On a rebound

let's put it this way. i said it in another forum before. a romantic relationship between two people is just that. between two people. why should one be bothered what others say? when i got together with my hubby a lot of people say we should take it slow, not jump nature and let nature take its course. as far as we are concerned, we go at a pace WE are comfortable with, not what others are comfortable with. they are not in the relationship, plus they dont really have the right to comment on 'rules' cause there are no rules when it comes to love and matters of the heart. what works for one may not work for the other. the most important thing is, what works for the two involved. that is all that matters. i can say rebound is good/bad/right/wrong, but that is in my opinion. it may differ from yours so dont let anyone tell you what you should do. what u need to do is to look at things objectively from outside the box and decide what is best for you. it is hard when one is involved emotionally and you have to battle what you should do and what you wanna do. just gonna weigh things out for your own sake and for the other. hurting people intentionally is wrong. that much i would say. i wouldnt like someone to come into my life and hurt me intentionally. i personally feel it is best to go onto a new relationship when there is closure to the former one and you are able to let it go and start anew with someone. if you start getting confused if you should or shouldnt do this and that, good chance you are not ready to embark on something like a commited relationship. it is a good indication but it is not an absolute indication. again, what works for me may not work for you. weigh it out for yourself and for the other party. lastly... make a choice and decision and never look back. go forward but not look back and wonder if what you decided was right or wrong etc. no point regretting when you should be working on something more productive as it may be impossible to change something that is in the past tense.