Is there such a thing as a perfect partner?
By mari_skye
@mari_skye (1637)
Philippines
June 27, 2007 12:15am CST
"A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my
leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television.""
The foregoing was sent by a friend. The whole email talked about relationships. But I got struck by that particular story because not was it only funny, it was perfectly true. I have heard friends and acquaintances wanting to meet their man. And when they list down the qualities that they want, it is always a long list of good qualities that is impossible to find in just one man.
Do you think there is such a man/woman who has all the qualities you admire?
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22 responses
@maiax2k6 (535)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
no there is no such thing. as there is no perfect man or woman, as you yourself are not perfect as i am not. if you come looking for it, it won't come, it isn't around in existence at whatever, wherever, whenever. there may be somebody that will be close to what is suitable for you at one moment and you have to make the most out if it if it comes around. relationship is work, it's a job, where you keep on updating with each other's changes. and the chages in the different levels of our lives are maybe somehow, geared towards our definition of 'perfection', but it will never absolutely arrive there in its true essence. we keep on looking for something or someone that is not there. perfection is a state of mind. what is perfect for you is only limited to that definition.
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I believe so too. There is no such thing as a perfect man/woman. Just a perfect man/woman for you. Thanks for sharing.
@maiax2k6 (535)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
thank you for the best response mark. i appreciate that. good luck in your search. :)
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Depends on the person who is in love actually. If one is in love, one could actually find qualities which are not really there or not real at all. It is always easy to love the 'perfect' person but as it is, we always fall in love with the imperfect one. It is along the way that we get to realize that those qualities that we listed doesn't matter at all in the end because sometimes we just fall in love despite of ones imperfections and end up with that person for the rest of our lives.
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Very well said. Yes, that is what really happens to people. Thanks for sharing.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Jun 07
hi mari,
i feel, a perfect partner is utopia altogether!! there is no such thing called PERFECT and we must accept it for thye better. we cannot have all good qualities endowed in a single person. God doesn't make ppl like that anymore. lol..
my priority, however, would be a good human being that's what matters most at the end of the day.
thanx mari.
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
You are so correct. If we were all perfect we won't be able to appreciate each other then. So I guess, imperfection does serve a higher purpose:P Thanks for sharing.
@desertking1981 (455)
• India
7 Jul 07
As it is said that no one is perfect.Hence it is not possible to find all qualities in the same person.
If a person want all qualities in his/her spouse then he/she had to talk with him/herself that is this qualities is present in him/her.I think it is impossible in this world to find a spouse who had all the qualities.Because your spouse is a human being not a god. He/she also do mistakes as u and he is also behave just like u.
I think if u want a better spouse then first of all make yourself more better then you deserve better one in your life otherwise it is just fake to want more from others which you don't have.
@BORICUAMOM (55)
• United States
8 Jul 07
no, there is no such thing as perfect partner n never will b,,that's right your partner is only a human being not a god n the only person that ever created is god lord jesus christ.
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
a perfect partner for me is having good qualities that i want..i know in one man he has not all good qualities on him but the most important for me is the love, we respect each other, we have patients to all of our changes, have trust of course..and making the relationship perfect is that you are happy living together and you understand each other..
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Yes, that really paints a "perfect" relationship. One that is perfect at least for both of you. Thanks for sharing.
@gloria777 (1674)
• India
28 Jun 07
When there is no Perfect human, then how do we think about a perfect partner. No one is perfect in this world. But all human wants to be perfect & thats why they look for perfect partner.
@vasimb (244)
• India
7 Jul 07
No i dont think that you can get all the good qualities in a single man/woman. There will some bad habbits besides the good one. We have to accept some of the bad habbits of them. You can get some of the good qualties but not all of them...i believe.
Even we also have some kind of bad qualities or we lack some of the good qualities so how can we accept all the good qualities from others. I mean we have to look it up first at overselves than we should accept the samething from others. If we are only lacking that thing then we dont have any right to accept such a thing from others.
I think you have got my point. ^_^
@_tjabele_ (26)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Ehh idk me and my gf have a really good relationship like never fight but i wouldnt call it perfect nothing is perfect.
@AbsentStare (179)
• Australia
28 Jun 07
I think people put too much thought into the type of perfect partner they want, and it causes them to overlook some great people!
/my husband and I started dating when I was 15 years old. I am now 31, and we have been married for 7 years. I love him with all my heart, but he isn't perfect, neither am I, nobody is! And for that reason, there is no such thing as the *perfect* parter.
My hubby is the ideal partner for me, oour relationship works, we are what each other needs. But we still have our share of ups and downs. We have disagreements, annoyances, and full blown screaming matches occasionally! lol
Fact is, I love him with all my heart and can't imagine living in this world without him.
Perfect? No.
Absolutely fantastically wonderful? Yes :)
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Perfect partner and perfect person are 2 very different entities when you think about it. The perfect partner is someone that blends into your life just perfectly even tho
they themselves are not perfect. Rather than look for a perfect partner we should all strive to BE perfect partners.If more people brought honesty,integrity,and an understanding of and tolerance for the differences and faults in others we'd all be much happier.
@jelani2322 (89)
• United States
28 Jun 07
i think perfect partners are not real we all have our kinks but but their are partners that mesh very well but perfect doesn't exist
@alphabeata (106)
• Philippines
11 Jul 07
I'm sure everyone would love to have one or even kill to find himself a perfect partner. Sadly, no such thing!
Even the most devoted couple aren't capable of meeting each other's needs completely, to begin with, and to be tagged as such. And I believe that one need not be perfect,as no human being can satisfy our soul's deepest needs that God alone can.
@cyb3rjunk13 (470)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Well When we are young, or single. We have these list of things we want to have in our partner. When we get in a relationship with someone, we try to find those qualities Not every one of them but most of them..If that person Loves you and Has some of the qualities you thought of then there you go thats Your perfect Partner. Every one had bad points about them ..it depends on you if their love is strong enough to make you tolerate those points n learn to b Happy with em...
Interesting toppic by the way.
@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
27 Jun 07
No. There's always going to be something that you don't like. Always. If you're looking or waiting for the perfect man, you're going to die waiting. As long he has more good qualities than bad ones, than he just might be a keeper!
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
No there is no such thing as perfect partner as there is no such thing as perfect relationship... but there are people who tried to be perfect for the one they love. Actually the qualities we admire to a person we want to love is the ideal that we hope to have. But a person to love is not like the computer that you can choose what are the specification we want that computer to have. If we love someone it is a package of good and bad... If they love us... then she would try to change to make us happy... there is no assurance that you get all what you want but if you learn to love truly then you will see the imperfection of the that person fitting perfectly to her.
@loverenth (136)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
i don't think there is a perfect partner.. what i do believe in is that there's someone out there who would make your life almost perfect.. i went out with a lot of guys but no one have ever gotten close to perfect.. i don't know this is just my personal opinion.. =)
@VaclavPatera (3)
• Czech Republic
27 Jun 07
Theres no other perfect partner except the only one, but this is mine :-D
