Long term but long distance or short term but short distance?

Long term but long distance and short term but short distance, if I must choose one of them, I will choose the former . I think long term love is always good, no matter how long distance between us . I know the distance might take our love aways from us, but if you really love someone, the distance is not a problem . if you really someone, you can miss him/her everyday, even if he/she is not around you . I ever read a story book , there is a couple who live in different city for more than 20 years ,and the man only see his wife for several times . the wife is a very beautiful woman, and there are some one ask her :" you live in the different city, so long distance,( actually in different country),will you feel lonely ?" then she answered :" missing never stop, so I can meet him in my dream everyday. 20 years is like 1 year, and I always feel he is around me ." at last, they stay together and have a good life. I really love this story . and I think people can depart due to long distance, just because they don't have so honest love. however, if I can choose, I will choose long term, and short distance.

Well thhat is my current situation and i have chosed the person i know is going to be with me hopefully forevr, however, he is pretty far away from me..But I still Love Him and these distance between us doesnt matter..

Defenetly the long term. I hate short relationships.

I usually don't fair well in long distance relationships. It seems painful to me to yearn to see someone I love more often. I prefer to see my Beau often..I am a bit needy in that sense. The strength of the conviction is the determining factor, not time nor distance on whether to tie the knot or not.

both long or short as long as its serious and both of us are willing to settle down and have a family... i wish for it pretty soon :)

I'd prefer the short-term, to be honest. I've tried long term relationships, and they just hurt, a lot. You never actually get to touch your partner or anything. It sucks. I'd much rather be in a short term relationship, if only just to figure out more about the guy I'm with.

me and my boyfriend is now on a long distance relationship... he might be waiting for my return for about 5-6 years.... we used to see each other everyday and now that im so far from him... its very difficult to assume things i am not so sure... im giving my full trust on him even if i know what it takes. i might be wasting my 5 or even 6 years on someone who might not love me... but then, that's the real meaning of love...isnt it? sometimes... true love shows if you are loving someone who doesnt love you... i dont mean i have to hold him and wont let him free of doing things that could make him happy...what im trying to say is... risking a part of my life is one of my ways to show how deep i love him. he doesnt have to love me... i dont need any return on what i give. hmp... i guess my boyfriend feels the same way... actually he's the one who thaught me all about this. im glad i have someone like him... wish me to have a long term and worthy realationship... thanks...

hello, maelyn! I really can't say which of the two choices you have will determine if you already know the person enough to tie the knot. What matters is really how the two of you will handle the situation. Like me, I was with my ex-husband for 22 years and we still separated due to some indifferences. I thought we knew each other very well and that we will be together for the rest of our lives. On the contrary, we still can't understand each other in one way or the other because we cannot change the person we like them to be. Once we tie the knot, we should be determined to accept the person and stick to each other not finding faults for one's misgivings. Right now, I'm with somebody else who is far away from me coz he works in the middle east. We see each other one month every year and I guess we're making good at this arrangement. I suggest we don't expect too much from each other to avoid disappointment.

Regardless the time-frame, long term or short term. Indeed for me, it would be best for the short-distance affairs, because you get to know the real person as he is. Yes, people do say that long-distance love affairs, do work but up to what degree? I mean, you are fond of each other online or whatever medium, but will you still be compatible beside each other when the online romance ends? At least if it's online, you just turn off the computer and the attachment ends, but in real life, you can't turn off anyone if you don't want to see or talk to them. I have tried online things before, but nothing worked out. It's really different if you really get to hold the person's hands and just sit with him there without talking (or typing for the matter) and know that the love is true. Just my cents.