If you know that you are wrong, will you say sorry?
By gr8life
@gr8life (6251)
Malaysia
June 26, 2007 12:28pm CST
Pride. That is the only word I can think of while writing this. You argue with someone: your family member, your good friend or maybe your spouse and you know that you are wrong, but why it is so hard to say sorry? It is just a simple word but yet, it is very hard to say it out. Am I right if I say that it is all because of your pride? Sometimes, you really want to admit it is your fault. You really want to say sorry but your pride stops you from doing so....
I am not a perfect person and I have to admit, it happens to me sometimes. Whenever I argue or quarrel with someone, and after deep thinking then I realized that it is my own fault. But I do not want to look like a loser, feel sorry and trying to ask for forgiveness. I rather keep quiet and let the matter settle down without admitting my mistake, without saying sorry and apologize to the other party!
Am I bad? How about you out there? Will you immediately say sorry right after you realized that it is your mistake?
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36 responses
@noyida (795)
• Singapore
27 Jun 07
It not pride that I think. It more of Ego. And when a person is egoistic, there is no such thing as a word "Sorry" in his or her life dictionary.
Sorry seems to be the hardest word for some, but I will just say it out if sorry can really mend the situation. Whether the other party accept my apologise or not is another problem.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
27 Jun 07
Hello noyida,
Well, that is another matter, ego. An egoistic person always find that the word 'sorry' never exist in his/her life. I am not that egoistic. I will say it sooner or later but to think that I made a mistake, is something that so shameful to admit. I am not that good :)
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Even tho it is hard to say when I realise I am wrong I will make it a point to say sorry. It is the right thing to do and I want to be a good roll model for my kids. By me saying sorry when I am wrong they will learn that adults are not perfect and that it is ok to make mistakes as long as you appologize for them.
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@lisagayle (393)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I know that I am not perfect, so I will always admit when I am wrong, sometimes it takes a little bit to get up the courage to do so, but I always do.
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@mmorgan100 (66)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I am very outspoken and opinionated. As you can imagine, I'm wrong a lot. I learned a long time ago to apologize immediately after realizing my mistake. However, if I know I am right about something, I'm stubborn enough to refuse to apologize just to smooth things over.
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@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
28 Jun 07
I often say sorry if I make a mistake, but I don't like to say sorry to my bf. Although I know I'm wrong, I don't say sorry to him, and sometimes I force him to say sorry to me. We love each other very much, so sometimes he will say sorry to me although he doesn't make a mistake. Now I go back to my hometown and I decide to stay for about a month, I miss him very much.
@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I think it's good to apologize to others when you've wronged them. Think of how you would feel if someone said or did something that hurt your feelings and never apologized to you? Wouldn't you resent that person? I know I would. My advice is to just treat others the way you want to be treated.
@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
27 Jun 07
We are all only human. Unfortunately, somewhere along the line, we fell under the silly misconception that we have to be perfect. I try to apologize immediately and make things right-but I have to admit that there have been times when my pride got in the way and I didn't apologize.
@kawaiijamichan (773)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
i will say sorry if i knew that i was wrong or if i have done something wrong. because im at fault, and its better to admit your mistakes than fooling your self or to argue with someone over and over just because of your pride. makes things better and less complicated to admit ones mistake.
@Ashrafm (16)
• Egypt
27 Jun 07
Well i think that i am always right apparently.because i DO!!!! Nywayz jokn.. this is not the case.. SORRY through out humanity is associated with weakness but that is wrong. I believe that the most powerful person is the one who would say SORRY when he did actually do something that deserved it. I hate people who would ALWAYS SAY SORRY about everything because then that would be stupidity.
@Illinois_shy_girl (123)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I can not admitt that I was wrong right after an argument. I may admitt it to myself even while arguing but I can not apologize during or right after. I don't really know why but it is hard for me. For me I think that it has to do with the fact that my husband is older than me and he thinks that he is right because he has had more experince in life. I will usually admitt it a few hours later or even the next day but I have to give myself at least that much time to apologize.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Before I'm very outspoken and have a hard time dealing with my pride. And I'ts depend on the person I've commited a mistakes if I will ask forgiveness or not. But now since I've totally change alot because of many things. I've been too easy to forget and easily to ask forgiveness who ever I got mistakes. I don't let anyone who hates me and as much as possible I want to clear my concience and ask forgiveness.
@senthil2k (1500)
• India
27 Jun 07
Yes. I can admit if Im wrong to my conscious. I understand that I cant be right all the times. No one can be perfect in the world. To err is human. With that, I believe I can do a lot of mistakes. So I will definitely admit If I had made a mistake. That too when you are parent, this character of yours to accept your mistake, will definitely help your child you have this character. This will help the child too in his/her future.
I dont have any ego for saying 'Sorry' to anyone when Im wrong. This will help me understand the wrong deed I have done and correct it myself. This will also get me a good image among my friends and relatives too. Accept yourself as you are and admit the faults you do. Thats my policy.
@nnishaant (60)
• India
27 Jun 07
Hey buddy!!!!!!!!!!you are not at all wrong or bad!!!!!!!we all are human and it is human nature.Sometimes we are not able to say sorry because we know what we did was wrong and if it had been done deliberately, then its even worse.Sometimes, people can say sorry to their dear and near ones but not the people of outside world.Some people may say sorry to outside world but cant say that to their near dears.It all depends on person to person and nature of person.All of us are like that only :-)
@hairatheesh (90)
• India
27 Jun 07
If i know iam wrong ... I will definetly say sorry ...but there were sitiation where you cannot say sorry ...since it might afftect you .in such cases i will try to avoid those conversations and turn the topic which is more serious that that or divert the mobs ... thats the technique you have to follow
@yryna_yry (49)
• Romania
27 Jun 07
i have to be honest to you.yes,you are wrong when you know that you made a mistake and you don't apologise.pride is good,but everything has a limit.don't be afraid of saying i'm sorry...people around you won't think you're weak or something like this.they will think that you are a honest and a smart person.what would happen to humanity if nobody would say i'm sorry?we would argue,we would fight and live separately in our own worlds and we'll end by missing warmth and socializing.
