hard to let go of your past when that person is still your friend. I know this very well. Been there, done that. YOu want to get over him? Then you will have to cut ALL ties with him. OTherwise, you are going to continue to feel the way you do for a long time.
Best wishes
@DFolan (11)
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27 Jun 07
Thanks babe! Your advice really helped. Before I posted my discussion, I knew, someone somewhere would reply, and tell me what I really did not want to hear, even though deep down I knew...that cutting all ties with him is what I HAVE to do, to move on completely. :o(
@curvychick77 (1084)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I've experienced this many times. Sometimes it could be that you are only better off as friends. Yes, you had wonderful memories and those memories should always be remembered, those are the ones that will always stay with you. But the hardest part, I feel, is being friends afterwards, because you know that you had something more than friendship. I will admit that is the most difficult. Goodbye is more like when you don't see that person anymore, believe me goodbye is a little easier, because you don't have to see that person, and slowly you will be able to move on, but if you see that person, it will make things more difficult. This is how I felt. How did I deal? I told myself that I had to move on and that I had to not let the memories and the relationship that once was, take over my mind. I promise you that in time this too shall pass, and you will find someone wonderful. Fate probably ment for you not to be together, there is someone out there, and one day he will come to you. Enjoy your life, be with friends and do something that makes you happy. I wish you the very best in your endevors.
@DFolan (11)
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27 Jun 07
Awwww thanks curvychick! I know what you mean about staying friends being hard! We still really care for each other, and we still love each other very much! He says though, that he's not IN love with me anymore...
It's confusing really...a friend of mine, when he found out I was single again, decided he wanted to take me out for dinner to try and cheer me up! My Ex went mad! If he see's me talking to guys, he goes mad! I've just had a major op, and out of all my close friends and my family, he's been the one, whose been here for me most! And if anyone upsets me, he's there giving them what for! :oS
Was Ex's of yours, that you've remained friends with, been this way with you...?
@chari_dc (492)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
simpy because all bad things do come to an end also. just remember that the pain you're feeling, the loss that happened...pretty soon, you'll get over it and life will move on.
@senthil2k (1500)
• India
27 Jun 07
Not only good things, almost everything in the world has an end and will always come to an end.
But its only the good things that we are usually worried about, when they come to an end. But for the bad things, we dont even worry about when they come to an end.
Take everything equally and easy, so that nothing bothers you at any point of your life. Accept the end of worldly objects and nothing will bother you for ever.
@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Some good things never last they say but maybe it destined to be that way. God might have a reasons why some good things don't last. But the good and happy memories stays and the pain fades as time goes by. It's part of making us strong and tough to face challenges.
Just letting go of the feeling will help ease the pain in more subtle way.I believe that the more you're expose to your ex-boyfriend gives you immmunity to the pains and you would noticed you will just laugh at it when you looked back (,")
@kringkles (51)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
The thing is, you can't always get what you want. Much more, that you can't have what you don't deserve. Maybe there's another pair for you out there somewhere patiently waiting for you to come his way too. Don't linger too much with your feelings over your first love or you'll let the opportunity of finding the right man pass.
@billabadmash (1011)
• Pakistan
26 Jun 07
Because everything has to get to end even its bad thing as every thing here in this world has a life which will eventually end so never loose your thoughts be with your self as time is the biggest antidote for anything that happen.
