Why do you have so many friends?

hi marciascott..there is no limitation set here for making friends ..and i think you can make as many as friends possible.by making freinds we get good exposure to our discussions..helps us to get good responsses.I think making freinds a lot doesnt help us to get good reponses becoz all of them are not interested and active.i think we get good responses when we make freinds who suits our interests,like our opinions, active here everyday and respond to ours even we are not able to respond to them.recnetly i got a response to one of my discussion saying that some mylotters tend to respond to our if we respond to them and they count our responses and respond to same number.I really wonder.But as for me i dont see who are responding and who are not but when i see good discussion on mylot i would like to response

I dont know. Why do YOU have so many. I think it is crazy. Now when I am responding to any new friends request if they have too many friends I deny them as I think they are collecting friends like some kind of trophies.

My friend, you the one who set up your limits. I don't like to have more than 100 totals. In general I like to know people better and remember about everything they say...some people are not active, but I have few good friend here...this is all that counts...:)))

Alot of my friends are less active than I am. I mean to be more active in MyLot, but my health is bothering me right now. I can't wait to see an updated picture. :-)

Can one have too many friends? Look at it this way, whether or not they answer your discussions, you have a bigger pool of discussions to respond to. Maybe you could thin this list down by deleting the ones that aren't active.

I was thinking the same thing. I have a lot of friends also, but it seems like I have a handful that reply to my discussions. Let me know what you decide to do. Whatever you do...don't delete me !!!! I got to know how your feet are and when you get your van fixed...Your my daily soap opera...LOL

Having a large list of friends is ok. We have the benefit when we set them all to Notify ON of having them sent to a folder within your email. You have always a supply of discussions to respond to. Effective use of time and energies. I don't keep track of who responds or not. I appreciate anyone that responds. Varied interests also keep the discussions lively and different. Makes it easier to participate when things get rough around here. I hope you have a nice day also.

Hello dear Marcie, A good point you have here, yes we make friends here but are they real friends, can we become their friend or is it just a mutual agreement. I used to have some very good friends here , they posted some great topics which i loved to respond to , and they also answered to my problems in very decent and lovely manner , i thought we were all friends , but alas i was wrong. I was having my exams and had very little time for mylot , but i had to share my experiences of the day so i posted them and that was what i did in the last month , i am soory but i couldnt respond to all my friends,i was heart broken when i fopund that when i asked my friends a solution to a problem i got 0 responses.Now you may call it my bold assumption , but i thionk i didnt get any response because i was no good to them as i was not going to respond to their post , at least thats what they thought. I had returned now , and i am making new friends , sorry may be any other phrase could describe the relation but not friendship , after all i have seen i cant describe it as friendship. Have a good day.

if u have a friend act wisely and respond to his discussion though he may not look to your side for a second.

I think one of the reasons why people have so many friends on here is because they are hoping that having more friends will lead to more responses in thier posts. Now for me I think I have just over 60 friends and do you know that out of every discussion I have ever started I have only had maybe 5 to 7 of my friends respond to those discussions. And normally it is the same 5 to 7 that respond to everyone of my discussions. Those are the friends that really matter to me. They are true friends. So for me I don't care to try to have tons of friends. I don't approve everyone that asks to be my friend for my own personal reasons that I don't care to share.

I don't think so... I think there is no limit and I hope myLot will not limit us of having friends. For me, the more friends you have the more responses of your posts you can get. I am expecting responses from my friends (those who are in my friends'list), firs of all, whenever I post new topics. :)

for me... adding a friend mean having discussion that is close to my interests.. basically you bump around this friends on the topic that you both interested in.. or maybe same country of origin..so basically topics started by your friends are those topics that you can post reply with :)

wow Marcia, you have so many posts! and friends! congrat! ;) how are you, im from Argentina i am new on mylot, i have low friends but i hope have so many friend from all world, good look, good bye greets :)

Hmmm...I don't know. I guess you can have as many friends as you want. I personally have like six, and most have added me. The way I see it, if someone wants to be my friend, then I'll let them. There's no such thing as *too* many friends.

I have a big list too, I have a few that I consider friends. We regularly respond to each others discussions. I think some of the newbies think the more friends the batter. I have friends request all the time, so far I have approved all of them.

I think those that have been here for awhile, have alot of friends, we accumulate them, but out of your 452 friends how many are active friends? When was the last time you went back in and viewed the last time they were even at myLot? Not to make fun of you, I never would, but periodically I have gone through my friend's list and it is a very time consuming task to go in and see the last time your friends were online at myLot and then to delete them, with 452 it might take you a few days to complete this task. But I know I have over 200 friends and I have all of them for email notification and I only get just over 30 minutes in the evenings when I go to bed, so I know not al of my friends are active participants at myLot. Wouldn't it be nice if myLot had a feature in our Friend's List that said when the last time they were online at myLot? Okay, I know I am reaching here, but wouldn't it be even nicer if they had a feature that said when was the last time they contributed to our discussions?? We can dream can't we??

Well, I was thinking the same thing when I opened this discussion: Why so many friends? Certainly, only a small portion of them reply to our discussions. Others doesn't even care. There are some inactive, some that doesn't care about anything, some strange friends. Some won't even reply to your private messages. I think there's no reason for having so many friends. I'll delete the inactive ones and have only friends that answers my discussions.

I only have 11 friends at this time. I just started on myLot less than a month ago, so my friends list hasn't built up too much yet. I am only approving those friends who are part of discussions I start or that I have an interest in. So my list isn't growing real fast. I want to keep it that way, because I couldn't respond to discussions by 450 friends every day the way I want to. I suppose the number of friends one has depends on the reason for having those friends. If you want friends just to have a large list of friends, then I suppose a large list is important. If you want friends who have the same interests and will respond when you start a new discussion or when you comment on theirs, then I would guess a smaller number is fine. The upper limit is going to be different for everyone. I don't think I would ever want a large list of friends because I couldn't keep up with all their discussions.

I think there is no limit to the number of friends you can have. I once saw in some lady's profile having thousands of friends. I like to request to add anyone who responds to my discussions or who comment on my responses to my list of friends. I find it is a lot eaier to find discussions to respond to from discussions my friends start and after a while, we begin to respond to each others discussions more frequently. Plus, we get to be really good online friends.