Will you wear a HAT bigger than your HEAD?

I do have a tendency to make promises I may not be able to fulfill however I do also mention that I will do it but won't guarantee how it will turn out. I tend to underestimate myself but will always try. If it is really important to a company then I will be willing to help but not do it alone. :)

Hey LW, I hate to turn down a friend & when I have in the past it caused hurt feelings-in any case if I couldn't do whatever I would still say no +'s 2 U :D

I can't even follow-up on promises to myself. I set deadlines for my writing and can't make them. So I will not take on a project in which I cannot promise to deliver. If it is something to be done at church at the mass time that I always attend, then I have no problem doing it, whatever it may be. Though I did volunteer for a project outside of church for the church and I know they weren't expecting much but they were very impressed with the job I did and, well, I have to keep doing it. Something I must get back to. I was asked to coach Under 14 girls outdoor soccer this year. There was no way I was taking on that duty as this year was the first year my girls have played outdoor and I didn't even know the rules. Plus the game days fluctuate. If it was indoor, games are always on Sundays, I might consider coaching. I can't even promise to get out of bed in the morning so I sure as heck don't make any commitments that I am not likely to keep.

I know that in the past I was like that, I would definitely make it a point to take on tasks that were "bigger" than me. It got me into trouble a few times because I was unable to deliver, but it eventually taught me my own boundaries and also taught me how to dig deep and really put my "nose to the grind stone" when needed to get tasks done. Nowadays, I am very straightforward when it comes to those types of situations. I will usually assess the entire situation and give someone a very accurate assessment of what I can do and what I can give. I am actually a bit like you, I also like to under-promise and over-deliver.

If it something that big, I will tell them that I will need a couple days to think about it. If they agree to let me think on it, than I will use that time wisely and think of all that I can bring to a project such as one that may be used to bring in money. If I can not think of a single thing, that I can bring, that is worth anything to the project than I will decline the offer and in short explain to them why choosing me for such a venture would not benefit them in any manner. If I can bring something to the project at hand, than I will tell them that I will do the best that I can do, and do everything that I can to try and make the project a success for them. If by some certain circumstance I have to come up with an answer on the day that I am asked to partake in such a project I will most certainly decline such an offer, because I do not like going into things in a blind sort of fashion. I like to know before hand what I may be getting myself into, and I will be upfront about each step of the project.

Hat bigger than my head? That's mean that it will cover my ears and eyes... I am unable to hear and see.... talk without seeing and hearing... unable to deliver efficiently and effectively. Well, I will tell them I may not able to perform and meet their expectation. If they still insist, I will do it if there is assistance and guide.

being a balanced person i think, i would not promise anything until i ponder over it seriously. i would think and rethink and then proceed. i hate false promises and i would not do it myself either. i know it hurts. so, i decide on pretty much how big my hat should be.

I am like you that I will be frank about if the task is capable of getting done, my problem is the time frame, too many times I don't get myself enough time to complete the task that I always run short, so these days I just give myself a cushion not to run into these problems too often.

I will usually accept but if I am unsure at how well I'll do then I will state that right up front. There have been a few times I've taken on a hat bigger than my head but surprisingly in most cases the hat shrinks or my head grows :)

hello,wizard,if i think i cannot accomplish a task,i will not promise other people,i will prefer to make them not happy in the first place rather than making them disappointted if i cannot do the task well. I will tell them i cannot help them at all if the task is just too difficult for me. I think if you are looking for help from someone,you cannot have too much expectation on them,what they can do is try their best.

I do not promise anything I cannot deliver. If I say I can do, then I can do it. I never make empty promises. Those are the worst kind. I hate when someone says they'll do something, and you are counting on it, then it turns out that they never did it. I never ask anyone for anything either. If I can't do it myself, it doesn't get done. I mean my family is excluded in that. I will ask my hubby or kids to help me out, but onyl with things I know they can do.

This is a tricky one. There are many situations where one has no choice but to take on the bigger task and try to deal with all the kinks when trying to accomplish the bigger tasks. Sometimes, you never know your limits till you take on the task which you initially thought you could not handle. There are other times when you will stretch your limits just to complete the tasks. Either way, you come out of the task a better person. Now you know your limitations and how much more you could do. But like you mentioned, it is better to downplay the expectations at the beginning before embarking on the task to ensure that if the task was not completed up to expectations, you did your best!

