What are true friends?
@joey_matthews (8354)
June 26, 2007 3:36pm CST
What do you count as a true friend?
A true friend to me is someone who sticks up for you when your in trouble, talks to you and trys to make you happy when your upset/down, keeps in contact with you no matter what.
I have a surposed friend who talks to me when they want to and ignore me if they can't be bothered, they now have a boyfriend all they do is see their boyfriend and ignore everyone else. They say they are busy and don't even have enough time to meet me for a few hours. I haven't seen her for over a year and she only talks to me on msn once in a month. Its like they don't care about their friends anymore.
I know what its like to be busy because i have a son, but i would still have time to meet her.
In your opinion are they a true friend and what would you say a true friend is?
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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26 Jun 07
I thought the person i'm talking about was a true friend until they got a boyfriend and now i don't think they are anymore.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
26 Jun 07
That is one of my pet hates my friend, as soon as a friend finds a partner then all their friends are forgotten, it's like they burn their bridges and don't have the time, well to be honest they are not real friends, this so called friend of yours is fairweathered and I would call her an acquaintance she doesn't deserved to be classed as a 'friend' Friendship for me is platignum we help each other both on and off line, respect, loyalty and communication on both sides is what friendship is all about my friend! Respect.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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26 Jun 07
Your right there, i keep trying to talk to them, but at times i think "why do i bother" because i don't get any answer from them most of the time its just "hi i'm checking my emails then i'm going".
Maybe i should just not talk to them and see if they come talking to me.
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
26 Jun 07
In order to be a friend you have to be able to make time for your friends, obviously you are a friend to her, but she is not with you, I have friends like this in the past, they are very on-sided and only call you when they need something, to me this is not a friend. A friend is there when you need them and when you don't, you don't have to call them, cause they call you, they are there offering their friendship to you, not telling you they are too busy, good friends these days are very hard to find. I know I only have a few!
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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26 Jun 07
I try to be a good friend to all my friends, even though i am busy looking after my son, i manage to find time to see them even if i means taking him with me.
I only have a few true friends too.
@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
22 Aug 07
A true friend is someone who takes the time to TRULY know who you are... and still love you in spite of yourself.
A true friend is there for you when you need it - and that could be a shoulder to cry on, a place to crash, someone to celebrate with, as well as someone who will give you a swift kick in the rear when you need it. That's what I think.
A little joke from my husband: A friend helps you move, a REAL friend helps you move bodies.
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
22 Aug 07
a true friend never leave you... they are the candles that light us in times of darkness, a shoulder to lean on, a person who can make you laugh when you're sad and turns you up when youre down... eventhough you're too far from them, you still can feel thier presence... theyre always be there for through good and bad times...
thats what a true friends mean to me
@jingbautista (2456)
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
true friends, hmm, it is hard to find one nowadays. it is hard because there are a lot to do and things to be done. anyways, in response to your question, well, i guess they are still friedns, but is not that high degreed friend. do you get what i mean? well, life is not constant. our true friends today may not be the same tomorrow because there are a lot of persons also that would eventually come into our lives. but if both parties had made a covenant with each other, no matter what happens or how many were the people around, for me the two will still remain and becoe friends and real friends for a lifetime....
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
27 Jun 07
True friendship - It is an identity of souls rarely to be found in this world. How can two persons be of the same mind (in the strict sense of the term) in all respects.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
27 Jun 07
Your friends may truly be busy and does not know how to cherish ties. I was in such a position once where I have eyes only for one and forgot about my other friends. I only realised how foolish I have been when I need my friends for their comfort and shoulders. It was lucky that I still have friends who see it coming and are ever ready to give me the necessary support. These are what I call true friends. My definition of a true friend is one who gives in to you despite your tantrums, yet does not get angry even when you try to sabotage him. He has no expectations of you despite what he has given.
@kampo90 (289)
• Antarctica
27 Jun 07
a true friend is somone who is there to cath you when you are falling a true friend is somone who has your back and that cant be changed my no man or womean
a ture friend is somone who is around even things are going bad and you may need suport or at least trys to give it even when he sees that you dont want any and are to proud and stuborn to admit it that you need it
wheal that's what a friend means to me but to each his own
@cmsk2005 (1770)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I think similarly as U that a true friend must be always beside u doesn't matter whatever comes on the way. A true friend is someone who doesn't think own benifit before the friendship. Dont be upset though, there are many more friends out there and u will find the true friend one day my friend. If somebody forget u just because of getting other boyfriend then try to avoid them too, they dont take friendship seriously.
@Ashrafm (16)
• Egypt
27 Jun 07
A true friend changes according to every person. But there is one thing a true friend must have LOYALTY. What i mean by loyalty is that he/she must be loyal to this friendship by taking care, loving, being next to you in hard times, forgiving and above all being there for you everytime!
@Fazeena (19)
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27 Jun 07
According to me a true friend must be trustful.. The basis of friendship is tust,love n faith in each other. A true friend should always be the better half of us..whatever situations we r to face..we should have a feeling that our friend will be always with us and that we r not left alone. A true friend should have all the right on us--to point our mistakes when v r wrong and praise wen v r correct..a friend should not have a dual character and fraud.A friend should never be selfish.
@AngKrby823 (30)
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27 Jun 07
I have hd a best friend for 9 years now. We used to spend everyday and every weekend together. She got married and had a baby. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and have 2 kids with him. We talk on the phone almost every day. But we don't hang out anymore and she has other friends that she goes out with. So we've grown apart alot since we've got our own families. I do think it's not right that your friend only talks to you once a month sounds to me that she wants you in her conveinice. True friends don't do that.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
True friend is someone who don't judge you no matter what your flaws or weaknesses are. It is a matter of accepting all of you. It doesn't matter if we were not able to see nor talk with each other for days or weeks. I don't even need to scream their names whenever I need them. They are just right there behind me ready to save me.
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
27 Jun 07
A true friend is a person that knows all of your negative and positive sides and still wants to be connected to you.
A true friend is a person that does not judge you or pitty you, just disagree with you from time to time about different things. :)
Atrue friend is a person that you love as a person, and that loves you the same.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
27 Jun 07
You are right.
A true friend is one who stands by you no matter what. This person will not despise or abandon you when you are down.
You know true friends when you see them.
@navtech (1773)
• India
27 Jun 07
Hi, I have 4 friends. Two of them staying in the same city where I live. Other 3 are in different cities. From the heart we knew we are all friends. We talk to each once in a month or so. In case any friend need any help we all will be there to help him. The help may be of any sort. The beauty of our friendship is we never talk to each other unnecessarily. We talk to each other once in while. As said above, from the heart we all knew we are frinds. Recently when I was in office, call came from my friend in another city that he had some problem. When I reached his place, to my astonishment, I found all friends there. We got the problem sorted out. We went back to our places. I think this is called friendship.
@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
for me a true FRIEND is someone whos great to have around. someone who laughs at my jokes maybe because we have the same warped sense of humor lol ;) someone whos there for me in the exact same way that i'll always be there for her :)
