A women married for 20 years finds out her husband is GAY
By AcousticSoul
@AcousticSoul (1309)
United States
June 26, 2007 6:44pm CST
After 20 years of marriage you would think your marriage is some what secure right... well I was doing a paper for school and my topic was men on the Downlow and a womens scorn...
there has been many complaints about how men now-a-days are married to women but sleeping with men...
I came across a very sad story
A women met a man in college whom she fell in love with and married some years later... he was her all... being that she was a lawyer and her husband was a laywer she never imagined he would do such a thing...
she noticed that he was gone more than he had to be and things were just slowly changing so she decided she was going to do some investigating...
after 20 years of marriage you would think nothing was going on and the love was stronger than ever NOT come to find out while they were in College her husband met a guy and fell in love with him but because he didn't want to dissapoint his family he married her to cover up his Gayness so after 20 years of cheating with this man his wife discovers his ungodly truths...
for twenty years he has been sleeping with another man....
but thats not the bad part of it after she dicovers he was cheating on her with another man for twenty years(because he confessed after the detective caught them together) the wife immediately decided to get a STD test done....
thats when she found out SHE HAD HIV....
oh how scary... none of her kids have it nor did the man he was sleeping with had it but her and her husband did... come to find out her husband was sleeping around with other men....
and she decided to stay with him and work it out....
OH MY... I would have left, what would you have done....
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7 responses
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I don't know its crazy... I mean I can't really blame her for staying but then I can... I know marriage is for better or worst but this is the worst of them all....Im not sure if she is being brave or stupid... and the bad part of it is its going to be hard for the both of them to move on to different relationships, and their kids will have to grow up knowing what their daddy did and how it affected their mother....
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Yeah I think after so many years of trusting this man, and finding out he was a totally different person would have made me nuts... I may have hurt him in the worst way physically.... LOL and now her life is over in a sense its going to take a hell of a women to over come this...
@cuddleme01 (2725)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
oh poor woman. I bet it hurts a lot to know that your husband is gay. After all 20years is very long. but looking at the bright side, at least she gets to know the whole truth, and gladly none of her children got the HIV. But if i were in her position, i might give my husband a chance for our children's sake. If things will work out well for us, then great, if not, then there is no option left but to part ways.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
27 Jun 07
OMG and she stayed after all of that? Ummm I don't think I could of!20 years of betrayal and Aids to top it off?!? no thank you, sorry to say, Ugh i can't believe something like this has happened!
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
27 Jun 07
My thoughts as well... why would you stay unless you are crazy... maybe she did it for the kids I don't know its just unfortunate
@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I think people sometimes suspect or know these things, but they are just too painful to face the reality. She obviously knew he was cheating and she may have even suspected that he wasn't cheating on her with another woman. It's just too bad that there are people in this world who insist on living a lie and drag their loved ones down with them. This is not the first time I've heard a story like this and it probably won't be the last.
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
27 Jun 07
your right I think most women have the ability to detect the obvious but chooses to ignore it because they feel they have something to loose.... I just don't think she new it was a man,.... now that's a shocker here you got a heterosexuall man undercoverly Gay.... its just so hard to believe....
and yes I read many stories like this but her's hit me right on the nose...
@FSCAries (881)
• United States
27 Jun 07
That is atrocious and deplorable. It's bad enough that the guy had no respect for his marriage but to have been sleeping around with several men and bring an STD as severe as HIV home to his wife... THEN FOR HER TO STAY WITH HIM??? I don't know if she just felt hopeless since she already had the disease anyway, but I'm afraid I wouldn't just have to leave him, I'd probably have to kill him.
@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I think that i would of left and never looked back. He was gay and he will always be gay and how was that going to change. I am happy that the kids didnt have HIV, so i wonder if her thinking of stating with him was becasue they both had the disease and still could be together without worring about passing it on to someone else.