Ya, i sometimes feel like I do take risk promising something up-front that i am certainly not able to do so, for example register for 10KM marathon, volunteer to take charge of a task that I am inexperience, not knowing if I could deliver any good results. I can't live with an unchallenging life.

I won't wear a hat bigger than my head. Something always happens where I can't deliver. then I end up feeling so bad. It's nice if you can but be careful when you do.

I am wearing one right now. No really I mean, my hubby got posted to another city and I was doing last leg of my DNIIT course in software programming my two exams are due which I want to give in july. He wants to elave with me and my kids by july 31st. Before going I have to give that and on top of it do a short course of solaris and may be give scjp exam for level 1. How I am going to do so, I have no idea, with one year old toddler and eight year old son to take care of and plus do packing and stuff. My son wants a birthday bash on 5th July too. I wanted to give MCP to but that can wait I think I will try for that till after shifting. One option is to let him go ahead and follow up after the rains are over in october. As due to rains it might not be possible for us to shift to the place.SO right now I am in total spin and still couldn't resist taking an hour break to come to mylot.lol

Hi Lord, well i dont promise anyone which i cannot accomplish. If it is in my boundary levels and if am pretty much confident enough then only i do or else i dont even think about that.

To be honest,i am diplomatic or thats how my friends describe me. So i guess i usually wear huge hats.I don't want to be this way but i don't wanta ignore somebody's requests either.I just can't say 'NO' to some body.But although i make sure i accomplish my mission up to 90%.For the rest 10% they will have my apologies.Although, i too appreciate people who are honest and direct upfront. You know sometimes the task may be pretty easier for you but depending on people it may also sound impossible for some who are laid-back and are in the habit of saying 'Sorry,i can't','I am afraid i have some errands','Thats not my cuppo coffee,and i am not the right person',etc. You may also find people who-wear the size-zero hats on their 'Humpty-Dumpty' head-are 24/7 and 365 days busy with their own chores and duties that they will never have time for others.To them,its no point approaching for your task.And i believe under every circumstances they are the ones who are hardly being approached by others.If you yourself are flexible,have an oodles of vim in you and a people's people you just can't say no and you may neither Under-deliver.You could as well as well try larger hats and sandwich some space and positive air in between your head and hat.In other words people can be Over-promising and over-deleviring.Thanks.

If it is simple enough and I am able to do it there and then, then I will, but if its something thats complicated and may require more time to do, then i will say whether I have to time to do it or not. I have on occasion promised to do something, only to find out later that I was not able to do it. I do tell that person and apologise for it. Unexpected things do crop up and sometimes I am unable to complete what I promised. You know I don't mind helping out but I have been taken advantage before and its not very nice when after you have helped someone out, they expect it of you. Then when you say you are unable to help, they get upset LOL can't please everyone I suppose LOL

I must admit there are times wherein I tried wearing a hat much much bigger than my head, thanks to the Almighty, I was able to get out alive and unscarred :D Actually, I seem to be lucky whenever there are responsibilites and deadlines that I must meet. Even if the responsibility is huge and way beyond my capacity (and sometimes impossible) I tend to deliver before the deadline. Maybe this is due to my perseverance and the fact that I'm very resourceful and hard-working. But I must tell you I don't say yes to every big project, I know how to decline, I know my limits, but there are just people who seem to have faith in my abilities (I can't understand them sometimes). Whenever I say "I don't think I can do that, it's much too difficult and complicated for my brain". They retort with "Don't be too modest May, I'm sure you'll finish it even before the deadline, you can do it!" and then they'll flash me with their "Don't-say-no-to-me" smile. What can I do? I have to give my best then, I don't want my ehemmm "reputation" marred :-P

I will undertake a task that I know I can fulfill, but I do have to admit, I do love a bit of a challenge that can stretch my capabilities...I will only definitely say no to something, if it is so out of line of what I can achieve or accomplish--so maybe my HAT is just a bit bigger than my HEAD--LOL